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FEATURES 6A THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, MARCH 31, 2016 Tomorrow’s horoscope Sister-in-law wreaks havoc By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. Dear Annie: I come from a large family. We haven’t had any truly rough times, but our sister- in-law is proving to be a problem for me. “Jennifer” has never liked me. At her wedding, my other siblings were attendants, but not me. She often invites my siblings for din- ner, but never me. I could live with that, but I am bothered by the way she treats my mother. 0\ EURWKHU KDV ¿YH FKLOGUHQ For years, my mother has baby- sat for free. She attends all their events to show her support. She invites the kids to fun activities. Mom recently took on a full-time job and can no longer babysit. Jen- nifer always seemed a little jeal- ous of how close Mom is to the kids, and now she’s found a way to exclude her. Jennifer has stopped communicating with either of my parents. She declines invitations to family events at my parents’ house, and won’t invite them any- where. She won’t tell them when the kids’ events are. Last week, Mom saw Jennifer at the grocery, and she wouldn’t look at her or say hello. Jennifer’s attitude is having an effect on my brother. He’s starting to behave the same way. This is this for your mother’s sake, and see if anything works to get this sister-in-law to behave with more compassion. (And shame on your Creators brother for permitting his wife to Syndicate Inc. treat Mom this way.) Dear Annie: I read the let- Kathy ter from “Mother-In-Law,” who Mitchell and regrets the way she treated her Marcy Sugar husband’s mother now that she is the recipient of her son’s wife’s awful for my mother and an injus- disdain. I was happy to see you tice to the kids. Mom is too nice to point out that many women have say anything, and if I speak up, it wonderful relationships with their mothers-in-law. will only make things worse. I could not have asked for a My older sister has told me that I will soon be excluded from EHWWHUZRPDQWR¿OOWKLVUROHLQP\ any family event involving Jenni- life. My mother-in-law did an out- fer if I don’t “change my ways.” I standing job raising her son and don’t understand what I have done accepted me into her family with ZURQJRUKRZWR¿[LW&RXOG\RX grace and love. Sadly, she devel- please give me some suggestions? oped Alzheimer’s and we had to watch a beautiful, active and — Frustrated Dear Frustrated: We don’t engaging woman fall victim to know what you have “done the ravages of this insidious dis- wrong,” other than to respond to ease. It was heartbreaking to see Jennifer in the same negative way this decline, but she was always she responds to you. But we can tell happy to see us when we visited. you that improving the relationship She knew we belonged to her in will require major effort from you, some way. I learned a lot from her, and can since Jennifer is unlikely to bother. Please talk to your older sister and only pray that I have the same type ask her to explain what might help of relationship with my son’s wife you get along better with Jennifer. when that day comes. — Grateful Don’t criticize her. Be sincere. Do Daughter-in-Law Annie’s Mailbox ARIES (March 21-April 19). The one who makes you feel that you must perform in order to earn love is not really giving love at all; that person is rewarding you for fulfilling a personal need, which has a lot more to do with utility than love. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You would pre- fer to be adored by the one you adore. Who wouldn’t? This would make life candy-sweet indeed. However, it should also be noted that such a dynamic is not in any way necessary to your happiness. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). It’s not like you to overlook the crucial role that pleasure plays in life, and yet lately you’ve denied some of the things that please you. Now it’s time to assess: Was the reason for that denial really good enough? CANCER (June 22-July 22). Your secret is safe with you — and that’s about it today. Even your best friend can’t be totally trusted with sen- sitive information. If you write it in your diary, use a code. Everyone is interested in you these days! LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The answer to one problem is the seed of another problem. For this reason, refrain from solving everything right away. It’s a good time to think it over, let it ride or just plain stall for a better time. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Someone has given time, effort and money in hopes that you would advance along certain lines. You’ve bet- tered your position, but you still have a ways to go. Keep going; you’ll make your team proud. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Before you put your money on the best, strongest and most qualified, consider that anyone can have a good day. Sometimes the worst horse takes the gold cup. Such an event will simultaneously restore FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE and rock your faith. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You probably won’t stay accountable to your own set of rules. It’s not weakness. There’s just too much going on for you now. If you need to keep the rule, get more people involved in it: They’ll hold you ac- countable. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You’ll be there for the person who is hurting. It’s likely you could pick up some residual emotional pain if you’re not careful, so be sure to protect yourself. Practice excellent self-care before, during and after. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). What you’re striving for will be a lot of trouble. Some would define it as “just one thing after another.” Well, that’s precisely what you like about the situation. It’s riddled with the challenges that make you better. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You feel driven to put your ideas in front of a crowd even though the idea of doing this gives you emotional trem- ors. This is just the kind of contradiction that is making someone fall in love with you. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). When roused by feelings of irritation, consider that such a re- action is usually as disturbing an energy as the original thing that caused it. An unwanted situa- tion will be dissolved with a calm approach. FRIDAY’S BIRTHDAY (April 1). Creative juices flow now! You will diversify your social interests. The two groups might not blend to- gether well, but each in their separate way will enrich you. A fresh assignment in May will bring fast success. In June your life becomes easier with the improved behavior and performance of those who account to you. Love signs are Gem- ini and Libra. Your lucky numbers are: 41, 27, 5, 15 and 42.
