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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, APRIL 28, 2017 FEATURES Couple’s thrill is gone Dear Annie: My wife’s important to discuss the for- sexual desire disappeared with mer before getting into medic- menopause, although there inal treatments. Is she stressed was little desire even before about work or finances? How then. I still like, need and is your marriage outside the enjoy sex. We have had many bedroom? How does she feel discussions about this conflict about your sex life? For more insights, check out between us but have DEAR “Wanting Sex Again: been unable to resolve How to Rediscover it on our own. Appar- ANNIE Your Desire and Heal ently, one of us will a Sexless Marriage,” be unhappy about the by marriage coun- outcome regardless of selor and certified what we do. My ques- sex therapist Laurie tion is: What do your Watson. readers do to resolve Lastly, if you hav- this conflict so that Lane en’t done so already, they and their spouses Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. consider seeing a stay together? Do marriage counselor. you have any recom- mendations? It is my strong With good communication, impression that many mar- you and your wife could work riages suffer from the same through this together, just as you’ve worked through count- conflict. — Still Interested Dear Still: Though less issues over the years. Be there’s no “right” frequency patient. Dear Annie: This is in with which all married cou- ples should be having sex, response to “Daughter in Dis- it’s important that both part- tress” and anyone who is con- ners feel fulfilled. There are cerned because a parent is in a a number of possible reasons nursing home and keeps ask- your wife has lost interest in ing to go home. Please listen recent years. The factors that to my experience. My beloved mother suf- influence sex drive range from psychological to physical. It’s fered from gradually progres- sive dementia for the last 10 years of her life. Because of our circumstances, she was able to get care from us in her own home, but still she used to plead, “I want to go home.” A very kind caregiver explained to me that what she meant was she wanted to go back to a better time, not a dif- ferent place. This realization has come to me fully, as I still mourn the loss of my par- ents and my husband and find myself crying out, “Please take me home. I want to go home.” I want to go back to the emotional comfort of ear- lier times, not to a different place. People should not ever feel guilty when they place their aging loved ones in well-run, caring facilities to optimize their care. — From a Differ- ent Perspective Dear Different: What a beautiful, insightful and heartbreaking letter. I’m so sorry for your loss. I appre- ciate your reaching out even in your grief, as I’m sure your words will resonate with many readers. 3C TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). It’s said that nothing worth having comes easily. Of course that’s not true. People luck into easy, worth- while things all the time. Wise people know to appreciate such good fortune. You’ll be such a person today. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). If you’re disap- pointed in the actions of those around you, just know that their perceptions are very different from yours. They are only acting on what they know. Perhaps you can educate them. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Your mojo comes and your mojo goes. You can ingratiate that special charisma to stick around with you, but you can’t totally control it. Be your own best friend regardless of how popular you seem to be at the minute. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You’ll enjoy work- ing on your personal style. It could mean add- ing new words to your lexicon, spiffing up your wardrobe or getting your domestic life running in a more organized and/or elegant way. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). One of your talents is dealing deftly with people who others find difficult. You’ve a way of bringing out the best in others, perhaps because you really see some- thing to love in practically everyone. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Once you know that you’re perfectly fine on your own, you can enjoy circumstances for what they truly are instead of using any pursuit or person as a means of escape. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). It’s time to break a certain pattern that once served you well and has since gotten stale. This most likely involves another person. The interruption will add ener- gy to your day, peace to your night. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Today, people will take your lead about what to think about you. When you feel great about who you are and what’s going down, they’ll accept it without question. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). The one who is flirting with you may have ulterior motives, but those reasons are likely not the only reason for the extra attention. You are, after all, fun to flirt with! CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Many relation- ships don’t start off with a lot of reciprocity. It may take a while for the mutual feelings to start flowing. One-sided interest is perfectly accept- able for a while until a solid dynamic starts to take form. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). If today were a slot machine it would be coming up all sevens: only, the payout isn’t in coins; it’s in fortuitous connections. Seize the opportunities. This type of luck doesn’t come along very often. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). One thought leads to the next and the next. It’s a mental chain that you’d do well to break. No one else is bringing up your past mistakes, so you should let them go, too. Distract yourself with adven- turous fun. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (April 29). Far- fetched dreams will come true this year. What happens over the next 10 weeks turns you into the boss or another kind of powerful figure. Use your talent for sensing people’s strengths, and assign tasks accordingly. You’ll like the turn your personal life takes in June. August will bless your family. Capricorn and Aquarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 7, 19, 44, 38 and 11.