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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, JANUARY 14, 2016 FEATURES Tomorrow’s horoscope Lazy wife angers husband Dear Annie: My wife and I have been married for 30 years and we’ve had the same problem all of that time. She doesn’t have an outside job, but she doesn’t do much around the house, ei- ther. She doesn’t clean and rare- ly cooks. It is always up to me to tidy up. I am forever picking up stuff, clearing piles of papers and eating mostly store-bought meals. After a day at work, I would like to relax a bit. But I cannot tolerate this type of messy, dirty atmosphere. It upsets me and I lose my temper. This has been going on for our entire marriage and nothing changes. When I raise my voice, I am blamed for having a temper and made out to be the bad guy, and around and around we go. What can I do? — Going Mad in Canada Dear Mad: This type of is- sue should be addressed early in a marriage, before the behavior comes entrenched and resent- ment builds. After 30 years of en- abling, you are delusional if you expect your wife to suddenly turn into a housekeeper. Losing your temper obviously isn’t working. ,QVWHDG ¿QG ZD\V WR FRSH &DQ you hire cleaning help so that the ful brat. 7HOO ³+HDUWEURNHQ´ WR JHW RXW while she can. Moving in won’t ¿[DQ\WKLQJ:HWULHGFRXQVHOLQJ Creators XQWLO ZH ¿QDOO\ EHJDQ DGGUHVV- Syndicate Inc. ing her awful behavior and she whined that she didn’t want to Kathy Mitchell go. We couldn’t force her, so we and got nowhere and now I just deal Marcy Sugar with it. I have tried to be nice, but it house stays mostly tidy? We also doesn’t work. My husband won’t recommend that you stop making do anything about it, because he an issue of it. Instead, say noth- doesn’t see it. My best response LQJ&RRN\RXURZQPHDOVFOHDQ now is to just ignore her, as sad your own dishes, wash your own as that sounds. — Frustrated in clothes, and if your wife objects, Oregon Dear Oregon: It’s too bad that tell her as sweetly as possible that your stepdaughter has chosen to she is welcome to do the same. Dear Annie: “Heartbroken in ruin what could be a solid moth- &DOLIRUQLD´ QHHGV WR UXQ IRU KHU er-daughter relationship, and that life. No amount of counseling is your husband prefers to keep his going to help a guy who doesn’t blinders on. We hope the daugh- ter grows up enough to be tolera- see that his kids are tyrants. I married a man who has a ble and that your husband’s other rude teenage daughter. This kid qualities make up for the frustra- FDQÀLSDVZLWFK6KHLVQDVW\WR tion. Several readers suggested that me and then becomes a little an- gel the second my husband walks ³+HDUWEURNHQ´VXUUHSWLWLRXVO\UH- in the door. When I come home cord her stepdaughter’s bullying from work, she won’t even ac- and then play it back for the hus- knowledge me. Of course, I am band. That might open his eyes, not allowed to say anything about but we aren’t convinced that it her rude behavior, or question his will change his attitude toward constant spoiling of this ungrate- his child. Annie’s Mailbox 5A By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). While it may be easier to get angry than it is to work out a solution, there is little to be gained from losing control. Remove yourself from the sit- uation to think it through. A walk around the block will produce brilliance. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Part of the “homework” you need to do will involve getting a second (and third and fourth and seventh) opinion. Your keen mind will sort through this data and home in on the golden ticket. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Before you go counting that admired someone among the glorious, consider where the person came from and how he or she got to the current position. You’re glorious in your own way, too, you know. CANCER (June 22-July 22). If you have to give up a little money and some of your time to make a partner happy, it will be worth it. What’s even harder may be the part where you have to compromise on a preference. You’re up to this! LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). At times there is simply nothing left to do but give an ultima- tum. These times are few and far between and, however dramatic today’s circumstanc- es may seem, this is not one of them. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Dish out com- pliments — to your friends, to strangers, your boss, your loved ones, etc. Everyone could use your brand of ego-inflation. Even people you think would be above flattery will eat yours up. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). What used to seem romantic may now get on your nerves; such is the bane of familiarity. The answer is to go off in separate directions for a while FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE and gather new influences so you’ll be men- tally fresh again when you reunite. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). When you can’t change the way things are, you may still be able to change how you experience the way things are. Detachment is the key. This will be made much easier by today’s delicious distraction. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Those moments when you first wake up and right before you fall asleep are potent. Don’t waste this power concentrating on responsibilities and worries. Use it to project your love and envision your happy future. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You have enormous respect and gratitude for the one who will overlook your flaws, excuse your mistakes and generally try to see and bring out the best in you at every juncture. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Though you may have been completely convicted in a certain belief yesterday, this is a new day with fresh evidence, different challenges and a unique set of circumstances. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). It’s time for you to assume leadership. If you followed the protocol it would only cause hesitation, doubt and confusion. Instead, swoop in and start handling things. Act, delegate, decide. FRIDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Jan. 15). One dec- laration having to do with who you are (or want to be) will make all of the difference in where you arrive this year. Small improve- ments will have outsized effects on your love life in February. In March, the trust and rapport you generate in your relationships will lead to professional advancement and fi- nancial gain. Leo and Pisces adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 5, 35, 41, 19 and 43.
