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6A FEATURES Post-divorce brainwashing Dear Annie: We are the children by threatening to kill grandparents of two very pre- herself if they don’t love her cious children. Recently, their enough to do as she says. We parents were divorced after are very, very worried about their mother had an affair with the emotional abuse of our another man and became preg- grandchildren and need advice nant. Our son is trying to get on how to get help for them. No child should ever shared residential cus- DEAR have to deal with this tody, but the judge at stress and fear. Would their hearing believed ANNIE you please help us? — the false statements of Worried Times Two the children’s mother Dear Worried and ruled in her favor. Times Two: Divorce We have often won- is never pleasant, but dered how judges can this transgresses the tell who is lying and normal divorce and who is telling the truth, Lane custody battle woes. and we now know the Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. I’m also concerned answer: They can’t. about your grandchil- The case is heading to the state Supreme Court next dren, and you may be right that they’re suffering from emo- month. It is very evident that our tional abuse. Call Childhelp at son’s ex-wife has been teaching 800-422-4453. Dear Annie: This is in our grandchildren to hate both their dad and us. They won’t response to “Mystified in openly speak to us or show Miami,” who was wondering any recognition of us in public. why the gentleman she’d been They barely acknowledge their seeing for two months hadn’t own father when their mom is yet offered to drive anywhere. around. She has told our son It seems to me she was over- and us (even in front of other thinking it. When my late hus- people) that the children hate band and I started dating, he us. We have recently discov- arrived in a taxi because he did ered that she is controlling the not drive. I soon said, “This is THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, MAY 24, 2017 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. silly. I have a perfectly good car, and I don’t mind driving.” So he agreed. He never drove, because he just felt uncom- fortable. As a young man, he owned a car, worked on it and serviced it, but he always called a friend to drive. We went wherever we desired, with me at the wheel, and had 51 glorious years together. He was thoughtful, loving and kind, and I would have missed a beautiful mar- ried life with him if I had been hung up on the fact that he did not drive. I wonder whether “Mystified in Miami” is embar- rassed or more concerned over what her friends will think. I would give all I have to be able to drive him anywhere again. — A Willing Chauffer Dear Willing: I’m sorry for your loss, but what a lovely 51 years you shared. Though you weren’t seek- ing advice, I should mention that for anyone else reading this who is afraid of or uncom- fortable with driving, there are treatments available. Speak to a therapist about methods for coping with and overcoming driving anxiety. ARIES (March 21-April 19). What you want is for the project to succeed. You don’t necessarily want to be the one in charge, but if you don’t lead today, you might run into trouble. Leadership isn’t about asserting your power so much as it’s about executing a plan. sary. What you would be trying to find is what you already are. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You’ll find that what you like or dislike doesn’t matter much in the scheme of the day, so you may as well save your breath and mental energy and go with the flow (as opposed to judging the flow). SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You’ll take part in an activity that seems to pause every- thing in your own life so you can watch the universe breathing. How can you get more of this phenomenon? You need this in your day to day. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). The more you understand, the less you blame. However, that doesn’t mean that things don’t need to be structured differently (and perhaps with different people involved) to create a better outcome. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). The way you feel about a certain someone makes it easy for you to think of this person’s wants and needs without knowing or caring in the least what you’ll get out of the deal. It’s love! CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Regarding relationships: It’s true that things aren’t the same as they used to be. There’s beauty and joy in this. Leo Tolstoy said, “Each time of life has its own kind of love.” CANCER (June 22-July 22). Your mood can be as changeable as the moon that rules your sign, although only a fellow Cancer can tell now, because you’re also good at hiding how you’re really feeling. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Without the looking glass, we cannot see the entirety of how we look on the outside. We need mirrors to reflect back our insides, too. An objective friend will serve this purpose for you today. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The more comfort- able and happy you are in your home, the more attractive it becomes to the people who like you. In fact, the whole group may want to meet up at your place. Are you ready for an impromptu party? PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). There’s a bit of entertainment to pull off today, but this is not really fun and games. After all, if you want to influence people for any purpose, you have to be able to hold their attention first. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). There are those who would rather act aloof than risk being rejected by you. But when you come forward warmly, time and again, even the most self-conscious person will drop the defense eventually. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You know more about yourself than you think you do, so the whole self-discovery thing is really unneces- FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (May 25). You’re full of energy now, but something will happen in August to induce the calm and focused quality necessary for you to succeed in a very competitive arena. September will ex- ceed your expectations, especially in matters of love. Save your money. The worthy invest- ment won’t come until March 2018. Cancer and Aries adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 20, 33, 13, 1 and 40.
