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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 30, 2016 FEATURES TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE Asperger’s leads to different view Dear Annie: I have a handsome things about her that he had gotten 23-year-old son who has been deal- from her Facebook page — and she ing with Asperger’s syndrome for had accepted his friend request. He was banned from the dorms 20 years. He has grown from a child who didn’t look at or talk to peo- and ordered to stay away from these ple other than the family to a young two women. There was an appeal, man who can even share small talk and the school lifted the ban on the dorms after they under- with people, attend college DEAR stood that with Asperger’s, and be a successful track a person doesn’t read body and field athlete. ANNIE language or facial expres- However, he still has a sions very well. terrible time knowing how He went to the speech to act around women, and pathology department last he observes people around year for coaching about him for clues. He recently social situations. Now, received a phone call after this involvement with from the campus police Lane campus police, the Title asking him to stop by. A Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. IX department — has got- woman had reported him ten involved. It has some because she felt uncom- classes that will help him fortable around him at a dance. He had danced with her, sat to understand body language and and talked with her, and gotten her facial expressions. I hope this will some punch, but then he put his help him, but I also hope and pray arm around her. He did this because that people, especially women, will that’s what he had observed watch- give him a chance. Please tell women that if some- ing other guys and girls. He felt ter- one has made them uncomfort- rible because he really liked her. In the next day or two, another able, they should gently but firmly woman complained to the cam- tell the person, “You are mak- pus police. He and this other girl ing me uncomfortable because I had a class together and had talked don’t know you that well.” My a few times. She accused him of son would never hurt anyone, but stalking her. But what she said was these women ended up hurting him “stalking” was his knowing a few deeply. — Heartbroken Again Dear Heartbroken: Thank you for sharing your son’s story. Although I would never fault young women for removing them- selves from situations that feel unsafe, it sounds as if these two women simply felt awkward. A lit- tle communication can go a long way in such cases. We should all be compassionate and keep in mind that we have no idea the struggles a stranger may be going through. Dear Annie: I realize you meant well with your response to “Girl Who’s Gotta Eat,” whose co-worker was bothered by her fre- quent snacking. However, as the parent of a child who has been diag- nosed with an auditory processing disorder, I think you should have researched misophonia. This is one of the perils and costs of the open-office trend. Your reader with the high metabolism has needs. However, they may not be on the same level as a fellow employee who has a genuine psy- chological or medical condition. My daughter is a student, whose condition is recognized and accom- modated. Without that, her aca- demic performance suffers. Perhaps a less flip answer and additional research on your part are in order. — Think Again 5A By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). There’s a re- prieve in whatever relationship strife you’ve been experiencing. Rest confident that the one you love loves you. Reciprocity doesn’t guarantee an easy road, but it sure is a bet- ter start than the opposite dynamic. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You do not have to be an expert in grief or loss to help a bad situation. When you show up with an open heart, your very presence is a comfort to those who need it. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You have a fam- ily you were born to and a family you define. There’s an occasion coming up where the two might intersect, and this will turn out just fine. Relax. There’s nothing to worry about. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You may not be a schoolchild, but you’re not too old to show your work to someone whose opinion matters to you or to hang it up in an import- ant place. Those who honor your self-ex- pression honor you. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Being a fan of great work perks your awareness and raises your bar, making you a candidate for eventu- al great work yourself. No pressure, though: For now, enjoy your fandom status. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Every- one needs support and compassion, and yet there are not as may givers of these things as there could be. If you feel like you’re making up for the thoughtlessness and ignorance of others, you are. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). On the route to finding happiness, sometimes you have no idea which direction you’re head- ed. This is natural. Get rid of the things that make you unhappy, and see if that doesn’t clear your windshield somewhat. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). An unex- pected wrinkle arises. This prompts you to seek expert help. There’s much available you won’t have to pay for. Follow the pre- scription to a T and you’ll be home free. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Small talk won’t nat- urally gravitate to the things you care about unless you steer it in that direction. Do so today, because you’ll get more enjoyment from connecting with people on what truly interests you. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The best po- sition is the one with the least to lose. Par- adoxically, to get there, you have to agree to lose things. You’ll loosen your grip on something you thought you needed. Turns out, you don’t. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You can and should automate and improve the process of day-to-day business. You’ll never know what your time could be better spent doing until you open some of it up to the possibilities. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Dec. 1). There’s a romantic confession and an excit- ing proposition right at the top of this solar return. In April you’ll become one with your equipment and conquer work that used to take you 10 times as long. You’ll then have the time for a moneymaking venture and sock it away through spring. Taurus and Ar- ies adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 32, 30, 2, 40 and 16. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). When you make efforts to see the bigger picture, you’ll no- tice, with mixed feelings, that many people around you face dramatic challenges that make your own grievances seem trivial. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE
