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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, MAY 10, 2017 FEATURES Time with grandchildren Dear Annie: My three chil- When she’s talking to my daugh- dren are all grown and married ters and I try to join in the conver- and are in their early to mid-30s. sation, I am ignored, even though They have three children among I’m careful not to interrupt. This them, ages 14 years, 10 years and happens every time. At my child’s birthday party 1 month. When I first got married, this week, I had to wait my turn to hold my 1-month- many years ago, my par- DEAR old granddaughter. My ents hounded me con- mother brought her to me stantly about when I ANNIE telling me that I shouldn’t was going to make them walk while holding her. grandparents. Sadly, after Then she stood over me I had my three children, the entire three minutes I they were “too busy” for got to hold her. I told my my children, just as they daughter that I wanted had been “too busy” for a picture of me holding my siblings and me. My Lane the baby, as I hadn’t got- mother was notorious for Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. ten one yet. So one of my making “dates” with my kids took one, and yes, kids that she didn’t keep. Later, my parents did do a lot with my mother even stood right over my youngest child, but not with me with her face over my shoul- the other two, who were teenag- der when the photo was taken, ers by then. This caused a lot of and then she promptly took my granddaughter back from me. hurt feelings. It’s impossible to say any- Now that I am a grandmother, anytime we have holiday and thing to my mother because she birthday gatherings (which are the has an unreasonable temper. But only times we all get together), I this is my grandchild! My mom is feel as if my mother takes over very close to my youngest child my children and grandchildren and my brother’s youngest child — as if she were their mother and and has spent a great deal of time grandmother. She even calls her- with them their entire lives, so it’s self “Grandma-Grandma”! She not that she hasn’t gotten to be a acts as if I am not even there. grandmother. 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. I’m not sure you can help me, but could you at least tell me that she is overstepping her boundar- ies and I have a right to feel hurt? — Just Wanting to Be Grandma Dear Just: Of course you have a right to feel hurt. But sim- ply sitting with those hurt feel- ings does nothing for you or your relationship with your family. If talking to your mother about how you feel isn’t a realistic option because she has a volatile temper, then talk to your children. They can help include you in conver- sations, ensure you have enough time holding the grandchildren and serve as moderators. Even if your mother is on your last nerve, it’s rare and wonderful that four generations get to spend time together. Dear Annie: In response to “Crybaby,” who is embarrassed by how easily she cries, I always keep a pack of gum nearby. Even a little piece of gum helps me stay calm in emotional situations. Just use half a stick, and don’t chomp on it. That way, you don’t look unprofessional. I have shared this tip many times with women when they have to talk to their bosses, and it has helped them. — Under Control ARIES (March 21-April 19). You keep stepping forward, sometimes slowly, sometimes quickly, but ever forward. As long as you don’t stop, you’ll eventually get there. Persistence will win out. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Your charms are working today, perhaps even better than the other kinds of intelligence you were born with. If you’re not giving the perfectly correct answers, you’re giving entertaining ones. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). If home is where the heart is, yours isn’t so much an actual place these days. Rather, it’s a circle of people you give your love to. Your affection is abundant, your efforts selfless, your attention addictive. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). With cre- ativity you will solve the problems that can’t be solved with money or might. The trick to getting into a creative mindset is in freeing your mind from the perception of boundaries. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). What you need to learn now can’t be studied; it must be observed. As you watch those who have the quality you want to attain (quietly, without judgment) you’ll pick it up, as if by osmosis. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). The outcome you desire will be achieved through persuasion — but if your subject feels manipulated, the effect will be lost. Effective persuasion hinges on attraction, which you should build first and foremost. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You’ve loved and lost, but worse than that, you’ve loved and not had that love returned. These are the rites of passage that all great lovers experience. Be proud of the scars on your heart. They’ve made you extraordinary. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). When a baby cries in public, any mother within earshot is activated to care and act. This is how a soul’s cry is to you, except the soul’s cry can’t be heard with your ears. You hear it with your heart, and your heart reaches to respond. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Success is pretty simple. Not easy, but simple. Essentially, break the big goals down to small chunks and get to work. Also, a mentor will significantly help your chances. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You’re a true friend and a stellar partner, which you’ll prove in to- day’s interactions. If you feel pressured to prove this too often, consider that the relationship may be unbalanced, and think about how you might restore equipoise. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’ll plan your day well, although it may seem that there’s a distraction monkey on your shoulder ready to bail on any task that doesn’t promise instant gratification. If you’re to achieve your goal, he must be ignored. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). One small ges- ture will be the start of something consequen- tial. The initiation move will have the kind of domino effect that people make videos about, the collapsing pieces spiraling in an intricate design. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (May 11). This year is marked by a sense of stability. In rela- tionships and in your projects, stability is the guiding tenet. Turmoil gets settled; injustice is made right. July through September represents a thriving time for your family. August is for adventuring. Be a little selfish, because your happiness will benefit all. The Gemini and Libra adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 13, 19, 1, 44 and 11.
