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6A FEATURES Facing a tough deal breaker Dear Annie: After a series of, can determine what your own per- let’s just say, not-so-nice relation- sonal deal breakers are, as they’re ships, my best friend and old college different for everyone. But if you’re roomie set me up with a girl from at all willing to consider having his hometown named “Stephanie.” more children, perhaps you and I’ve never believed in love at first Stephanie could meet right in the sight, but this was pretty close. We middle and settle on having three. And if you can diplomati- hit it off and have a ton in DEAR cally reach such an import- common. A year and a half ant agreement, you and later and we’re engaged. ANNIE Stephanie have the stuff of I’m excited to make Steph- a strong partnership. Com- anie my wife. promise and marriage go We decided to go to a together like a horse and premarriage retreat through carriage — and that’s a our church. During the good thing. Two hearts and retreat, the leaders ask you minds working together all sorts of questions about Lane are better than one. your plans for the future. Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. Dear Annie: I’m writ- We were compatible on ing in response to the let- all the major answers — except for one. “How many chil- ter from “Feeling So Bad,” who wrote about the death of her friend dren would you like to have?” I wrote that one or two would “Marie.” She was angry that be nice; she wrote five! When we Marie’s husband, “Bill,” didn’t pro- went back into our room to discuss, vide updates about Marie’s health she explained how she came from or inform neighbors of her death. I am sorry that “Feeling So Bad” a small family and always dreamed of having a bigger family. Well, I lost her friend, but it appears that came from a large family and never her only contact with Marie or Bill felt that I got enough attention, so was by phone. I guess she never I have always wanted to have just took over a casserole that Bill could one child — two at the most. Is this have heated up for dinner. I guess problem a deal breaker for our rela- she never stopped by and offered to stay with Marie so that Bill could tionship? — Apprehensive Dear Apprehensive: Only you get out of the house to run errands, take a walk, go to a movie — any- thing to give him some relief from the constant and often overwhelm- ing needs of his wife. Do you know that the stress of being a caretaker often results in the death of the care- taker before the patient? I feel sorry that “Feeling So Bad” was upset not to get a notice. I expect that Bill, as I did after my husband died of Alz- heimer’s disease, slept for 24 hours. When my husband died, I didn’t care about getting out “notices” to so-called friends. I did call those I knew cared. Sorry, but I’m not sympathetic. Instead of feeling bad, “Feeling So Bad” should feel guilty that she ignored the needs of her friend and hope that next time, she will find time to actually visit and provide assistance. — Sad Experience Dear Sad: I’m sorry for the loss of your husband. And your letter is a good reminder that it’s import- ant to reach out to friends and fam- ily who are grieving, even if we feel awkward or unsure of what to say. However, it seems you’re still hold- ing on to a lot of anger toward peo- ple who weren’t there for you. For your own sake, I would encourage you to try to forgive them. Let go of that anger so you’re free to more fully embrace life. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, MARCH 13, 2017 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). You’ve a suc- cess story to share. Be discerning, though. Certain friends will be too jealous to be genuinely happy for you. It’s obviously less than ideal, but the friendship will be stronger when you’re sensitive to such quirks. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Trust your instincts. They are creative, accurate, attrac- tive, compelling and healthy. Whoever told you that you couldn’t trust your instincts was acting out of self-interest at the time. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You crave the joy that comes from letting go of control. The way to get exciting results is to set boundar- ies and then encourage your crew to go wild within those boundaries. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). From Shakespeare to Disney, the dramatists agree that evil plans are most harmful to the one planning them. All you have to do is mind your own business and the drama will take care of itself. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’re thinking deeper and wider. Don’t be surprised if the people around you do not see the same options that you see. You’ll either show them the way or preserve a special route for yourself. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). While it’s cynical to think that people are being nice in hopes of future favors returned, it’s not altogether wrong today, either. Luckily, the land of politics is one in which you’re well versed. CANCER (June 22-July 22). This is not a zero-sum game. Your success will not come at the expense of anyone else. The cost will be paid by you and you alone. The rewards will go to you, too. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Managing expectations will be a very important part of your day. If you can master this (mainly by under-promising and over-delivering), you’ll wind up a hero. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You’re not lost. You’re just paying attention in a new way, which can be disorienting. Close observa- tion can make the familiar seem unfamiliar. Take breaks. Observation takes energy. It’s harder work than it seems. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). If you down- play your accomplishments, you’ll insinuate doubt in an otherwise neutral mind. If you praise yourself, it will only annoy. For today, you’ll win socially by not discussing yourself at all. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Would happi- ness prevail if not for the current problem? No. The current problem itself is integral to happiness. You’ll derive great satisfaction and pride from solving it. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (March 14). There’s sunshine in your mind this year, and the cheerfulness you feel will touch lives in ways known and unknown to you. Get out of a competition in the early part of this solar return. Compete only with yourself. You’ll accept an honor in May. Contracts favor you in July and October. You’ll cash out in 2018. Gemini and Cancer adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 6, 10, 33, 28 and 45. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). While it would be foolish to aim to make mistakes, it’s equally silly to avoid and fear them. The wise do not aim to live without folly. There will be much to learn in a tidy little mess. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE
