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My daughter also married FLYLOO\ WZR ZHHNV SULRU WR ELJ ZHGGLQJ EDVK IRU OHJDO UHDVRQV +HUKXVEDQGZDVEHLQJGHSOR\HG within the month and she need- HGSRZHURIDWWRUQH\LQRUGHUWR SXUFKDVH WKHLU QHZ KRPH DQG GR RWKHU WKLQJV :H GLG QRW DQ- QRXQFH LW VR DV QRW WR FRQIXVH DQ\RQH$QGVKHNHSWKHUPDLGHQ QDPH6KHLVDOVRLQWKHVHUYLFH DQGLWVDYHGDORWRISDSHUZRUN ²Tootles THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 18, 2015 Tomorrow’s horoscope By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). You’ll win the game, stomp the competition and claim vic- tory in the battle. Knowing this, do you still want to take it on? Consider what the benefit to you will be beyond the momentary glory of winning. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). There’s a rea- son you never catch up with the one to whom you keep saying, “Let’s catch up.” The vibe is off, the match is a miss, the common ground is yawn-inducingly broad — and yet still, in- sincere niceties prevent discomfort. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). If you want to know who cares the most, exit and see who follows, leave the job unfinished and see who shows up to finish it, or fly away and see who sprouts wings. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Your wide-ranging interests pay off as you connect with many different types of people. The weird things you talk about with your intimates will lead to brilliant (and far less weird) conversa- tion with acquaintances. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You have many identities and roles. When one isn’t going so well, expand yourself in another. For instance, if one relationship is bumming you out, los- ing yourself in a project or spending time with other friends will help. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You’ll be in- spired by learning about a variety of indus- tries, cultures and subcultures. The lingo and ideas you pick up on are not only fun for you, but they also up your attractive quotient and make it easier for you to influence others. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). There are too many options. You’ll spin your wheels if you consider each one. Give a quick glance and ask: Helpful or not helpful? Potential doesn’t FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH STONE SOUP B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE count. Only things that are directly and imme- diately helpful count. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Did you lock the door? How old is the meat? When was the last time you checked the tires? It’s safe- ty-rundown time, and the old adage rings true: Better safe than sued! SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). The ones you love may not support all of your endeavors, but the support you do get is still valuable. Of course, the question was never “Is it valuable?” It was, “Is it enough?” CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). There are many highly intelligent people who extol the virtues of idleness, loafing, loitering, lollygag- ging and let’s not forget napping. Might they be right? Test the theory. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). It should not be assumed that people do what they do be- cause they like it. Other possible reasons: it’s easy, it’s there, it’s what they know, it’s com- fortable. You can use this knowledge to affect change. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Because you’re certain to make an impression, the question becomes: Precisely what kind of im- pression would you like to make? If you want to have fun in the short-term, you can be af- ford to be assertive or even shocking. SATURDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Sept. 19). This year is anything but a rerun. There’s so much that’s brand-new and utterly enchanting about this part of your life. Love puts a cool Instagram filter on the way you see the world. Fancy transportation and far-off places steal the show in November. February shows you breaking free from a group that has limited you. Taurus and Aquarius people adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 44, 49, 3, 37 and 16.