THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 22, 2016
FEATURES
Good communication is key
Dear Annie: My husband is a struggling with his travel sched-
consultant and travels frequently ule and leaving the family. Also,
for work. When he travels, he’ll I know he is so loving and caring
sometimes leave Sunday and toward me and our family. I need
return the following Friday. He to know: Am I crazy? And how do
will sometimes do this for three I tame my fears? — Jealous Wife
Dear Jealous: It’s funny how
weeks out of a month. The proj-
when we let our imagina-
ects may last six months
tions run wild, they could
or three years. It grows
DEAR
go anywhere yet often go
lonely without him.
ANNIE
to the same bad familiar
I’m the product of
places — in this case, the
divorced parents. My
memory of your father
father left my mother after
and his affair.
she found out he was hav-
You’ve said yourself
ing an affair.
that there’s no actual evi-
This experience has
dence that would support
had an obvious impact
on me, particularly with Annie Lane your fears about your
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husband’s fidelity. If he
my jealousy. I am always
Syndicate Inc.
has always been honest
searching my husband
and trustworthy, I see no
for any evidence of an
affair, whether it’s going through reason to question that now.
Jealousy is a monster. The
his phone and email or searching
his pockets. I’m never certain he’s more you feed it the bigger it gets.
Before you know it, you’ve let it
been faithful.
He’s been on an extended proj- tear, Godzilla-like, through your
ect in Europe, frequently leav- entire life. So you must stop feed-
ing on Saturdays or Sundays. ing it. Resist the urge to go through
He’s missed several events for our your husband’s texts, emails,
children and also birthdays and phone logs and pockets. The more
our anniversary. I’m becoming you exercise the trust muscle the
increasingly concerned that he’s stronger it becomes. And a robust
sense of trust is fundamental to a
having an affair.
All the while, there is no real healthy marriage.
All that aside, communication
evidence of this, and he is clearly
is also fundamental. It sounds as
if his time away from home has
been hard on your relationship.
Talk to each other about this. If he
can’t work fewer hours and travel
less, you can find other ways to
maintain intimacy and emotional
closeness.
Dear Annie: Whoa! Your
response to “Scared of My
Friends” really smacked of age-
ism. I just turned 70. I live in a
rural area and drive every day.
Do you know who is really dan-
gerous on the road? Someone who
is driving with his knees because
he is texting or someone holding a
cellphone to her ear while driving.
Those are the folks who are going
to cause accidents, not me because
I turned a magic number.
I have a very thorough eye
exam every year. My eyes are pre-
cious to me, and I want to take the
best care of them. I work out six
days a week, with an hour and a
half of cardio and some weights.
So do not judge people by a num-
ber on a calendar. And certainly
do not encourage a government
agency to begin using age discrim-
ination to keep folks from driving.
Take the texters off the road. They
are really dangerous. I’m not. —
Stephanie in New York
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TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Some of the most
influential people of your life aren’t the type to
readily give advice. They just live exemplary
lives, certain aspects of which you would love
to emulate — and today, you will.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). There is but one
way to draw a straight line between two points.
But if the line is crooked it can follow an infinite
number of different paths. Do what’s right. Go
directly. Get there the easy, simple way.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Smart people
seek wisdom, and wise people seek intelli-
gence. Certainly there will be plentiful examples
of one without the other today, but not from
(well-rounded and deliberate) you.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). All things
turn into fire in the end — otherwise known as
“the beginning,” because fire is also the birth-
mother of all things. Wherever you are in your
creative process, it’s a good and necessary
part of the cycle.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’ve been
there. You’ve been the source of the long sigh
followed by “If only.” But now you’re too busy
making things happen for yourself for such
sighing. You need to be around people who are
the same way.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). “Vain is the word
of a philosopher which does not heal any suf-
fering of man.” There’s lots of advice out there
today, mostly unhelpful, much of it impractical.
It only adds to the beauty of a good ol’ to-do list.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Though it’s sometimes
fun to touch on mystical topics, what matters
today more than who you were in a past life
or how to interpret someone’s aura is who you
are being now and how that’s working with the
other person’s need of you.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). No one knows
why, but even hungry livestock sometimes
need to be prodded to the pasture. One never
knows what might be distracting another per-
son. Kindness is called for.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). The person with the
least need of a situation has the most cheerful,
relaxed attitude toward it. From this mood, a
person can see and attract more opportunity.
Today provides one more example of the bene-
fits of detachment.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). There should
be a name for the particular type of anxiety that
accompanies technical difficulties. Software
errors, password fails, Wi-Fi issues... quickly let
it go. You’ll come up with astoundingly creative
solutions.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Don’t let work
take an outsized role on your sense of self.
You’re not defined by your work any more than
you’re defined by what you own, who you know,
or any other single element of your life.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Maybe it’s impos-
sible to tame that ocean of feeling inside you,
but you’ll be incredibly powerful when moments
of calm do come over you. Through self-pos-
sessed, patient politeness you’ll get exactly
what you want.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Nov. 23). Your
appreciation for what you already have leads to
augmented fortunes this solar return. You treat
others with such tenderness through 2017 that
relationships will develop an unparalleled depth
of feeling. There’s a professional advancement
in February. A financial upswing begins in May
and keeps building. Libra and Pisces adore
you. Your lucky numbers are: 4, 19, 33, 24 and
15.