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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, OCTOBER 13, 2015
Ungrateful daughter upsets dad Tomorrow’s horoscope
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
Dear Annie: My wife and
I are in our early 70s and have
two daughters. The younger one
lives nearby, is married and has a
2-year-old. The older one, “Deir-
dre,” is divorced from a verbally
and emotionally abusive husband.
We had warned Deirdre against
marrying this man because they
seemed incompatible, but we were
supportive when she insisted she
loved him. They moved 2,500
miles away, and we traveled as of-
ten as possible to see her and show
that we cared. When she called at 3
a.m., crying and begging me to talk
to her husband, I traveled alone to
comply.
We suggested they seek coun-
seling, which they did, but it didn’t
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vorce, we paid for her lawyer.
When her ex left her high and dry,
we paid for a new car so she could
get to work and drive her daughter
to school. We pay their airfare to
come here for summers and holi-
days.
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ing to pay for all of these expens-
es. When we visit, my wife cooks
and helps our granddaughter with
her homework, while I clean house
and take her to and from school.
you cannot expect sweetness and
light from the girl. What you can
do is accept them as they are. You
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won’t always match up. Do what
you feel comfortable doing, but
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you can suggest it, but again, keep
Meanwhile, she has become just as your expectations in check. It will
confrontational as her mother. The save you a lot of grief in the long
girl never says thank you, is not run.
affectionate toward us and has no
Dear Annie: Oct. 13 is Met-
respect for our authority.
astatic Breast Cancer Awareness
Recently, Deirdre became an- Day. Metastatic breast cancer is
gry when our granddaughter called cancer that has spread from the
her at work in tears over a broken breast to other organs in the body,
necklace. We were partly blamed most commonly the bones, liver,
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home upset and are currently not of us diagnosed with MBC will
on speaking terms with Deirdre. I eventually die from the disease.
recently sent her a birthday card
Additional research and treat-
with a check, telling her that I will ment development will help a great
always love her. I don’t want to many patients in the future. Please
sever relations, but this relation- urge your readers to get informed.
ship negatively affects my wife — New York
and I wonder whether there is a
Dear New York: Thank you for
better solution. — Up the Creek the timely reminder. Anyone who
Without a Paddle
is interested in more information
Dear Creek: Yes. Let go. Deir- can contact the Metastatic Breast
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abuser didn’t help. Her daughter is National Cancer Institute at cancer.
a combination of her parents, so gov. We’ll be thinking of you.
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ROSE IS ROSE
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Here’s the
way that’s worked best for you and will
continue to work best for you: Do things
when you are ready to do them. Don’t
jump just because someone else is tell-
ing you to. Go at your own pace.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Children
have nothing better to go by than their
visceral response to people. Their sophis-
ticated defensive skills are primal. That’s
a juxtaposition that works well and can be
duplicated at any age.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Flaunt. The
dictionary defines it as an act of ostenta-
tion, drawing attention in hopes of gaining
admiration. But if you got it, why not? It’s
a celebration of that thing, for a moment...
CANCER (June 22-July 22). You may
project onto another person angel-like
qualities that they do not currently pos-
sess. And yet, they may possess these
qualities in the near future because of
your attention.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). So, you love
him. Is it for his virtue? Probably not. It’s
because of the special way he makes
you feel. You know, that was in you all the
time. He just activated it.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Domestic
happiness helps you feel emotionally
supported enough to tackle the challeng-
es. When you succeed, it’s a source of
pride for your loved ones, too.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Your hard
work has paid off, and now you can chill
out, revel and reflect on the curious path
that brought your unpredictable success.
Life is smiling at you.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). When it
reminds you of the old romance, take a
moment to replay the whole story in your
mind — the whole story, especially the
end bit. The memory will have a positive
effect on your current relationship.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21).
Maybe it doesn’t make the most sense to
you right now, but you’re a life-long learn-
er. Don’t forget that. Keep going until the
pixels arrange themselves into a clear
picture.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Com-
munication is your day’s agenda. People
talk; you listen. Sometimes they talk too
much, and you tune out. Why say less
with a lot of words? You can say a lot with
a few.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). There is
freedom in wildness, and very little of it
in civilization. That is part of the reason
you are so connected to nature right now.
You need to let that soft animal inside you
free.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You can
do remarkable work before the rest of
your workforce has caught their groove.
Why? Because you are immune to the
stresses that affect others.
WEDNESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 14).
Happy birthday and welcome to your year
of finally getting the admiration you de-
serve. Next month will be the hardest, so
get ready — you’ll need a few more skills
in your arsenal. Come on, though, you’ve
never been averse to learning. There’s
a party in February that will change the
way you think of yourself. Taurus and
Capricorn people adore you. Your lucky
numbers are: 15, 27, 31, 22 and 11.