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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, OCTOBER 1, 2015 FEATURES In-laws are poor company Dear Annie: My mother-in- law lives an hour away from us. My husband’s sister, “Dot,” and her husband, “Jeff,” and their married children, periodically come to our house for overnight stays in order to visit Mom. My husband often invites Dot and her family to come for several days at Christmas. We now are lucky enough to have a vacation cabin, and he invited them to stay with us for two weeks. When they visit, Dot and Jeff do not help with meals or do dish- es. Jeff drinks lots of coffee, but never offers to make a pot. Dot means well, but is such a talker that she easily gets sidetracked on her way to help at cleanup time. They do not take us out for a single meal or offer to order piz- za. They both speak loudly. Jeff mostly talks about himself and Dot can carry on for hours. My family gathers at a hotel for the holidays, and we invite my siblings to the cabin for two nights each summer. While my husband welcomes my siblings, I do not enjoy hosting his side. I want to show respect for my in- laws and make my husband hap- py, but it’s really unpleasant to be around them. I cannot handle two in the kitchen,” and “Tonight, it’s your turn to treat us to dinner — you get to pick the place.” Assert yourself, and make sure your hus- Creators band is on board. And when the Syndicate Inc. conversation becomes too much, go for a walk. Alone. Kathy Mitchell Dear Annie: As a senior citi- and zen, I would like to suggest that Marcy Sugar stores, including grocery stores, provide some benches through- weeks. out their shopping areas. I could I told my husband that we shop longer after taking a break. should discuss these invitations The benches in front, outside the before they are extended. His re- checkout area, are inconvenient. tort is that I would never agree to Also, the scooters offered at host his sister. Do you have any some stores often have not been suggestions? — Can’t Do It fully charged. They are left in Dear Can’t: All such invi- parking lots, and employees need tations should be discussed in to bring them in to recharge. Cus- advance, but then you cannot tomers should plug them in. It dismiss all requests to host Dot only takes a moment. — Trying and Jeff. The compromise is the to Be Independent OHQJWKRIWKHYLVLW<RXZRXOG¿QG Dear Trying: You make a it more tolerable to host your in- good point that benches at vary- laws if they stayed for a shorter ing points throughout a store duration — say, three days or could encourage shoppers to less. Two weeks is too much, es- spend more money, and owners pecially for guests who refuse to might consider that an incentive. help out. Also, set some guide- As for plugging in scooters, that lines. It is perfectly OK to tell relies on the consideration of Jeff, “As long as you are having each individual user. The same coffee, please make a pot for the applies to those who use regular UHVWRIXV´,W¶VDOVR¿QHWRVD\WR shopping carts and leave them all either one, “I could use some help over the parking lot. Annie’s Mailbox 5A Tomorrow’s horoscope By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Your current inner circle is so demanding that you’re hesitant to make efforts to establish new friendships. However, the benefits to widen- ing that circle will be numerous and definite. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Retrospect makes the good times seem better and the bad times seem worse. However you’re thinking about it now, don’t act on those sentimental feelings you’re having. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You think you’re not ready, but it’s time, so just do it. Maybe it’s something to do with your grav- ity-defying air-sign-ness, but quite often, when you fail, you fail upward. That will happen again today. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Yes, what happens to you is far less important than what you take from the experience. Then again, the takeaway has a tendency to get delayed like mismarked mail. In the mean- time, talk about what happened. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). While the bene- fits to working with a crack team are enor- mous, the best way to earn a place in such a group is by putting in the kind of solitary practice and study time that you’ll put in to- day. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Too much generosity and agreeableness can actual- ly work against a relationship. It is possible to take too much responsibility or give way more than the other person, thus stunting the relationship. Lopsided wheels don’t roll. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). The need for balance and justice will once again compel you to make gestures of diplomacy. This will include defusing a tense situation and/ or helping a group find their common goals. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH STONE SOUP B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Learning to be a leader who can inspire and motivate others is among the most valuable skills you can pick up these days. That way, when you rebel against your own authority, you’ll know how to handle it. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Recent changes that your loved one has made will really take some getting used to. Then again, others have had to get used to all the changes you’ve made along the way, too. This is just a matter of taking turns. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Some have a loneliness about them that never seems to abate. Even through smiles, con- versation and laughter, loneliness remains the ghosted image over their being. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). The critics are out today, and they’ll join the trolls un- der the bridge to add just enough validity to comments to make for a barbed landing. But if you never take it personally, you’ll never get hurt. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You might notice that you’ve come full circle, and though it comes with a twinge of mixed emotion, you can take heart that it’s not the end of the journey. That’s the thing about circles. FRIDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 2). You’re becoming like the person you admired way back. Starting in January, the road to suc- cess might jiggle your bones and rattle your teeth, but that won’t stop you from arriving in March, road-weary and yet victorious, at success’s gate. Push through and accept the destiny that has always been yours. Virgo and Scorpio people adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 7, 14, 38, 21 and 9.
