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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, MAY 1, 2017 FEATURES Should Dad be invited? Dear Annie: My 17-year- ets — only five — I would rather old son will be graduating soon, have my mom and my brother’s and the question is: Does Dad get family of three use the tickets, as invited? My son’s father moved they have all been the supportive back to the area in the past year, people in my son’s life. Is there but they have had contact only an obligation to Dad? — Proud about three times, mostly because Momma my son does not answer Dear Proud: There DEAR his dad’s texts or calls. a few milestones large My ex had moved enough for us to see ANNIE when we zoom way out away in a hurry after he was caught stealing from from our own lives and look at the bigger pic- his only friend and room- ture — weddings, births, mate. Once he left town, funerals and graduations he was also caught steal- chief among them. This ing from his own father is a big deal for your son. and stepmother. Lane It is his day. I would ask I used to hide these Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. your son his thoughts on indiscretions from my whether he wants his dad child, but now that he is older, I’ve had to be truth- there. As long as there’s no risk ful with him, especially when of his dad’s disrupting the cel- I was recently concerned that ebration, I would lean toward his father might try to come get allowing him to come if your son him from school without permis- wishes. Having your mother and sion. Because his dad has men- tal illness diagnoses, people do brother there (along with one not press charges or he some- other member of his family) how manages to get himself out would be great and helpful, too. of sticky situations. I’m not even The more support for your son really sure what’s going on with the better. If your ex comes to the him, as I have stopped concern- ceremony, you need not invite ing myself with his many issues. him to celebrate afterward if you So, with graduation around the would be uncomfortable with it or corner and a finite number of tick- feel it might be too much. A hug and a thank-you would suffice. Dear Annie: The recent let- ter you received from “Finally Sleeping,” about the difficul- ties of fibromyalgia, has saved my body. Within a period of two years, I had three back opera- tions that had to be performed by a neurosurgeon. Because of spi- nal cord issues, I suffer from per- manent nerve damage and devel- oped neuropathy and a condition called complex regional pain syndrome. Our mattress, which is a Tempur-Pedic, can be very cold, and every morning when I would wake up, I felt as if a truck had run over me. It would take at least an hour for my body to adjust. Thanks to “Finally Sleep- ing,” my problem was solved: I got a heated mattress pad. I fig- ured that if it helps her to sleep, it might help me feel better in the morning. And it has changed my world. So kudos and many thanks to “Finally Sleeping”! — Morn- ings Are Better in PA Dear Mornings: I print read- ers’ stories and solutions in this column with the hope that they help at least one person out there, and you’re living proof. That is wonderful. Thank you for shar- ing, and keep sleeping soundly. 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). When the sounds, sights and tastes that speak to your heart and body are the very same as anoth- er person’s this builds a sense of belonging, comfort and kinship. You can have love with- out such commonalities, just not as quickly. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You don’t need to forgive anyone or be forgiven for anything. This is a day to accept the way it is and build from here without rehashing or giving any focus at all to the way things were before. This is now. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Everyone loves a pretty package. In today’s instance, such a promise will intrigue and attract many. You’ll be drawn in just like the others. But you won’t stay “in” if there’s nothing compelling inside. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Sometimes the unaccepted and seemingly unacceptable thing is the truer thing. You’re willing to look at it without taking offense or being astonished. The majority isn’t always (or even often) right. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). This electric energy that buzzes in your body when you engage with an exciting idea or pursuit is evanescent — but very real. So act on it while the sensa- tion is alive in you! Otherwise you’ll miss out. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). While you admire those with the means and taste to cultivate exceptional collections, you will be more moved by those with a knack for beau- tifully cultivating the ordinary, elevating what is truly unexceptional. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). What you face today is not a difficult situation, and perhaps that’s the problem. Challenge engages you. Create your own secret goal for the situation. That will help you wholeheartedly step into FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE the game. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You have so much love to give, and today it radiates from you in many forms, including the words of encouragement you lend, your friendly smile and your other smile — the one with all the mischief in it. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You must fulfill your duty precisely today. If you do more than your duty, it’s interference, and it could upset the balance and undermine others. And of course you never want to do less than your duty. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). The obstacles of the day will not be big dull rocks in the path. They are living decision-makers, and they are not stupid. They will yield to influence, persuasion and also stern resolve. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’ve a kind, soft heart. However, today it will be very wise for you to avoid getting mixed up with the chronically unlucky types who are perpetual victims and bottomless pits of need. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’ll be so attracted to the person who exhibits opposite qualities from yours — the “yin” to your “yang” or vice versa. You’ll swirl together and help one another roll along. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (May 2). Your identity will shift this solar return. You no lon- ger relate to certain pursuits; other interests will outshine them. Craving the community of like minds, new involvements will change your schedule and your priorities. Your enthu- siasm for a team will be highlighted in June and will lead to a subsequent quest. Aries and Aquarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 28, 9, 30, 22 and 18.