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FEATURES 6A Time to forgive brother Dear Annie: I had a falling out with my elder brother. It happened when the whole family had gotten together for Thanksgiving dinner. My hus- band, Kurt, had been laid off about a month prior and hadn’t yet found a new job. My brother kept telling Kurt what he “should” do and how no company would want him if he were to be unemployed for too long. Kurt was polite through the unsolic- ited career counseling session. After dinner, we quickly excused ourselves and went to the other room to play with my niece. At one point, Kurt went to use the bathroom and overheard my brother telling my dad that he doesn’t think Kurt has any ambition. Kurt whispered the incident to me, and I lipped. I was livid with my brother. I told him that he did not have the right to judge anyone and that he was being a total and complete jerk. We left, and I haven’t spoken to my dad or brother since. However, none of this had any- thing to do with my sister-in-law or niece (my brother’s daughter). I miss her, and I’d like to be around my niece more often. I feel stuck. I don’t want to put her in an awk- ward situation, but I also don’t want her to think that I am angry with her Dear Annie By Annie Lane Creators Syndicate Inc. or that she is part of this turmoil. — Sister-in-Limbo Dear Sister: Blood runs thicker than water. It’s wonderful you value your relationship with your sister- in-law, but your relationship with your brother is even more import- ant. Imagine how regretful you’d be if something happened to him and you’d left things on a sour note. It’s time for you two to reconcile. Find a middle ground; perhaps agree to disagree about Kurt’s job situation. Though you’re the little sister, you’ll have to be the bigger person. Dear Annie: I got good grades in high school to get into a good college. While in college, I did internships over the summer to get a job after college. At my irst job after college, I did well enough to get promoted. I got promoted so that I could get into graduate school. I did well in graduate school to get a better job after graduation. I did well enough in that job to get promoted. Now what? I am 33 years old and have always had a carrot in front of me. Now I feel as though there is no direct, linear path. It used to be, “Do well here to get there.” Now I feel as if there are no paths. It’s wide-open. My career is important to me, but I am not sure what to do. I could switch jobs, but after the novelty of the new gig wears off, I will be back to where I am today. I could start my own company but am not sure that’s exactly what I want to do. People talk about inding meaning and being happy, and I want those things but just feel so lost. I wish there were another carrot to go after. — Thirty-three and Floundering Dear Thirty-three: Pause. Soak in all you’ve accomplished — great grades, jobs, promotions, a mas- ter’s degree — and all the great experiences you’ve had so far. For- give yourself for not having all the answers. Practice mindfulness med- itation. Learn to embrace the joy of just being. As John Lennon put it, “Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, JULY 11, 2016 Tomorrow’s horoscope By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Simplicity and economy will get you in shape for the battle ahead. In other words, it’s time to get lean and mean with your project so you’ll have the strength and resources to do well. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Is this a time of want or a time of plenty? The fact is that you do have plenty, but it’s not plenty of what you really want. Shed what you don’t need and rid yourself of dependencies. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You are socially susceptible in the best possible way. When you see a person doing good, you immedi- ately adopt the same behavior. When you encounter a fault in another, you immediately examine and eradicate your own. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You had one way to accomplish things, and now the big- ger, better tools give you several ways. Is your work going to be better because of this? It’s doubtful, at least at first. But as you learn, things will get better. Be patient. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). There’s a reason you’re in the place where you are. The peo- ple around you need you. You won’t be able to help or see all whom you wish to connect with, but don’t let that discourage you from touching the ones you can reach. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). There is no way to be perfect at the job you’re doing, but there are a million ways to be good at it. Stop wor- rying so much, and commit to doing your best with each small task. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). This is a day when it behooves you to quietly maintain your own privacy. Reveal nothing, be cautious in what you say and don’t even think about post- ing pictures to social media of your where- abouts or your meals. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). It is amazing how many will take a pious stand, judging the others for not believing or behaving as they do, meanwhile not even bothering to uphold the basic values of honesty, decency and common sense. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You’re so ambitious right now that there is simply no way you’ll have the time, energy or resources to do everything you want to. Make a list and prioritize it. Planning will be the key to your success. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Of course winning is important to you, but try not to lose sight of what really matters — the usefulness and help you provide others. If you make even one person’s life easier today, you’ve won. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). There are those who naturally fall within the bell curve of normal behavior, and there are those who have to work hard to fit in. Be kind to those in the second category, as you’ll be their guide and solace today. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’ve an open mind and a lot of compassion for the quiet thinkers around you. You’re in this cate- gory, too, today, doing the invisible work that is every bit as hard as the work that makes one sweat. TUESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (July 12). Your year starts with the excitement of being adored. Can you take this much attention? You’ll find out in the weeks to come as it will continue being heaped upon you. There’s a promotion in September and an expansion to your domestic scene in November. An in- vestment made in January will pay well in five years. Libra and Leo adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 7, 13, 28, 1 and 40.
