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6A FEATURES Situation that’s not a comedy Dear Annie: For the past two ing out to them because he knows decades, my life has been an episode his mother was wrong. of the sitcom “Everybody Loves I tried writing my father-in-law a Raymond” on steroids. letter but got no response. His alien- My mother-in-law has made a ation hurts me more than anything wonderful grandmother, but she has because I can’t believe he would constantly criticized my weight, my go along with this. I know she will hairstyle, what I feed my never apologize, but how DEAR children and how I dress do we rectify this if they continue to ignore phone and discipline them. She ANNIE always does this out of ear- calls, cards and letters? shot of her husband and They are elderly, and I am son. I have kept my mouth afraid something will hap- shut to keep the peace, and pen and my husband will I respect my dear father-in- live the rest of his life with law and husband too much regret over this. — Daugh- to tell her off and cause a ter-in-Law in the Middle Annie Lane family rift. Dear DIL: The thing Creators Syndicate Inc. about sitcoms is that no Six months ago, she matter how bad a family got a Facebook account for the first time. She wrote something feud is, everything is neatly restored rude about another family member, by the end of the 30-minute time not knowing everyone could see slot, and the studio audience issues it. We went over to show her how a collective “aww.” If only. Your husband has the biggest to remove it and explained that the whole world could see her inappro- role here. Encourage him to set his priate comment. She got defensive (justified) anger aside and pay his and called me hurtful names. I called parents a visit. No matter how big a her a troublemaker and walked out. drama queen she is, it will be hard She hasn’t spoken to me since, for his mother to slam the door in and neither has my father-in-law. He the face of her baby boy. Once he’s was not even there, so I can’t imag- made amends, he can help smooth ine what she told him. My husband things over for you, too. I’d also like to say that your hus- was there and knows I didn’t do or say anything wrong and is not reach- band and in-laws are lucky to have you. You are a tolerant and caring person. Major props for holding the family together. Dear Annie: The other day, you published a letter from “Senior in Connecticut,” who is discomforted by public workers who call older patrons “honey” and other such terms. If I may offer a view from the other side: Public servants, as we might be referred to, are often sub- jugated to these terms, as well. As a young woman in the public work- force, I am often subjected to older men calling me such names. I have been told, as you offered, that it’s more of a personal prefer- ence to be called by these names or not. As you can probably guess, it makes me incredibly uncomfortable. Just like “Senior in Connecticut,” I interpret these names to be deroga- tory and demeaning, not flattering. A good solution to both of our problems might be this: Don’t call someone by one of these names unless you are sure that the person is comfortable with it. Asking cer- tainly never hurts. And to those who are shaking their head and disagree- ing, saying that it’s “harmless”: Is respecting someone else’s wishes really that much of a burden on you? — Disgruntled Public Worker THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, DECEMBER 5, 2016 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). There’s so much on the agenda, and if you write it out and attack the items one by one you’ll get through most of them on this incredibly productive, high-energy day. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). To be con- cerned about what an attractive person thinks of you is a trap. You are most attrac- tive when you base your thoughts, feelings and motivations on your own self-respect. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You wouldn’t readily categorize today’s task as “fun,” but since you have to do it anyway, you’d do well to try to find some novel aspect to it. While looking for something fresh here, you’ll accidentally delight. CANCER (June 22-July 22). It’s becoming clearer that in order to effectively complete the job, you need the right tools. Timeliness is crucial now. Invest in the knowledge and resources you need to be successful. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You want to help your loved ones, and yet, if you do it all for them, you’ll rob them of the pride of accomplishment. Settle back and watch a while. Only help when they’re really and truly stuck. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). It’s one of those days when you find it easy to appre- ciate your bountiful life. There’s no reason to reach out for more because as you tend to what you have, more reaches out for you. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You want to know what people are thinking, and you’re not afraid to ask. What you learn will help you get yourself or your product aimed for maximum popularity. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). The tempta- tion exists to let hype replace action. Don’t let the talk get ahead of you. Too much talk and you feel you’ve already done the thing. The task becomes boring in comparison to the talk. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Before you take it too seriously or accept it as the truth, think of social media as a perfor- mance, and one that most people deliver in the most flattering of theatrical lighting. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). There’s something in this day that makes you ner- vous, and that, while uncomfortable, can be turned into a big plus for you. This is just the right level of challenge to strengthen your emotional resolve. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You want the new chapter to start, but it can’t yet. These ideas haven’t been explored to their natural conclusion. Go for closure. The oth- ers involved need it just as much as you do. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The lasting impression won’t be about what you wore or how you did your hair. The lasting impression is the one that causes the other person to feel. The deeper the feeling, the more indelible the impression. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Dec. 6). You’ll enter an arena ripe with potential this year. The first decisions you make will set a tone and you could even be paid or friended based on the dynamics of the first few days. February brings a transformation; June brings travel. Joyful family events will serve as markers reminding you just how far you’ve come. Aries and Leo adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 8, 40, 3, 22 and 18.
