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FEATURES 6A Tomorrow’s horoscope Sis dating ex causes trouble Dear Annie: My ex-husband, the father of my kids, decided to date my younger sister, who is in the early stages of recovery from heroin addic- tion. When she wants to see her four children, she has to have a supervisor present for visitation. My mother and stepfather sup- port this relationship and think it will be good for her. My older sister and I do not approve. Because of this, my mother decided to disown me and my sister. We have not spoken for six months. What I don’t understand is that my mother mentioned this whole dating thing about four years ago. She asked whether I would be OK with them seeing each other and I strongly replied that I would NOT, and that it was unethical for the two of them to even think about it. Now it’s happening. How do I carry on with no con- tact with my family due to this? I have been married to my second hus- band for 11 years. I have no feelings for my ex. My kids seem to be OK with everything, but I just can’t do it. It makes everything uncomfortable. Now my older sister and I are cut off from the rest of the family. What can I do? — Disturbed Middle Sister Dear Sister: Obviously, this attraction has been going on for at I’d like to suggest another. 3DUHQWV¶GD\VDUH¿OOHGZLWKPHHW- ing the needs of their growing chil- dren, in addition to maintaining a Creators home and keeping up with career Syndicate Inc. responsibilities. This may be the bus- iest and most stressful time of their Kathy lives. They have less time to think Mitchell and about their parents, yet they need Marcy Sugar their parents’ love and support more than ever. $IWHU RXU ¿UVW ZDV ERUQ P\ least four years (and probably lon- ger). We agree that dating the sib- father-in-law would call to say that ling (or best friend) of an ex can be he would be grilling that weekend problematic and we don’t recom- and wondered if the baby would mend it. But you don’t get to con- like some prime rib. My mother-in- trol who other people date, and that law was happy to bake and deco- includes both your ex and your sister. rate cookies with my second-grader Expressing your opinion about it is for a school activity. I would sug- ¿QH&UHDWLQJXOWLPDWXPVRQO\IRUFHV JHVW WKDW ³&U\LQJ 0RWKHU´ VWHS LQWR a more supportive role. Does she an estrangement. Your decision now is whether or invite the family over for a meal and not to accept your sister’s relationship fun activity? Does she offer to take (you don’t have to approve), in order the children so the parents can have to remain close to the rest of the fam- time alone? Does she inquire about ily. If the two of them split up, you’ve the children’s activities and attend lost nothing. If they marry, you will when possible? Grandparents can be be stuck with this, so be sure you very important to families, and such make a choice that you can live with. efforts are greatly appreciated. — Dear Annie: I am writing about Been There on Both Sides Dear Been There: There are ³&U\LQJ0RWKHU´ZKRYLHZVKHUIRU- merly loving and involved daugh- always two sides to every story WHULQODZDV³FROGDQGGLVWDQW´QRZ VRPHWLPHVWKUHH:HKRSH³&U\LQJ that the children are older. You gave 0RWKHU´ZLOOJLYH\RXUJUHDWVXJJHV- her some possible explanations. tions a try. Annie’s Mailbox THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, APRIL 11, 2016 By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). The hardest kind of criticism to take is honest criticism. Only the strong (that means you) can handle it, and handle it you will — because there’s something just beyond your usual awareness that will be incredibly helpful for you to know. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Those mo- ments in which you feel happy, healthy, safe and protected from all harm — those shouldn’t be rare. If those moments are not abundant for you, why not? Today is a fine time to turn the trend around. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Life will make you change for the better, and there’s noth- ing you need to do about that now. Just relax and believe. If you can’t believe, that’s fine, too, but you’ll be more comfortable if you at least relax. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Those who know you well are expecting you to succeed, and so are those who don’t know you. That’s because success is your vibe these days! Anyone who isn’t rooting for you in an obvi- ous way doesn’t belong on your team. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Your perfect blend is out there. When the music of your thoughts mixes with the music of a compatible individ- ual’s thoughts, the result will be a beautiful, layered symphony you both can dance to. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Stressful mo- ments have a way of constricting your cre- ativity and thought processes. Laughter is an experience of opening up and getting ev- erything flowing again. You’ll be at your best when you keep looking for the humor. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Maybe it sounds a little harsh, but the fact is that some people in your life nourish you while others deplete you. Recognize this reality and plan your day FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE accordingly to stay buoyant. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Take a mo- ment to gently acknowledge the feeling you’re having; it’s human. You’re not the only one. Whatever you feel, it’s acceptable. Does that help you soften into the moment instead of resisting it? SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Address the concerns you have about your image. It’s not selfish to want to put your best foot for- ward. This is the moment to nip a problem in the bud or make an easy improvement. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You get to decide just how close you want people to be to you. Sure, they may have their own ideas, and there is a bit of negotiating to do (most of it informal and implied), but ultimately you’re in charge. Don’t forget that! AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). For mo- ments it will be as though your ordinary mind and sense of personal identity have dissolved into a dream. The question is: How much of this dream are you able to influence? Test it out. Assert yourself and see. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You didn’t go wrong; you went right. Anyway, it’s best not to think about it now. This is different from the original plan, but assume that it’s different in a good way and move forward. TUESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (April 12). You’ve a talent for finding helpful people. The most attractive aren’t always the best for you. Wish- ing to be a bright light in the world, you keep asking what would yield the highest good for the most people. You’ll be at the center of the social swirl in May and June. August brings different work for excellent pay. Scorpio and Capricorn adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 6, 41, 49, 22 and 48.
