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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, OCTOBER 12, 2015 FEATURES Tomorrow’s horoscope Man tired of depressed wife Dear Annie: I have been mar- ried to “Pam” for 16 years. During the last nine, she has gradually become a totally different person. She has gained a lot of weight, but that’s not the real issue. It’s everything that goes with it. Pam has successfully lost weight through healthier eating and exer- cise — multiple times. She gains energy, is more active in our kids’ lives, enjoys time with family and friends and seems happier. But as soon as she starts to show real re- sults, she gives up. This latest bout was the worst. With the exception of doctors’ ap- pointments, she no longer leaves WKHKRXVH,¿QGP\VHOIEHLQJERWK mother and father to the kids, do- ing most of the housework and also taking care of Pam. She no longer attends any of the kids’ school events. I work nights and am al- ways having to cut sleep short to do things that she could easily do. On top of that, Pam gets an- gry with me and everyone else for seemingly no reason at all, and then claims that we’re the ones snapping at her. I don’t argue with her about anything these days, but she looks WRSLFND¿JKWDOOWKHWLPH Two years ago, she accused me of having an affair (I wasn’t). efforts and her relationships. Can you go with Pam to her next doc- tor’s appointment and mention this? It could be a hormonal im- Creators balance. If necessary, would she Syndicate Inc. be willing to discuss it with her physician and get a referral to a Kathy Mitchell therapist? You both seem terribly and unhappy. Counseling for either of Marcy Sugar you would help. Dear Annie: “Stressed on Frankly, I’ve lost all interest in the Line,” says her self-centered intimacy with anyone. We had a mother also has hearing issues. long talk, and I was completely She should gradually replace her honest and told her that I am no mother’s telephone with equip- longer attracted to her because I ment for the hard-of-hearing. don’t feel like her husband. I feel Even when I was in my 30s and like her chaperone. reluctant to be seen wearing a I still love Pam because she is hearing aid, I used a telephone the mother of our children. A di- with a handset that sounded al- vorce scares me, not only because most like a speakerphone to RI WKH ¿QDQFLDO LVVXHV EXW DOVR friends with good ears. because my youngest child would 6KH FDQ ¿QG WKHP WKURXJK be devastated. (The other kids VRPH RI¿FH HTXLSPHQW VWRUHV wonder why we are still together.) electronic stores or online, or ask Should I wait until the youngest the local health department for is older? Would a divorce open assistance. Once she takes care of Pam’s eyes? I’m not sure I’d trust the hearing issue, she can work on her to follow through, no matter her mother’s self-centeredness. what she says. — Struggling in — B. New York Dear B.: Some folks who are Dear New York: We think Pam hard of hearing do not realize that is depressed, and there also could there is equipment that can ampli- be a medical issue that results in fy the sound of a normal landline her sabotaging her weight-loss phone. Thanks for mentioning it. Annie’s Mailbox 5A By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Today there are so many rumors, hoaxes and generally outrageous untruths out there just itching to be shared with the whole world. Before you repeat or share anything, get more in- formation. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). In a perfect world, the people you interact with under- stand the value of your time and theirs — it is our most precious resource, after all. You’ll probably have to teach others how to be more efficient (and why). GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Sometimes you want to open your heart to all the love you deserve, but today you feel most loved when people make room for you to be by yourself and do your own thing. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Finding your own path is not easy. Often you need a machete to cut back the brush and bramble. The machete of the day will be your words, concise and direct, articulating what you need and desire. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Did you wake up less than enthusiastic about what the day holds? It’s a similar lineup to yesterday, and you’re getting that been-there-done-that feeling. A Sagittarius can help you change it up. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). If you know the motivation of others, you’ll find it much easier to manage them — and you’ll have to today. Try to learn what’s behind their ques- tions and what’s behind what’s behind their questions. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Your smile is a gift to anyone you bestow it upon. You’ll give that gift over and over today to loved ones and strangers alike. This makes the world a FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH STONE SOUP B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE little brighter — no small accomplishment. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Tucking away your true emotions will only cause stress and strain. Anyway, the astute see how you’re feeling no matter what you do to mask it. You may as well be honest and free today. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Good people around you will make you happy. Bad people around you will give you some- thing, too: experience mostly. The bad ones are what make you more sophisticated. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). If you tell yourself “don’t worry,” you may or may not take your own advice. But if you direct yourself to an activity that makes you feel comfortable and safe, you’ll naturally forget to worry. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). The be- ginning stages of any project are among the most challenging because it’s so easy to give up when you don’t have much time or effort invested. But there’s a reason you chose this. Don’t give up. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You can do hard things. One of your great talents is in not recognizing much of a difference between hard and easy. It’s just you, handling what needs to be handled right in front of you. TUESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 13). Your wishes come true this year, provided they are reasonable, actionable and specific. Hey, that’s something! Give it your best in November because hard work will pay off immediately. January and June are dreamy and adventurous months. Your communica- tion lands profitably in November and May. Cancer and Scorpio people adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 16, 4, 44, 38 and 50.
