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FEATURES 6A Tomorrow’s horoscope Mom supports teen’s sexuality Dear Annie: My 12-year-old daughter confessed to me this eve- ning that she believes she is bi- sexual. She was quite upset about a comment made by another girl today. I immediately comforted her and explained that I love her, no holds barred. She will always be my baby. I know your column has rec- ommended some websites for parents and personal support, but I am unable to recall them. I want to become more educated in order to help guide my child on how to be happy with who she is. This in- formation will also help when she decides to tell her father and step- mother. Thank you. — Love My Child Dear Love: We commend you for being a supportive, loving par- ent. Please keep in mind that sex- XDOLW\ FDQ EH PRUH ÀXLG WKDQ ZH sometimes realize, especially for teenagers, so we hope you will con- tinue to be supportive while your daughter sorts it out. A great web- VLWH IRU SDUHQWV LV 3)/$* SÀDJ org). And if your daughter is being bullied because of her sexual orien- tation, contact the school immedi- ately. This should not be tolerated. Dear Annie: I saw the let- ter from “Frustrated,” the nearly never being heard, this has like- ly been the pattern of a lifetime, however unintentional the father’s comparisons may have been. If Creators the father truly wants to maximize Syndicate Inc. success in having his older son vis- it, I suggest that a sincere, unquali- Kathy Mitchell ¿HGDSRORJ\IRUQRWXQGHUVWDQGLQJ and how he previously failed to ac- Marcy Sugar knowledge his son’s perspective, along with your advice to extend 90-year-old man whose wife is now an unpressured invitation, would in a nursing home after a stroke. He go a long way toward achieving said his oldest son won’t visit and that. — Been There becomes angry when asked. It’s Dear Been There: It is a com- truly sad how dynamics between mon problem between parents and parents and children can get com- children that they see the same pletely off track when well-mean- events through very different lens- ing parents, either through a lack es. What’s worse is when one of of knowledge or mindfulness, do them tries to convince the other not understand the pain they cause that their perspective is wrong. to their children by the underlying This is a recipe for resentment and critical messages they convey. defensiveness. Parents want their $W¿UVWJODQFHDVRQZKRZRQ¶W children to love them, and children visit his elderly mother in a nursing want to be loved. But a lifetime home would seem to lack compas- of misunderstandings and skewed sion. But the frustrated father who perspectives can get in the way. In wrote the letter conveyed an unspo- order to move past these issues, you ken tone of disapproval by imply- sometimes have to be the bigger ing that the older son should feel person and apologize, whether you guilty for not measuring up to the believe it’s warranted or not. The example of his supportive younger objective is not to be “right.” It’s brother. to have a close, loving relationship. Based on the son’s reported That often takes both forgiveness outburst and his stated feelings of and generosity of spirit. Annie’s Mailbox THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 27, 2015 By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Even though you don’t want to play favorites, there is someone in your life who you love saying hello to and hate saying goodbye to. You’ll figure out how to spend more quality time together. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). It’s not all distraction and whimsy. You will establish boundaries that will help you be at peace with your devices. We have incarnated at this time to experience the lessons inside the wonders of the modern world. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Once you make peace with the past it will have less in- fluence over your present. Most likely, this is just a matter of letting go of guilt and blame. You weren’t perfect, and neither were they. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Today’s main issue will arrive on the scene with such a humble presence that it’s impossible to tell yet how important it will be to you in a week or next month. This is one to watch, though. Write down some thoughts about it. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). A loved one will lean on you with more than the usual amount of problems, but don’t worry. This person is not expecting you to fix them all, only to make facing them a little less lonely. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Time heals. Wanting the healing process to be faster won’t make it so. Relax and give it time. Impatience is a very unflattering tone that doesn’t look good on anyone. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). It is very dif- ficult to discover your own blind spot. But trust that it’s there. When someone points out where you’ve made a mistake, this is a gift. You’ll be grateful for the enlightenment. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Some say FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE that love doesn’t exist except in evidential form. Others say it’s a verb. Lately it feels to you to be a pre-destined agreement made between soul mates. It’s like you’re knitted to another with invisible thread. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You can’t help it that you’re curious about how other people live. This makes you an excel- lent conversationalist now, even though it might also lead you to learn more than you wanted to. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). A friend will be so much more to you than merely a companion on the raft of life. There are certain friends who seem to show up with their own ships, ready to set sail for an epic adventure. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). By creat- ing happiness for yourself, you will help oth- ers be happy, too. Let that be your guiding principle as you sort out something that’s been causing you stress. This isn’t selfish! It matters. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Loved ones can push your buttons better than anyone else, because experience has taught them where those buttons are. It comes with the territory of intimate relationships today. SATURDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Nov. 28). New and mysterious friends decorate your life, and it will take the better part of 2016 to get to know them better. A contract in January will bring in more money for you and yours. February will feature a passion- ate challenge. You won’t be judged on how successful you are, but, rather, on how well you empathize. Libra and Capricorn adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 16, 9, 38, 11 and 42.
