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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, NOVEMBER 28, 2016 FEATURES Problematic grown sons Dear Annie: As I understood was for him to blow his nose (rather it, your primary job as a spouse is loudly, I might add) in the same to respect, protect and support your room as his mother while she was on spouse in all things, to always be the phone with a client. His response? “That was where truthful and never ask the other to do anything that you yourself would the tissues were.” This same son, a not do. However, all of the self-proclaimed mama’s aforementioned becomes DEAR boy, has recently decided to moot, it seems, when it ANNIE call me expletives and tell comes to getting married me I’m worthless. later in life to a spouse with Because I now refuse grown children. to be at “her home’’ during Before we married, we any family gatherings, it’s decided my wife’s domicile assumed that I hate her would be where we would children, when in fact I live. I’ve been here as her Lane just don’t like being disre- husband since Decem- Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. spected any more than any- ber 2004. I feel as though one else does. I find myself within these walls, we’re equal (even if she does have a larger angry with my wife for not stand- income), and I think I do my best to ing with me on the right side. At this be my best, most of the time. I do, point, I don’t want to spend holidays however, resent the fact that her sons in a compromising situation, even are able to do as they wish without though that would mean not spend- ing them with her. — Married My regard for us. Recently, without any recourse, Wife, Not Their Mother and Them Dear Married: Actually, you her eldest son began to yell at me. He told me to shut up and not even did marry them, too, in a way. When look at him. I somehow ended committing to a life with someone up being the one at fault. I feel as who has children from a previous though he should have been shown marriage, you have to embrace the family as your own. the sidewalk. That said, I agree with you that On another occasion, I “forgot my place” and told another of my your stepsons have said and done wife’s sons how rude I thought it reprehensible things. Your wife shouldn’t have allowed them to speak to you that way. She needs to step up and mediate. You have to do your part, too. Set aside your pride and let go of past resentments. If you want a happy marriage, you have no choice but to reconcile with them. No matter how foul their mouths, they will always be your wife’s baby boys. She will never choose you over them — and it wouldn’t be fair to ask her to. Dear Annie: This is in response to “Disappointed Dude,” who didn’t like his dates “snooping.” Reading his email? Not OK. But Googling him and his friends? Abso- lutely! That’s fair game. I’m a retired child protective social worker, and I would encour- age all the girls I worked with to do this. It’s a safety issue. Not everyone is who he says he is. Too many girls and women are not cautious enough about whom they are dating. They could end up used, abused and even worse. Maybe “Dude” could consider discussing this issue with the woman he is seeing. Together, they could look up his online profile, and she could learn about friends and rela- tives from his past. If he had a daugh- ter, I bet he would look up every man she dated! — Seen More Than I Want 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). You are entitled to project your own sense of order on this beautiful chaos. Why accept other views as the way it’s supposed to be done? That’s their way, and this is yours. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Do you believe in psychic gunk? Because sometimes when you go out in the world, you actually feel like there’s a film of bad energy getting transferred to you. Look for tools to help you brush off the accumulated residue of karma. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). To be thoughtful and kind is the most important goal. This one goal, in the front of your mind, will organize the rest of your thoughts. It will make the com- plications align into simple problems to be systematically solved. CANCER (June 22-July 22). When you’re in your fan mode, you are dazzled by what’s popular, selling and being supported and ac- claimed. When you’re in competition mode, you know that these things only signal: “It’s on!” SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). People will gather in tight circles to gab about what’s wrong. Seldom do they assemble in such a way to express what’s wonderful. Be the one to bring people together to celebrate all that’s going right. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Cook food. Walk the earth. Put your hands in dirt. Get grounded. Otherwise, this sense of lightness you’re experiencing can cause you to float up emotionally and disconnect from people who need your attention. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). The focus will go to a relationship in its early stages. Whether the relationship is oriented toward business or pleasure, the heart connection is what will matter. It needs to feel right — forget what it looks like on paper. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Character development often happens through hard- ship, though it’s harder to be strong in good times. You’ll manage such a remarkable feat of grace. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Are you feeling what’s outside you or what’s inside you? This can be confusing for one as empathetic as you are, and that goes double when there are people close to you feeling intense emotions. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You connect to others, raising their spirits and your own in the process. If it’s all you accomplish today, count yourself among the most accomplished peo- ple there are. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You’ve come to consider synchronicity as more than some- thing that happens to you on a regular basis; it’s an aspect of who you are. You’ll experi- ence a most favorable coincidence today. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Nov. 29). Your self-assurance is your ticket to a fun ride be- fore the year is up. The bonds of love will be strengthened in 2017 through many enjoy- able times with those who share your humor and taste. Your family will have new reason to celebrate, and you’ll be proud of the devel- opments in your family tree. Pisces and Leo adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 10, 4, 39, 22 and 15. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Figure out what you need, and ask for it. Don’t wait on this one. You may find yourself lacking certain resourc- es and this, if left unchecked, will take a physi- cal and emotional toll. Get what you need. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. 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