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Tomorrow’s horoscope
Trying to make amends
Dear Annie: My daughter and I
have not spoken in over 12 years. I
am now getting up in age (I am 82)
and don’t know what to do to even
say hello to her. She has told me
over and over again that she does
not love me or want anything to do
with me. She is still my daughter,
and I do still love her.
My grandson got married last
year, and I was not allowed to go
to the wedding. My grandson and I
keep in touch, but I don’t want him
to get in the middle of all this, nor do
I want my other two children to get
involved. My two sons don’t really
like their sister and do not see her that
often or speak to her. My daughters-
in-law have tried to be her friends,
but she will not call them, either.
We were never really that close,
even though I have tried in the past to
be there for her. She is a very strong-
willed person and feels she doesn’t
need anybody but her husband, her
son and now her daughter-in-law
in her life. This is a real shame. I
don’t know how many more years
God has for me, and I just want to
let her know that I’ve always loved
her. Friends have told me to move
on and know that I have done every-
thing one can do. All these years, I
have been deeply depressed because
Dear Annie
By
Annie
Lane
Creators
Syndicate
Inc.
of this situation. What can I do? —
Missing Her
Dear Missing: I am a irm
believer in trying to mend family
relationships whenever you can.
Your friends hate seeing you get hurt
by your daughter, and there is wis-
dom in their advice for you to move
on. It certainly isn’t your responsi-
bility to keep trying or your fault if
she never wants to reconcile. She
seems quick to burn bridges rather
than repair them.
But if you’re just in this to have
some contact with your daughter, I
think you should continue reach-
ing out as much as you’d like.
Just make sure you’re wearing the
proper emotional armor when you
do — i.e., have realistic expecta-
tions and accept that she may never
reciprocate.
Dear Annie: This is in response
to the letter from “Crushed in Cali-
fornia.” Shame on you for giving her
such bad advice. You should have
told her to make a beeline to an attor-
ney who specializes in family law.
After 24 years of marriage, her
husband has decided he wants a
divorce and ordered her to move out,
as if she were a mere tenant, with-
out making any inancial arrange-
ments. Most states apply more or
less the same procedures and guide-
lines. What typically happens in a
long-term marriage is the husband is
ordered to leave the home (although
in rare cases, a judge allows both of
them to live in the same house but
sleep in different rooms) and pay his
wife about 50 percent of his income
(according to established legal
guidelines) for the support of the
children and her. The children are
typically allowed to live with their
mother in the family home, and the
husband is given reasonable visita-
tion rights. At a later time, the sup-
port order is adjusted. The judge
takes into account the earnings of
the wife, outstanding inancial obli-
gations, the needs of the children,
etc. No court in the world would
ever allow the scenario described by
Crushed in California. — Attorney
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, OCTOBER 18, 2016
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). You’re sol-
id. You know what’s right for your life and
what’s not. You can and will keep the neg-
ative forces at a distance, not with anger
but with dignity.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Things are
not black and white for you — or for any-
one, really. That’s why this will be a day in
which you will choose not to judge, and
not to throw your attention away on neg-
ativity.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Money might
not be able to buy true love or devotion or
anything that’s really important, but money
can still solve a lot of problems. You’ll solve
problems with your money today.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). You will be
offered what you wanted and deserved
several months ago. You can afford to take
time with your response. Also, don’t rush to
grant acceptance — but do accept.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). It’s wonderful
when they really get you. It’s also not so
bad when they don’t. There’s a lot of inner
life that is sparked by the flint of that. Your
mind starts spinning when it’s mad!
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). All those
mild perks — you need to appreciate
them. Don’t compare. This is a time to
home in on what’s good. Keep your pas-
sion alive. Only you can set the limit to
your potential.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You can
crush up the tension in a room by just
speaking. The words you use are not as
important as how you use them. Your use
of this talent will further your aims.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). The de-
cision seems big. You could deliberate,
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
make your pros and cons list, call your
mother, etc., but that would be pageant-
ry. You already know what to do. You’ve
known for a while now.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). This
group you need to be a part of now —
there’s a certain rhythm to it, and you’ll
click right in, as long as you don’t hesitate
or doubt yourself. “Strong and wrong”:
Make that your creed.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Here’s
how to get into this group: Listen; pay at-
tention; figure out the needs and wants of
all involved. You won’t have answers, and
you don’t need to. Your eye contact alone
is a healing balm.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). The ef-
fort to be known — that’s a theme today.
You know who your friends are, and they’ll
make sure you don’t forget about them. All
that you have you’ll put into your perfor-
mance tonight.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Network.
Acquaintances on the social scene are
prime sources of employment and love
opportunities, if not for yourself then for a
close friend. Make a point of chatting up
everyone you know.
WEDNESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 19).
Your dreams will bloom like a microwaved
popcorn situation: Sit on the outside, lis-
ten, and count. Your good fortune will be
delicious, especially when several friends
are involved. There’s a highlight in Decem-
ber and another big income boom in Jan-
uary. If you want to make more, you’ll have
to learn more. Gemini and Virgo adore
you. Your lucky numbers are: 3, 2, 22, 13
and 29.