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6A FEATURES Should I stay with deceiver? Dear Annie: I’m torn and hop- to work things out between us. I ing an objective voice will help me love her a lot, and I am really torn up. I don’t feel ready to end things. reach a decision. I recently found out that my girl- Would I be nuts to stay with her? — friend of three years has been see- Aching in My Chest Dear Aching: I’ll answer ing another guy behind my back for the past couple of months. I had your question with another ques- tion: Why do you want to been growing suspicious DEAR stay? If you really see a for some time; she has future with this woman, been distant and has not ANNIE then OK, give her another been physical at all lately. shot. You’d both have to Then the other day, when work together to build a she was in the shower, I strong foundation of hon- snooped through her cell- esty and trust. You’d need phone. I found that she’d to stop snooping on her; been texting with some she’d need to stop giving guy the night before about Lane you reasons to feel as if meeting up at a bar. She Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. you have to snoop. (And had told me she was going if she were to break your out for a girls night. I immediately confronted her. trust again, that would be it. I’m a At first, she was furious with me big believer in second chances, but for going through her phone, but not so much in third chances.) But I’ve a feeling that the real she finally broke down and admit- ted that she’d been hanging out reason you’re avoiding a breakup is with this guy from work. She says it you’re afraid to let go. If that’s the wasn’t anything physical, although case, it’s time to end things so you he’s been flirtatious with her. She can start the process of beginning begged me to forgive her for keep- again. You cannot simply wish that ing a secret from me, and she prom- pain in your chest away. Dear Annie: I have actually ises never to do so again. I don’t know whether to believe the part found comfort in reading the letters about them not being physical, but from grandparents and others who I do believe she really regrets the have shared their dismay in never relationship. She says she wants receiving thank-you notes. I tried talking to the kids and the parents, to no avail. The parents even tried to “explain” that their kids were too busy with activities. I was appalled. So I went to plan B. During one visit, when every- one was at one dining room table, I passed out thank-you cards to all the grandkids. The envelopes were pre-addressed to my husband and me and stamped. I also gave them an additional box of thank-you notes to be used for other gift giv- ers. I shared the importance of send- ing thank-you notes whenever they receive a gift. I then advised that they were all on permanent pro- bation. No “thank you” means no future gifts — end of story. I give them five days after receipt of a gift to send a note. This has worked. Of course, their mother thinks I am a nag and old-fashioned. I think I’m teaching my grandkids an important life lesson, and shame on their parents for not doing the same. But now I enjoy notes from my grandkids, and some of them are even being more thoughtful and giving in other ways. — C.A. in Sarasota, Fla. Dear C.A.: You are indeed teaching them an important life les- son, one they’ll thank you for when they’re older. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, MARCH 7, 2017 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Whatever you do today, do it for you. If there’s nothing in it for you that you can think of off the top of your head, go deeper. What’s the real payoff? You wouldn’t be doing it if there weren’t one. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Your profession- al life will not be the only thing that flourishes as a result of your methodical, systematic and businesslike approach. Such a method will also improve relationships of all kinds. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). As for the person who helps you handle the task better than you could on your own — this person may not be the ideal partner, but he or she is certainly worthy of the props you’ll generous- ly give today. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You know what a person is like in a particular context. Now change the context and find out more! You’ll be different, too. This process of mutual discovery is the stuff of life. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Do your detective work today. It’s not about snooping so much as it is about listening to what people tell you about their pasts, their points of view and their goals. Asking excellent questions will be half the battle. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Usually, you know right away whether an outcome is to your liking or not. With today’s project, snap judgments could hinder progress. If there’s even a small shadow of a doubt, live with the result for a few days, then decide. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). For a comforting feeling of belonging, hang out with people who are very much like you. But if it’s creativ- ity or productivity you’re after, you’ll gain, give and learn more in a diverse group. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Because you’re a child at heart, you want to play. You’ll sense accurately who else wants to as well, so make the play date and follow through. This sudden need for fun will be very lucky for you. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You’ve the sneaking suspicion that you can make your life better and more interesting on your own, but a certain charismatic character can definitely put you on the fast track to this end. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). The one without direct experience in your problem will be of little or no help and, in fact, could make things worse. Don’t waste time: Go straight to the expert. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). As you search for the right person to fill a certain opening in your life, consider that while people can, technically, change, they often don’t — especially not just because you want them to. Go with current (not projected) stats. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The rest of the world fades into the background as one person attracts you and reins you in. This feels at once like an exotic adventure and like coming home. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (March 8). There’s an angel over your shoulder, whispering messages of encouragement and nudging you toward opportunities to grow your spirit. New ideas cross-pollinate with what you already believe, and a special project is born. May brings familial warmth; colorful characters come in June. There’s a win in September. Libra and Aquarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 30, 22, 37 and 40.
