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FEATURES 6A Husband lied about Facebook account Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for over 20 years. We’ve had our share of highs and lows during our time together. However, recently I discovered some things that are really bothering me. My husband always said he didn’t “do the whole Facebook thing.” I dis- covered he’s been lying about not hav- ing a Facebook account when I was try- ing to set one up for him so he could use it to receive some promotional offers. I then discovered that he was searching for old girlfriends, singles sites, por- nography and other women on Face- book for two years behind my back. Some of the women my husband was looking up on Facebook were our daughter’s age or even a couple of years younger. We live in a small town, and some of these women work where he gets his hair cut, where we bank or at other places where we do busi- ness. He visited several of the wom- en’s Facebook pages multiple times. This is all very disturbing to me. When I try to discuss this with him, he gets extremely defensive and becomes angry with me. I am hurt and don’t believe that what he is doing is right. Please help. — Feeling Very Broken Dear Broken: The only one who should feel broken is your husband. Honesty is the cornerstone of a healthy marriage. Though it’s deinitely questionable Dear Annie By Annie Lane Creators Syndicate Inc. that he’s been browsing (very) young women’s Facebook pages, there could at least plausibly be innocent explana- tions for that. The alarm bells sounded for me when you mentioned that he has been on singles sites. This could indicate ofline, real-life inidelity. Talk to him about going to marriage counseling. If he refuses, then consider separation or divorce. It’s better to live alone than with a louse. Dear Annie: My wife’s nephew and his wife, “Susie,” moved from Oregon to Pennsylvania last year for him to go to graduate school. Recently, there was a collectors show that I was going to about two hours from where they now live. I suggested to my wife that if she wanted to visit them, I could drop her off at their condo Thursday afternoon and then go to the show. I returned Sunday morning for us to leave for home on Monday. When we got back to their condo, I noticed Susie standing in the kitchen eating something from a bowl. She then went into the living room to con- tinue eating. My wife has a restricted diet, and as she was getting out her lunch ixings, she asked her nephew whether there was some bread to make a sandwich. After some digging, “Bob” did ind a couple of pieces in the freezer. I found the dynamics a bit peculiar but thought, “No big deal.” Then, after we got back home, my wife told me about Bob and Susie’s breaking out the chocolate ice cream after I had gone to bed Sunday night. (Ice cream is not part of my wife’s restricted diet, and they knew it from the previous day.) I feel that their han- dling of food and meals was clueless, if not outright rude. I have no desire for a return visit because of that. When I mentioned a future trip by their town next summer, my wife said she wants to include a return visit. I have no desire to subject myself to a repeat epi- sode. Help. — Snubbed for Snacks Dear Snubbed: I’m a little con- fused here. If it didn’t bother your wife, the one with the food restrictions, I’m not really sure why it bothered you. It’s her family and her diet restrictions, so I would let her take the lead as to whether or not to go back. Also, if she’s on a tightly restricted diet, it would be best to pack snacks and small meals of her own when traveling. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 23, 2016 Tomorrow’s horoscope By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). You are sensitive, but you’re not a drama queen or king. You don’t need everyone’s atten- tion on you when something unusual happens. One of your friends does need this kind of attention now, and you’ll be so generous to give it. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). A friend of a friend reaches out. Is there a romantic tinge to the gesture? It’s unclear, but your feeling of warmth at this do-gooder is well-founded. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). It feels to you that the pressure is on. You’d like to show them all what you can do, but the moment isn’t right, the people don’t seem open, and the performance is under-re- hearsed. You’ll have your time. Until then, relax. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Though it was an annoying surprise, your ability to meet that sudden need is a testament to your problem-solving prowess. You notice; you help. It’s all in the life of a day. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You wear your mood or better. If you’re not quite feel- ing sunshine, you’ll opt for the optimistic choice and hope that it pushes you into the zone. That’s what will work today. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). If you have to go to great lengths to prove your worth to someone, maybe that person isn’t right for you. It would be better if you were with someone who could see and appreciate you “as is.” LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). If everyone can see the problem, and no one wants to be the one to fix it, that’s the kind of job that has your name written all over it. You do have special talents, after all. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Shouldn’t your relationship be nearly the same in private as it is in public? Consider the dif- ferences between these two scenarios, and fix what needs fixing. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). If you know what you need to do, and yet you still don’t want to do it, this may not be your fault. Motivations are low when the goals aren’t good enough. Make it juicier. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). This is the maximum seriousness level. You’ve reached it, and now it’s time to start walk- ing backward to the silly zone. Having trouble? Seek a flirty, funny influence to get you back to your usual buoyant self. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You can’t change others, but you can change what you think of them — or that you think of them at all. These days it will be easier for you to disengage with negative influences. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Keep going. Cross the finish line. This is im- portant. Get your award, and drink the complimentary water, too. These rituals mean something. Don’t rob yourself of the ending. SATURDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Sept. 24). You’re so observant, and your observa- tions are what make this year great. You’ll find and capitalize on rare opportunities in November. December features an educa- tion you weren’t counting on, but you’ll be so grateful for it — especially when you cash in around May. New additions to your family will happen in July. Capricorn and Leo adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 7, 29, 3, 11, and 8.
