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Pillows missing after visits
Dear Annie: What should
one do if family and friends come
from out of state to visit, and
when they leave, you see that
some of your items are missing?
I’m not talking about money and
jewelry. I’m talking about good
feather pillows and objects of art
that are treasured.
When I asked the suspected
perpetrators about the items, they
all denied taking them. So I give
up. Is there any way to get them
back, or to prevent such things
from being taken the next time?
— A Mom and Grandmother
Dear Mom: Feather pillows?
Perhaps you need to check the
size of their luggage. Let’s start
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the doubt. Is it possible that you
moved these items elsewhere
and forgot? It happens more of-
ten than we care to admit. And if
it happens every single time you
have any overnight guest, you
may want to speak to your doctor.
The problem may be coming from
Friends who steal should not
be invited back to stay overnight.
Instead, recommend a nearby
hotel and offer to meet them for
dinner. You can do the same with
relatives if you choose. We know
that children and grandchildren
often fall into a different category.
Those who are already under sus-
picion should know that you plan
to check their rooms for missing
items before they leave because
things get misplaced and you’d
hate to accuse them of anything.
Those who contemplate stealing
will hopefully be warned and
not repeat their misdeeds. You
also should lock up any items of
particular value. But if someone
continues to steal, consider that
it could be a mental health issue
and suggest they get professional
Dear Annie: I’m writing about
the letter from “Concerned Aunt,”
whose nephew has herpes. I want
to tell him it’s not his fault.
I am 42 and developed herpes
in my late 20s. I was also unaware
of my partner’s status until infect-
ed. Initially, I was disturbed, sad-
dened and upset. But I learned of
others in the same situation who
encouraged me and shared their
stories of coping. I can report
that there is hope. I date and have
successful relationships. In each
case, I share my status before any
intimate contact and inform them
of the safety measures we must
engage in. Each one has been OK
with it. I have few breakouts, and
I adhere to safety measures.
I still get saddened at times,
but I keep the faith. I also use
my status to share discreetly
with young people, family and
close friends about safe sex con-
cerns including “dental dams,” of
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most people are unaware. Surpris-
ingly, I could donate blood a year
after infection, which somehow
Herpes is a very manageable
situation, and you are not alone.
You can have a full life, and you
and upfront is extremely import-
ant. — Nicole from NYC
Dear Nicole: Thank you for
your supportive letter. We hope
the nephew will see this and be
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, DECEMBER 7, 2015
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). It won’t be
enough for you to know a person’s name.
You’ll want to also know that person’s story.
And if a person can’t deliver you said “story,”
you’ll respect that person all the more — a
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). The Internet
tells you to spoil the one you adore with
hugs and kisses — not bad advice, though
much depends on timing. You’re playing a
sophisticated game. One answer does not
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). The Bible
suggests that we are dust and will return
to it. Joni Mitchell echoed the sentiments
when she sang, “We are star dust. We are
golden.” You’ll feel the profundity of those
CANCER (June 22-July 22). There is a
person who depends on you. This is real
and important. Be all you can be to that
person today. This is one of many days in a
chapter of time, and yet it is the only day we
can do something about.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Maybe you don’t
even know how you got into it, but boy, you
are in it now. Are you ever. For a lot of the
day you’ll wonder how to get out of it. The
expression that rules after that: Good rid-
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). I takes a long
time to be a master. That’s why the masters
are exonerated. You’ll praise one today with-
out knowing how your praise will land. Truly,
it will mean more than the master lets on.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). When some-
one makes an effort, you encourage. Words
help; actions speak louder. You’ve a good
idea about the action you should take, so
FRANK AND ERNEST
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
WIZARD OF ID
ROSE IS ROSE
go for it: You are always on the ready to
make things better for you and yours.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You attract
good friends; there’s no question about that.
Do they measure up to the standards that
others set for you? Maybe not. Are those
people in a position to set your standards?
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). It’s fine
if you don’t make sense. In fact, stop. Then
realize: No one makes sense all of the time.
Your nonsense will have a certain genius to
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Play-
ing the game — that’s where the fun is for
you. The score only matters in as much as
it’s a marker for who gets to play and who
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Art is not
science. As much as one tries to measure
it and weigh it and make sense of it, it can
never work on a logical scale. And neither
can a certain relationship you have that is
prettying up the walls of your life.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’ll use
all of the tools available to you to connect
with like minds. This will accentuate your
tendencies. By finding kindred spirits, you’ll
feed the person you are.
TUESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Dec. 8). The
happiness you feel now will carry forward,
so focus on it and feel more of it! New fam-
ily additions come in February. March is for
educating yourself, and April is for finding
people who can publicize what you do. June
will bring a beautiful environment and July
will help you pay for all of that. Aries and
Scorpio adore you. Your lucky numbers are:
5, 14, 3, 39 and 13.