THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, JULY 29, 2015
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Outing a cheating spouse?
Tomorrow’s horoscope
Dear Annie: My wife and I
were married in a double wedding
with her sister. Two years lat-
er, my new brother-in-law began
boasting to me of his philander-
ing. He rationalized it by claim-
ing that as long as his wife knew
nothing about it, he wasn’t hurt-
ing her. I told this to my wife and
asked whether we should tell her
sister, but she said not to. Over the
next several years, their marriage
seemed strained, and after 30 years
together, they finally split up.
I never pulled those kinds of
shenanigans, and my wife and I
happily celebrated our 60th an-
niversary recently. I have always
wondered, though, whether we
did the right thing by not telling
her sister 58 years ago. Perhaps if
we had, she might have left him
then and her whole life could have
changed for the better. What is
your opinion? — E.C.
Dear E.C.: This question
comes up a lot in our column.
Sixty years ago, the threat of con-
tracting herpes or HIV wasn’t an
issue. And unlike other sexually
transmitted diseases, these are not
curable. They require long-term
treatment and monitoring. These
diseases changed the landscape
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Even the
proudest individual usually has at least
one person he or she looks up to. That’s
the one you need to connect with to influ-
ence the egomaniac in your life.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). There’s an
easy fix for the flat times in an all-too-famil-
iar relationship. Forget about life’s pesky
details, and focus on creating a bubble of
together time that shuts out the rest of the
world.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Fear is only
what you think, not what is. Writing your
fear down or talking it over with a reason-
able friend will help you see just how silly a
certain fear is. You’ll laugh and then let it go.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Passivity
is not weakness. Nine times out of 10, an
assertive response is overkill. Today you’ll
win friends and fans while doing what the
situation requires and no more than that.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Remember that
time when you didn’t know you were on
speakerphone and you accidentally said
things not meant for certain company?
Well, today brings the chance to rectify
that, or at least to not make the same mis-
take twice.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Familiarity
can blind you to how someone really is.
That’s why spending time with outsiders
can have an enormously (and in your case
pleasantly) enlightening effect.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). There will be
applications for your artistry all day long.
For instance, your manner of dress de-
lights the eye, and you arrange your table
like you’re going to paint a still life picture
of it — lovely!
Annie’s
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Creators
Syndicate Inc.
Kathy Mitchell
and
Marcy Sugar
when it came to telling someone
about an affair that was otherwise
not really their business.
There are women who say they
would want to know and feel be-
trayed when they discover that
friends and family members didn’t
tell them. There are an equal num-
ber of women who shoot the mes-
senger, opting to close their eyes
and stay in the marriage, often
cutting off contact with the person
who told the truth. Our opinion is
that it’s best to confront the cheat-
er, letting him know you are aware
of his actions and could tell the
spouse, and suggesting counseling.
Your wife made the determi-
nation that her sister’s marriage
was not her business and that Sis
would prefer not to know. Even if
Sis was aware of the cheating, she
may not have wanted a divorce
when such a move still carried a
social stigma. Hindsight is 20/20,
but in the moment, there is no
way to know how someone will
respond and how their lives will
change. You make the decision
you think is best at the time.
Dear Annie: Are there any
websites devoted to helping peo-
ple find nursing homes or assist-
ed living facilities for relatives
who moved to other states and
did not plan for when they got
older? These people do not have
family members who live nearby,
and now their far-flung nieces and
nephews are trying to help them
out.
I am sure others around the
country deal with this and could
use some guidance, too. Where do
we go for help? — Marie
Dear Marie: Medicare offers
an excellent guide for choosing
a nursing home, along with other
free publications and resources
on their website at medicare.gov.
Just type “find nursing home” in
the search box. People who are
considering retiring to warmer
climates away from their families
may want to check this out and
be prepared for whatever happens
down the road.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
STONE SOUP
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Vulnerabil-
ity may repel some people, but it attracts
the right people. Because you’re brave
enough to be honest about what you’re go-
ing through and the help you need, you’ll
find what you’re looking for.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). The
things you worry about seldom happen.
However, it still benefits you to prepare
for the worst-case scenario. For starters,
it makes you grateful for the positive way
things pan out.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Some-
one would have you believe that today’s
opportunity is as rare as a yellow diamond.
False! So put back your money, ask ques-
tions, poke around. There’s no need to be
too precious in your approach.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). People
insist on making simple things more com-
plicated for a variety of reasons, such as
fear of boredom, an aversion to silence or a
desperate need to avoid self-confrontation.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The mys-
tical “third eye” is what you’re using to see
the truth about a relationship. You are also,
perhaps unknowingly, applying a “third ear”
to pick up the song in your loved one’s heart.
THURSDAY’S BIRTHDAY (July 30).
You momentarily may have lost sight of
your goal in recent weeks, but your solar
return brings it back in shining glory. Your
efforts with fellow fire signs create swift mo-
mentum. You’ll take control and lead your
group to revitalization. Astounding luck in
September brings funding to fulfill a wish.
Passion fills 2016. Scorpio and Capricorn
people adore you. Your lucky numbers are:
3, 29, 1, 44 and 17.