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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, MARCH 3, 2017 FEATURES Where’s the wedding money? Dear Annie: I am here won- I’m now planning my own dering: How many times do you wedding, and I find myself left go out to eat and expect a free with the dilemma of not want- meal? Never, right? So I am really ing to invite certain individuals baffled by how someone could because I know they wouldn’t attend a wedding (either single or give any sort of gift. The most with a date) and find it acceptable upsetting part is this happens to be the case with several to leave a gift of just $100 DEAR of my family members for two people, let alone (who are in good posi- $0. ANNIE tions financially). I know Sure, there are certain I really can’t address it financial circumstances among them, but this has that may hinder some- happened at two of my one’s ability to contribute. siblings’ weddings, and But here is my stance: If I know it would occur you can’t afford to cover for mine. I don’t want to your plate, why go? Lane cut family members off, A wedding is intended Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. but if they wouldn’t con- to be a celebration unify- tribute, then I feel that I ing the new couple’s lives together. It is not a foundation they am left without a choice. What set up to make donations for their do I do? — Tired of Wedding guests and give them free meals. Freeloaders Dear Tired: Are you planning It’s expensive; everyone knows this. Regardless of who pays for a wedding or running a business? It’s common courtesy to bring the event, I find it appalling that so many adults would not properly a gift to a wedding, sure. I agree contribute in any fashion — and with you 100 percent. But you not even feel embarrassed about can’t be so concerned with the it! Maybe their parents fell short return on investment. Invite your in the manners department when loved ones because you love them raising them. After being a part of and want them at your wedding, several weddings, I am seriously not because you’ll get your mon- perplexed by this lack of etiquette. ey’s worth. Ultimately, taking the high road will make you feel like a It’s very disappointing. million bucks. Dear Annie: I believe the advice you gave to “Very Disap- pointed Mother-in-Law,” who has concerns about her daughter but feels shut out by her son-in-law, was pretty accurate in terms of what she was looking for. But I feel that you missed one thing in your response. You didn’t address the part where she said she believes that her daughter is manic. As someone who suffers from bipolar disorder, I know first- hand that if someone is manic — especially someone who is alone with children — it needs to be addressed immediately. When you’re manic, your behavior can be very erratic and dangerous. If she truly suspects that her daugh- ter is manic, she needs to get her to her physician to be examined and put on medication if necessary. Her daughter may even need to be hospitalized to get this under con- trol and her mental health properly assessed. — Bipolar in Kentucky Dear Bipolar: Thank you so much for raising that concern. I’d like to echo that sentiment. Any- one experiencing symptoms that indicate the possibility of bipolar disorder should talk to his or her doctor immediately. 3C TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Problems get solved today by devoting full attention to them in a creative way. An intense focus without any new ideas won’t work. New ideas without intense focus won’t work. You’ve the capacity for both; apply it. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). It will be liberating to be around people who don’t have a lot of rules attached to their friendship. Seek the company of those who are accepting, unthreat- ened by your talents and assets, undaunted by your shortcomings. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). If you let your thoughts wander today, there’s a tendency to brood. It’s human nature, which has a strong negativity bias, exacerbated by the current cosmic lineup. Counteract it with a busy day of distractions and delights. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You’ll benefit from thinking of the “self” you show the world as verb instead of a noun — as a manner of assembling the attributes and opinions handed to you early on. Also, you can arrange this differently whenever you want to. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Some of the humans you’ll interact with today are so sensitive to emotion and tone that you may wish you were interacting with a robot who responds to specif- ic commands without attaching any emotional baggage. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Trying to hide what you’re feeling will lead to energy blockages that inhibit your performance. However you’re feeling, it’s right. Let energy flow through you so that it can either dissipate or activate your intention. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). We live in a world of symbols, very few of which stand for what FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE they actually are. Your thought into what things symbolize will help today’s interactions. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Of all the tests you could be offered, it’s the tests of patience that will do the most to expand your conscious- ness and mature your soul. To breathe, relax and be reasonable when the tension is high — this is evolution. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). As you move quickly through a problem, the rest may seem to lag behind. There’s much to be gained from honoring the pacing of others. Observe and learn instead of distracting yourself away from the business at hand. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Can there be thoughts without a thinker? Some say it’s pos- sible, even optimal. And though they condemn the ego, you can bet there’s much in yours that would be missed were you to join the ranks of the enlightened today. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’ll project yourself rather cleverly and be well accepted. If you also happen to be having fun with this, and are not too concerned about what others are thinking, you’re winning all around. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). More art than science, history is colored by the values and beliefs of the teller. What you believe about the past will direct the future. Be open to hearing more than one account of what happened. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (March 4). New reserves of determination open in you. You stop looking for opportunities and start creating them. Going on the premise that conditions will never be perfect, you’ll push forward and build major success through your efforts. Next month seals a deal. Gemini and Scorpio adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 10, 28, 6, 40 and 17.
