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FEATURES 6A Tomorrow’s horoscope Stuck in a cold marriage Dear Annie: When I met my husband many years ago, he had just returned from Vietnam. His mind was shaky, and he was a chain smoker and a serious alcoholic. We have maintained a comfortable, peaceful relationship. I could not tolerate drunkenness, so he stopped. But what seemed left was an unaf- fectionate, unemotional robot. He has never hugged me, held my hand or actually kissed me (only quick- ly, during our silent, intimate mo- ments). Compliments? Never. He never bought a ring for me, which not only is embarrassing but also makes me feel as though I have no value to him. He is kind to the children, pro- vides meagerly but adequately, and makes no waves. We simply exist. I settled for this and it would hurt too many nice people for me to go my own way. But my point in writing to you is to save other women: Think before getting involved with a cold, unfeeling person. Counseling is out. We never have a conversation. I truly believe his lifelong chain-smoking has affected his mental and physical health. — Too Little, Too Late Dear Too Little: We wouldn’t be so quick to blame the chain-smok- ing. While it has undoubtedly af- THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, JANUARY 28, 2016 By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. I understand how important each of the very few days available for deer hunting is to a fellow hunter. “Left Out in the Cold” said her husband Creators misses holidays and Mother’s Day Syndicate Inc. because they interfere with hunting season. She didn’t say how far away Kathy Mitchell her husband travels to hunt. and If he is not too far, he could Marcy Sugar perhaps hunt close to home in the morning and return for Thanks- fected his health, it is more likely giving and Christmas dinner later that his experience in Vietnam (and in the evening after legal hunting possibly his upbringing) had a great- hours. However, if he is unable to er impact on his emotional health. compromise and insists on missing Many of those who have served in holidays, then I suggest that she just wars suffer from PTSD and nev- go to the relatives without him and er asked for or received treatment. enjoy herself without giving him a Your husband could be one of them. second thought. I have to say, the only time I We’re not going to give you a lecture on expecting an unaffection- could justify having Christmas ate, robotic man to change once he postponed would be if an important marries. It’s too late for that. And family member were in the service of course, if you could get your or in the hospital. Sounds to me that husband to visit a nearby VA to ask “Left Out’s” entire marriage might about PTSD counseling, that might need some professional interven- be tremendously helpful. But you tion. — “Dear” Beats “Deer” Any- are the one who wrote. We think you time Dear Anytime: Compromise is deserve better. The fact that leaving him might cause “nice people” to be always possible, but only if both hurt is not a good enough reason for parties are agreeable. When one you to make such a lifelong sacri- person is not, the other has the ¿FH *HW FRXQVHOLQJ IRU \RXUVHOI choice of changing one’s situation, DFFHSWLQJ ZKDW FDQQRW EH ¿[HG RU and see what choices you have. Dear Annie: I am a hunter, and being perpetually upset. Annie’s Mailbox ARIES (March 21-April 19). Your ruling planet, Mars, is more than the planet of ag- gression, survival and war. He also governs the protection of resources, especially food. Today you’ll do your part to set you and yours up for future bounty. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). While the oth- ers are busy gabbing about what they think of each other, you’ll be following your curiosity to bigger and more meaningful topics, mostly having to do with ideas instead of people. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Whether or not you are looking forward to that big event, it’s going to happen. You may as well get psyched up for it. A fellow fire sign (Leo or Sagittarius) will help in this regard. CANCER (June 22-July 22). All it takes is a smile and an encouraging word to boost team spirit. They may want you to volunteer for more responsibility. You are not obligated! Lost objects will turn up tonight. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You’re a fast study. Too fast, sometimes, because you get it on the first try and expect that it will always hap- pen like that. It won’t. In order to do things better the second time, you have to do them a second time. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Is someone trying to control you? It is very unwise for any to attempt this, as your bristles are serious. You’re in the mood to resist authority and delve deeper into a strain of independent thought. Go with it and you’ll be lucky. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Perhaps you don’t even like the admiration you secretly feel for that roughish someone who, for all his or her wicked ways, still manages to win your affection. Alas, your heart has its own rules. The question is, what’s next? FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). It’s like your battery hasn’t quite kicked in and you might have to push this car some to get that motor running. Helpful friends will push you. Once you get it moving, it’s smooth sailing. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). It’s only natural that the others are thinking of their own stories instead of getting things right in yours. That’s why it’s imperative that you stay in charge on your end. Get on your own side! It’s not selfish! CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You’ll give the others a sense that you are confiding in them, and this charges the relationships with a special, private energy. Whether or not these are really secrets you’re divulging is another matter. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). For the spe- cific job of the day, you have no real compe- tition. This is you, doing what only you can, and doing it at the highest, most unique level. These are all reasons to keep your eyes on your own page. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The spot- light swings to you, sets you aglow in a way that makes you feel like the star you are, and then, only moments later, moves again. That’s why you have to seize the moment when it’s on you! FRIDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Jan. 29). You know that unfulfilled dream you were seriously con- sidering giving up? Well, not so fast. You just weren’t ready before, but you’re getting there now, and when you apply yourself in Feb- ruary, a new development will make you so happy you hung in there. Abundance comes in March; romance in June! Scorpio and Li- bra adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 3, 28, 45, 33 and 41.
