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FEATURES 6A Tomorrow’s horoscope Should wife disclose liaison? Dear Annie: I am six months into a separation from my hus- band of seven years. (The separa- tion was his idea.) I thought our relationship was solid and was completely blindsided when he told me he felt deserted and lone- ly. While I am still hoping for reconciliation, I have recently begun seeing someone else. My relationship with Mr. New is of WKHIULHQGVZLWKEHQH¿WVQDWXUH, have no desire to actually date him (we want very different things in life), and at any rate, he is leaving the area in a couple of months. But for the moment, he’s a fun distraction and a much-needed boost to my ego. If I reconcile with my husband, am I required to disclose this liai- son? My husband has been seeing other women for quite some time, although this was not a factor in our separation. We have a “don’t- ask-don’t-tell” type of open mar- riage and seeing others is accept- ed. — Still Married Dear Still: If you have a “don’t-ask-don’t-tell” relation- ship, then you are under no obli- gation to disclose anything about your extracurricular activities. However, if your husband feels Annie’s Mailbox Creators Syndicate Inc. Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar lonely and abandoned, you might want to rethink the type of mar- riage you have. Open marriag- es don’t work for everyone, and yours may not be as satisfying as either of you expected. Please don’t assume your problems will resolve themselves during the separation. The two of you should have a frank and honest discussion and see wheth- er you can get to the root of your issues. Then you can work on making the necessary adjustments so things improve. Otherwise, professional counseling can help steer you in the right direction, to- gether or separately. Dear Annie: There’s another option to consider when it comes to “Guilty by Accusation,” the 20-year-old whose parents ac- cused him of taking their Xanax because he had once done so when he was 15. Xanax is prescribed for anxi- ety. For those who experience it, anxiety is a truly troubling ail- ment. Those suffering from it keep the issues that bother them roiling around in their heads much more intensely than the average person. The Xanax calms this and helps them “let go” a bit easier. So one needs to take the par- ents’ response into consideration — that they were more anxious about the missing pills than they were convinced that their son had stolen them. Accusing him was the easiest answer to their anxiety. Most of us have done some- thing when we were young that we’d like to take back. I hope “Guilty” realizes that his youthful VOLSXS GRHVQ¶W GH¿QH ZKR KH LV He sounds like a guy who cares. So when he asks what else he can say to his parents, I suggest he VD\³+RZFDQ,KHOS\RX¿QGWKH Xanax?” — Retired Pharmacist Dear Pharmacist: You make a good point that people with anxiety issues might worry tre- mendously about their misplaced medication, blaming whoever is handy. We hope the Xanax turns up soon so that their son is off the hook. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, NOVEMBER 23, 2015 By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Do you think that you can tell the size of a person by the size of the things that bother him? You’ll prove your spiritual breadth today. You’ll only concern yourself with what’s truly crucial. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Statistics can never predict the outcome for any one individual. You’ll defy odds. For this reason, it’s important that you don’t let anyone say what you can and can’t do. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). There are many live wires in your life this week. It may help you to think of events and people as fireworks. You have to let go to appreci- ate them; otherwise you’ll get hurt by the blast. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Who is there for you? Who answers your call? Who gets you where you want to go emo- tionally, physically and otherwise? This is the question that will clarify your day. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). There is nothing that will make the time go by more slowly than waiting for a phone call. Don’t. Move on. Let them catch up with you when they feel like it. Maybe you’ll be available; may- be you won’t. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). The news is full of danger, peril, so much trouble. But if you look for the helpers you will always find people who are helping. This will connect you with the best part of humanity. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Getting from point A to point B won’t be as easy as it was yesterday, but it will be more reward- ing by far. Your work ethic is stellar and gets better every day. Good, because this is a day to roll up your sleeves and work. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You’ll be praised for one thing when you really ought to be recognized for something else entirely. There’s no joy in getting credit for something you didn’t do. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). It’s like your heart is a chime and the person on your mind lately is the wind that makes you vibrate and sing a beautiful tone. This will go on for as long as there is no one around to put a damper on the vibration. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). While others pay a high price for entertainment, you entertain yourself. When you have this much of a rich inner life, you really don’t need a lot of external stimuli. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’ll be in the mood for a fearless, freewheeling adventure. Your partner in rebellion will be the obvious choice. This person has been waiting for the perfect opportunity that you’ll provide. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). There will be a period of “hit and miss.” Failure will teach you more than success does, al- though you have to be extremely evolved to take the lesson. When you figure out what’s working for you, do that and only that for a while. TUESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Nov. 24). The wonderful part is an intimate unspoken connection between you and another — this is a special bond that will carry you into the next part of your life. It’s no small thing to be in perfect harmony with some- one who knows how to bring out the best in you! You’ll sort out a family problem in February. Leo and Scorpio adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 30, 41, 2, 22 and 18.
