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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 5, 2015 FEATURES Daughter tired of taking care Dear Annie: I have been taking care of my mother since I was 17 and she was disabled from a car accident and unable to work. I am now 47, and Mom is 72. Her health is getting worse, so my husband and I recently moved her in with us. My hus- band and I both work full time. I have caregivers who come in during the day when we are at work, and we take care of her at night. Annie, I’m so tired. My hus- band and I can’t go anywhere overnight. Our sex life has gone downhill, because we are both so exhausted. Mom has become mean and combative, which makes our lives miserable. She doesn’t sleep much at night, which means neither do I. There are no other family members around to help. , KDYH WULHG WR ¿QG D VNLOOHG nursing facility or other assist- ed living place, but am having DKDUGWLPH¿QGLQJRQHWKDWVKH can afford. I want her some- where safe, but I also want my life back. I know this sounds awful of me. Any suggestions would be helpful. — Drained and Frustrated Dear Drained: Being a full- baby shower, which I attended, and I gave her a nice gift. Again, no thank-you note. Susie is getting married for Creators the second time and I am invit- Syndicate Inc. ed to the wedding. I have no de- sire to give her yet another gift Kathy Mitchell that will be completely ignored and and unappreciated. What do you Marcy Sugar say? Do I have to give her some- thing? — Thank-You’s Still Ap- time caregiver is a tiring job, preciated Dear Thank-You’s: If you and you’ve been at it for most of your life. It is perfectly natural attend the wedding, you are un- that you are exhausted and ready der an obligation to give a gift, WR¿QGDQRWKHUSODFHIRU0RPWR although it doesn’t need to be DV JHQHURXV DV WKH ¿UVW RQH ,I live. Most nursing homes will you do not receive any thank- accept Medicare when Mom’s you note in three to six months, money runs out. Please call the it is perfectly OK to call Susie Eldercare Locator at 1-800-677- and ask whether the gift was re- 1116 for information about the ceived. You’d be surprised how available resources in your area. often such things are lost or mis- %XW¿UVWDVNDERXWUHVRXUFHVIRU placed, especially when the gifts respite care for yourself. You de- are brought to the wedding in- stead of sent to the bride’s home. serve it. Dear Annie: A good friend of This includes cards with money mine has a very rude daughter. inside. And thank-you notes can “Susie” got married two years also go astray. Of course, if Susie did receive ago and I attended the ceremo- ny and gave her a monetary gift. the gift and is simply too rude to She never thanked me. Within have sent an acknowledgment of months, Susie dumped the hus- any kind, she deserves to squirm band and immediately got preg- a little when you ask her about nant by another man. She had a it. Annie’s Mailbox 5A Tomorrow’s horoscope By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). You need to relax, but not completely. Right now one eye needs to stay wide-awake, focused on your next move. Otherwise, you’ll miss a rather rare opportunity. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). If you have many hobbies it’s easier to find ways of dis- tracting yourself from negativity. That’s why, even though there is little negativity in this day, it’s still a fine time for cultivating new hobbies. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You need a bigger team. This is the bottom line, the top line, and everything in between today. Get more people. You support so many! You de- serve your own cheering section, too. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Your fanta- sy life is rich now, but instead of planning your escape to a paradise island, use the augmented powers of imagination that are currently available to you to see some magic and wonder in your current scene. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). There’s something you used to love, follow or ritualize that no longer seems to have a natural place in your life. It happens. You’re different, it’s different — things change. This is a good day for moving on. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Your mind will drift to things you said and did long ago. For better or worse, these things cannot be changed. When a loved one needs you in the moment, you’ll snap right back to the now. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Venture out alone and you’ll succeed. Listen up and you’ll hear the powerful and knowing voice of your own instinct. There’s another voice around you now, as misguided as it is prolif- FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE ic. Block that one out. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You’ll get more than one chance to make a deal, though you should know that it is more favor- able to act on the first one. Fresh enthusiasm will create momentum. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Rela- tionships are your gold. You’re like an artist creating a masterpiece of personal connec- tion. Tonight, new ideas will pop over your head like bubbles in a glass of champagne. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). In those moments when you feel lost, try to remem- ber that even the most confident people are not certain all of the time. Pause for a breath. It won’t be long before you realize that you know more than you thought. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You expect something else from life than others are hoping for — nothing better, just different. Regardless of these differences, your inter- ests will coincide nicely with the interests of those around you. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Only time will tell whether today’s move will bring you closer to the goal, but it won’t matter. Either you believed in it or you didn’t. You won’t do anything until you’re absolutely sure you can stand behind it. FRIDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Nov. 6). Inspiration strikes this month. All you have to do is re- lax and listen to others with an open mind, and perfect solutions will come. In Decem- ber you’ll fulfill someone else’s needs while trying to fulfill your own. The new year brings romance and fireworks. You’ll be acknowl- edged for a professional achievement in June. Capricorn and Sagittarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 40, 38, 1, 22 and 16.
