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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 25, 2016 FEATURES Hubby sneaks around online Dear Annie: My husband thing to spice up our love life. He has been talking to other women swears he only wants to be with online. He’s been on numerous me, not another woman. Help. — dating sites, and every time I catch Depressed and Lonely him, he changes his account name Dear Depressed: This is sup- or goes on a different one. I think posed to be the honeymoon phase, it’s cheating. He says it’s not — not the honey-nightmare. If he’s that he’s just talking to acting like this four them. But he says very months into your mar- DEAR inappropriate things to riage, I shudder to think ANNIE them and sends explicit how he would act in 40 photos of himself. They years — and I hope you send him pictures, too. never have to find out. I think he’s going to go Although I normally meet them eventually if encourage couples to put he hasn’t already, though in the work to save a mar- he swears he hasn’t ever riage, I think you’d be bet- cheated. ter off cutting and running Annie Lane Creators now, before your lives are I’m so confused. It Syndicate Inc. further intertwined or chil- feels as if I’m not enough dren enter the picture. You for him. He doesn’t ever want to be intimate with me any- deserve better. Dear Annie: My brother and I more. We’ve been married for only four months, so I really think he’s used to be very close. He’s 54, and cheating on me. There are just too I’m 52. He has been married five times and has one son from his sec- many signs that point to it. I love him more than I’ve ond marriage. Rarely has he been ever loved anyone, and he swears in his son’s life. I’m closer to his he loves me, too, and has never son than he is. He dates different cheated on me. But he won’t stay women all the time and always off those sites, and it’s very disre- cheats on them. He lied to a former spectful. I’m getting so depressed, co-worker who was 19 and got her and I don’t feel that he loves me pregnant. He told her it was phys- anymore. What can I do to get ically impossible for him to have him to stop? I’ve tried every- kids, and she believed him. She is now seven months pregnant and lives three houses from me. My wife and I feel bad for her and are trying to help her out. My dad said to stay out of my brother’s busi- ness, and my mom is on the fence. I believe that my brother has a sexual addiction and needs help through counseling. What’s the best way to deal with this mess my brother has created? — Younger Brother Dear Younger: If you and your wife want to help out the young woman, by all means, please do, and encourage your mom to get off the fence and help out, too. The child will be your niece or nephew and her grandchild, after all. Just because your brother has turned his back on his own doesn’t mean you all must turn yours with him. Clearly, your brother is not sta- ble, and his compulsive sexual behavior is unhealthy and destroy- ing lives. The American Psychiat- ric Association does not recognize “sex addiction” in itself as a dis- order, but such behavior does fre- quently occur alongside other men- tal health issues. Encourage him to seek the help of a licensed thera- pist, but ultimately, he must want to help himself. Changing him is not a burden you could bear, even if you wanted to. 3C TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Avoid self-pro- motion. The smart ones will understand right away what’s great about you, so you don’t have to tell them. The others wouldn’t understand any better if you told them, so that’s another reason to stay modest. reaction to today’s nuttiness. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You’re better off not to assume that money means the same thing to you as it does to the people you deal with. When they show you how they value things, pay attention. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Your presentation of an idea can sell it, whether the idea is a good one or not. Does this activate your sense of personal responsi- bility? Vet the ideas before you make your pitch. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). The main prob- lem about human existence is fragility. You make that a little less obvious for someone. You make that person feel protected — maybe even strong. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You’re simply too tough on yourself! Why dwell on mistakes when there are so many things you’ve done right? And you’ll do even more good today once you shake off that critical mood. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You’ll get an opportunity to do business where there is a strong sense of stability and tradition around matters of finance. Soon after you connect with those who share your values, you’ll strike a deal. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). A masterful communicator, today your word choices increase your charisma. It’s the little things. Like, instead of saying “no problem,” which brings to mind the negative, you’ll say “my pleasure,” and create only good feelings. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Maybe it’s noble to be defiant in the face of life’s ridiculous- ness. Or maybe it’s just necessary. Either way, you should feel pretty good about your FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You’ve a comfort level around certain people that allows you to work seamlessly together. It won’t matter who did what or where the credit lands. This is a form of love. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). This thing you’re trying to accomplish cannot be accomplished as a linear pursuit. It’s a holistic process. So when you feel yourself drawn “off track,” maybe you’re actually just working things from a different angle. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). A one-sided commitment won’t work as well as a recip- rocal one. Can you involve another person? There’s magic when you join forces with someone just as committed as you are. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). What you’ve decided to become is far more interesting than any inherent or inherited aspect of you. Share your story. It will help you gain a certain objectivity and self-appreciation. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Nov. 26). Your accepting heart will make life better for people around you. The new year casts you as an inspired teacher. You’ll be paid well for your expertise. April and July represent times of building. Your domestic life will get a new shine then. Relationships blossom in May. August begins a fresh financial cycle. Cancer and Aquarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 2, 40, 1, 46 and 38.
