THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, MAY 31, 2016
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Grandpa upset about visit
Dear Annie: When my wife and
I took a trip to Canada, my grand-
daughter and her live-in boyfriend at
the time called to ask for permission
to spend a week in our house, which
is near a beach. My wife said OK.
This upset me for two reasons:
We had $100,000 in precious met-
als in the house and I was con-
cerned about theft. I had never
met this boyfriend. Also, to have
someone stay in our house for a
week without us there seemed like
an invasion of privacy. I was not
happy about my wife’s decision,
but went along with it to prevent
bad feelings.
This granddaughter later mar-
ried the boyfriend and they had a
child. It turned out he was an alco-
holic and when drunk, he threat-
ened to kill her and the baby. She
brought the baby and our son-in-
law (her father), and stayed in our
house for a few days, again when
we weren’t home. They didn’t ask
permission this time. My son-in-
law has a key. We knew she was
escaping the potential abuse, so we
said nothing.
Last Christmas, I brought up
the subject of people staying in my
house when I’m not there. Now,
neither our granddaughter nor her
parents are speaking to us. We’ve
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called them several times, but they
don’t pick up and never return our
calls.
My daughter is bipolar and
has been hostile toward me for
many years, mainly because I did
not divorce her mother, whom
she hated. When her mother died
25 years ago, she transferred that
hatred to me, even though my cur-
rent wife and I always have been
friendly and kind to my daughter
and her family.
So here’s my question: Am I
justiied, according to social behav-
ior, in objecting to relatives stay-
ing in our home when we are not
there? I would never stay in any-
one’s home without their permis-
sion. — Joe in California
Dear Joe: Having people in
your house when you aren’t home
is a personal choice. Your wife
gave permission the irst time,
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which means your complaint
should have been directed at her,
not your grandchild. (It might also
be a good idea to put highly valu-
able items in a bank safety deposit
box.) And while we agree that no
one should stay in your house with-
out permission, running away from
an abusive spouse is a pretty good
reason to show up unexpectedly
in a safe place to which you have
a key.
Your daughter and her family
are not responding kindly or ratio-
nally, but you also don’t seem to be
dealing with them in a productive
way. Ask your daughter whether
she would be willing to go with
you for counseling to resolve this
and work on having a better rela-
tionship in the future. It seems
worth a try.
Dear Annie: I have a different
response to “Waking Up,” whose
friend talks too much.
I have a friend who does this.
She is a stay-at-home mom and
needs to talk to an adult. The rest of
her friends work outside the home
and have social lives. So when
I know I have an hour to spare, I
will phone her and just let her talk.
This is called “being a friend.” And
eventually, she gets around to ask-
ing me about my life. — M
ARIES (March 21-April 19). When you
feel happy, comfortable and fun you put
out an energy everyone wants to cozy up
to. It will take an effort to put yourself in that
mood, but just do it. If not for you then for the
general public!
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Think about
what you want to happen and keep heading
in the direction of that outcome. The more you
envision happiness for you and your crew, the
better your odds will be of actually living it.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’ll enjoy
learning the needs, interests, beliefs and
values of others, and you’ll grow in influence
as you try to get to know the people involved
in making decisions that affect your life.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Tasks involve
more details than you anticipated, and your
workload will be more intense than expected
as well. That’s actually good news, because
the thoroughly engaging dynamic will bring
out your best.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). There’s nothing to
fear about tomorrow, especially when all the
power you need will be gained from your fo-
cus on the moment now, or at least the mo-
ment as close to now as you can get.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Storytelling is
a skill that will enhance almost every area
of your life these days. There is a prize to
be won by the one who is most able to talk
about the situation in an engaging and com-
pelling way.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). What you are
experiencing is not uncommon and yet your
experience of it is totally unique. None feel
it as you do. And although you don’t need a
label for your emotions, it might help you to
come up with one.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Just like in
the movies, someone (or some big event)
will come along to knock you off of your feet.
Not today. Today brings little nudges and
pokes in certain direction, all worth taking
seriously.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Are you
the bug or the windshield? Are you eating
the bear, or is the bear eating you? The an-
swers to these questions are not always as
clear as you want them to be.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). The rea-
son people follow you today is because they
realize that wherever you go, that’s where
the fun will be. You’ll get much proof of your
influence. Now, how will you use it?
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). It turns out
that common courtesies aren’t common to
everyone, and you can substitute the word
“courtesies” with sense, knowledge and law,
while you’re at it. Assume and expect noth-
ing and you’ll be just fine.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Over-famil-
iarity is not good for relationships. When
common courtesies go out the window it’s
a signal to distance yourself. How far should
you step back? You need enough space to
build a mystery.
WEDNESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (June 1).
You’ve learned how to play it cool and that’s
what you’ll do over the next 10 weeks, to
fantastic results. You’ll let love come to you
and that love will be stronger because the
other person made the reach. You’ll beautify
your environment in June and then leave it
for an August adventure. Vows and contracts
are featured in September. Aries and Virgo
adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 30, 11,
17, 5 and 19.