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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, JUNE 7, 2017 FEATURES The help isn’t enough Dear Annie: I feel torn www.caregiver.org or call and guilty that I’m not doing 800-445-8106. Secondly, if you haven’t enough to take care of my mom. My stepdad and I are asked your brother and sis- the only ones taking care of ter to pitch in more by at my mom, who needs daily least visiting on a semi-reg- assistance. I thank the Lord ular basis, now is the time. Perhaps they’ve got- for my stepdad every DEAR ten used to your tak- day. I have a sis- ing care of everything ter and brother, but ANNIE and aren’t aware of they don’t visit often. how extreme the sit- I’ve spent 4 1/2 days uation has gotten. every other week with Tell them that Mom my mom and step- is lonely and would dad since I retired. I love some company. also have a part-time Also, some insurance job. Today when I Lane plans (including some left, Mom asked when Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. Medicare and Medic- I’ll be back. I told aid plans) cover hos- her I’ll be there again in two weeks. She said that pice care, so that’s an option is too long. How do I handle worth exploring. Please know that you are my guilt that I’m not doing doing a great job, and your enough? — Daughter Dear Daughter: The best mom raised a truly compas- way to handle your guilt is to sionate soul. Dear Annie: My parents keep a healthy perspective, knowing that you are doing always told me that if some- your best — and your best one helps you out, you help sounds pretty darn good to that person in return. Some me. As a caretaker, your own people in my family think self-care is extremely import- you should help everyone and ant. For resources to this end, not expect anything in return. visit the Family Caregiver For example, sometimes my Alliance website at https:// brother “Carson” works on our half brother’s car and doesn’t charge him anything. I feel that’s very charitable. Carson just tells him that if he helps him out sometime, he’ll call it even. But if our half brother won’t help do anything, is that right? I feel those types of peo- ple are using people. What are your thoughts? — D.D. Dear D.D.: Lending a helping hand to someone in need is always a good thing, unless the person you are help- ing begins to get your hands dirty. What I mean by that is that if you feel you are being taken advantage of, then you should stop, but if you don’t mind helping, then you should continue. It sounds as if Car- son doesn’t mind helping out your half brother and hopes the favor will be returned one day but also isn’t too con- cerned about ensuring that it’s paid back. That’s a healthy attitude. I’ve found that what goes around truly does come around, though often not in the form we’re expecting. “Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.” — Mother Teresa 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). The fact of the matter is that when things come too easily, they are not enjoyed nearly as much as what was hard-won. Though you’d like to give freely to someone, consider making the exchange slightly more challenging. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Since you’re not 3 years old, you don’t always say what pops into your head. Instead you try to cater your message to your audience. You most adore those around whom you least have to self-censor. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). All that you desire for this day will be accomplished, because you commit, buckle down, and work until it’s finished. “Freedom” isn’t even on your list of values right now, and this will work just fine. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Personal growth and empowerment will involve a bit of scrutiny directed at your inner dialogue. There’s a chance that something you’ve been telling yourself is a falsehood you concocted to protect yourself. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). The science- fiction writer William Gibson suggested that the future is here; it just isn’t widely distributed yet. Nonetheless, you’re on the inside track and you’ll enjoy the technological perks of the elite. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Many religions suggest that the ancestors are always there, ready to help, if we would only call on them. Why wait for a big problem to test the theory? No one will be put out if you ask for help with something small. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Good leaders have clear rules enforced with consistency. People need to know the reward or punishment for each action and they need to believe those conse- quences are every time and for all. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Those who would rather be right than be happy, peaceful or wealthy have definitely fallen prey to the illogic of an out- of-control ego. Your willingness to be wrong isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of health. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Art will imitate life, and life will imitate art to the extent that it might get a little confusing about what’s real and what’s a copy. All you have to do is check in with your heart’s authenticity meter to know. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Amateurs go on about themselves for 10 minutes before bothering to inquire about the other person. Even when you’ve something to vent, you make sure the conversation is balanced — one of the reasons you’re so popular. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). The ego acts in mysterious ways. It can make us feel superior, but it can also persuade us of our inferiority. Both ideas are wrong. If either idea is influencing an action, it’s a sign of ego interference. Pause. Back up. Reassess. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Something rare and a little magical is coming together. This involves people you love and people you will love all showing up at the same time and place to cele- brate. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (June 8). This year you put health and happiness first and are able to achieve more than ever because of this intelli- gent prioritizing. You’ll learn much as a part of a team. There’s a chance to commit to a short-term relationship that you’ll have the option to take long-term later. September and December are the most romantic months this year. Cancer and Leo adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 10, 4, 45, 15 and 26.
