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Man’s aches irritate wife
Dear Annie: Please help me
before I pull my hair out. I am 40
and have been married for the last
eight years to a man I love more
than I thought possible. We have
a good relationship. We are open
and talk often.
My dilemma is that he com-
plains all the time about aches and
pains. Not a day goes by that there
isn’t some ailment bothering him. I
have tried to think back to earlier in
our relationship, and I don’t recall
whether he’s always done this and I
had blinders on, or if his complaints
have become more frequent.
Granted, he has had his share
of minor health problems, but so
have I and many other people. I
don’t want to overlook anything
serious, nor do I think he is a hypo-
chondriac, but I have found myself
becoming more and more callus
and dismissive of his complaints
and have even caught myself roll-
ing my eyes. This is not in my na-
ture and I don’t like responding
this way.
How should I handle this situa-
tion? If I tell him how I feel about
it, I know it will hurt his feelings.
On the other hand, if I do nothing,
I am eventually going to snap and
bark at him. Any suggestions? —
Married to a Kvetch
Annie’s
Mailbox
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
Kathy Mitchell
and
Marcy Sugar
Dear Married: The ¿rst thing
you need to do is make sure his
constant aches and pains are not,
in fact, masking something worse.
So the next time he grumbles, in-
sist that he make an appointment
with his doctor and go with him.
If he says it’s “nothing to worry
about,” tell him, “No. You’ve been
complaining about this for a long
time, and I want to be sure there is
nothing seriously wrong.”
If the doctor’s examination
shows nothing beyond normal
wear-and-tear, encourage your
husband to get a massage, see a
chiropractor or acupuncturist, or
change his workout, which could
be aggravating something. (If he’s
not working out, suggest that he
start, as it could help build up his
strength.) If you do this with sin-
cerity and concern every time he
complains, he will become more
aware of it and less likely to con-
tinue.
Dear Annie: I need to address
your response to “Wary Wife,”
whose husband used to go to strip
clubs and she doesn’t trust that
he’s not looking to meet strippers.
This woman works two jobs
and they have three children. Tell-
ing her to be more attentive to her
husband is shocking. Why isn’t her
husband there for her and for their
kids? Why has he money to go out
while his wife has to work?
I think there are serious ques-
tions that need to be answered
here. Please reconsider your re-
sponse. — A.
Dear A.: We appreciate that
the wife is working hard, but she
says in her letter, “I will admit that
I haven’t been the most attentive
wife,” so we think she needs to
work on that, too. It cannot all be
about the husband’s peccadilloes,
even though he certainly is under-
mining his wife’s trust and needs
to stop. But you cannot neglect
your spouse, regardless of the rea-
son, and expect things to be just
¿ne. It doesn’t matter which one of
them is more to blame. The point
is to repair the damage and make
the marriage stronger, and that will
take effort from both of them.
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, JANUARY 22, 2016
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). As for that
secret expectation that you’ll excel beyond
what any human has done up till now, well,
it’s causing you too much stress. If you
can’t let it go, at least shelve it for a while.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Instead of
waiting for the right one to come along, you’ll
work with the opportunity in front of you, de-
termined to make the best of it and pull out
every bit of goodness you can from it.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’ve been
known to place people on pedestals,
though never unjustifiably. Once you hone
in on a worthy subject, the flattery and at-
tention you give will court a sweet propos-
al, indeed.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). You’ll let
someone off the hook. It’s not because
this person deserves the save, or because
you’re an authority on the matter. It’s just
because you’re merciful, which is an admi-
rable thing to be.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). When the rou-
tine gets stale, the work gets tedious and
even the so-called leisure seems to hit a
dull mark, something else, wonderful and
inspiring, will show up to pull you through.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You may be
willing to lose what you have but you’re not
willing to gamble what other people have,
and for this reason you’ll be trusted with a
very important responsibility.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). First you
didn’t believe it; then you suspected it; and
now there is irrefutable evidence to confirm
your suspicions: You are officially some-
one’s favorite person.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). When you
work with others to make something, your
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DILBERT
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ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
feelings about what you’re making, your
own abilities and the contributions of oth-
ers get all swirled around into one beautiful
amalgamation.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). The
input demands response, and respond
you must. If you rattle off the first things
that come to mind, focusing on your heart
and the way you really feel, you’ll say just
the right thing.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). As
Mom used to say, “There is no bored, only
boring.” Uninteresting things and people
suddenly become fascinating indeed when
someone as inquisitive as you enters the
picture.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You paid
a price to develop your gifts. You gave your
hours, your money and the very best of
your attention to bring them up to the level
they are at now. You’re right to be judicious
in the sharing of these jewels.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Even if you
and the other person both want to go to the
same place, someone has to go first. The
lane is narrow; only one can go at a time.
Everything will go smoother when you de-
cide who the leader is.
SATURDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Jan. 23).
The next 10 weeks will bring a hard-won
victory involving a personal and private
kind of success. In February you will get
up to speed in several areas of your life at
once, but in March you’ll narrow the focus
to earning enough to make the investment
of your dreams. Love comes at you in new
ways in April. Aries and Gemini adore you.
Your lucky numbers are: 3, 20, 14, 9 and
43.