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THE DA ILY ASTOR IAN • MONDAY , JULY 27 , 2015 F EA TUR E S 5A Ne g l e c t e d f r i en d f e e l s b a d Tomorrow’s horoscope By Ho l iday Ma th i s , C r ea to r s Synd i ca t e In c . Dear Ann ie : How do you cope w i th a f r iend sh ip whe re the pe r - son s tay s connec ted ju s t enough to con t inua l ly rem ind you o f how un impo r tan t you a re? I have a f r iend w i th whom I wa s once qu i te c lo se . W e exe rc i sed and ran e r rand s toge the r , and when she wa s se r iou s ly i l l , I spen t coun t le s s hou r s v i s i t ing , read ing to he r and j u s t be ing the re . I dona ted to he r cha r i t ie s , sang in he r cho i r , and we a lway s had fun toge the r . Bu t a f te r I wa s d iagno sed w i th the same i l lne s s (now recove red ) , she v i s i ted me on ly tw ice and now seem s too bu sy to ge t toge the r . Tha t wou ld be bad enough . Bu t the rea l prob lem i s tha t she tex t s me o f ten to say how much she m i s se s me o r to a sk fo r a favo r , bu t appa ren t ly neve r wan t s to see me . I t ’ s a sad re - m inde r o f how l i t t le she i s w i l l ing to do to ma in ta in the f r iend sh ip . W e l ive in a sma l l town and I can ’ t cu t he r o f f w i thou t repe rcu s - s ion s . I s my on ly op t ion to s imp ly l ive w i th the d i sappo in tmen t? — Fr iend in Need Dear Fr iend : Y ou have ano th - e r op t ion : T a lk to he r abou t i t . No t eve ryone i s good abou t f r iend - sh ip ma in tenance . Some peop le become so bu sy tha t they neg lec t Ann i e ’ s Ma i lbox C rea to rs Synd ica te Inc . Ka th y M i t ch e l l and Ma r c y Suga r peop le who a re o the rw i se impo r t - an t to them , and don ’ t recogn ize tha t th i s behav io r i s hu r t fu l . Fo r them , tex t ing become s a conve - n ien t sub s t i tu te fo r face - to - face in te rac t ion s tha t requ i re schedu l - ing and o rgan iza t ion . Y ou won ’ t know whe the r th i s i s the ca se un le s s you a sk you r f r iend d i rec t ly . W e hope she w i l l be comp le te ly hone s t abou t the rea son s fo r he r d i sm i s s ive a t t i - tude . A t the ve ry lea s t , you w i l l be ab le to de te rm ine how much she ca re s by how s ince re ly apo loge t ic she i s and whe the r she doe s any - th ing to remedy the s i tua t ion . A f - te r a l l , wha t do you have to lo se? Dear Ann ie : My g randdaugh - te r ju s t ho s ted a b i r thday pa r ty fo r he r yea r -o ld baby w i th 100 peop le in a t tendance . The ch i ld wa s lav - i shed w i th beau t i fu l , expen s ive g i f t s . When I a sked my g rand - daugh te r i f she had w r i t ten thank - you no te s fo r the love ly p re sen t s , she in fo rmed me tha t “ th i s i sn ’ t done fo r b i r thday s” and the sub - jec t wa s c lo sed . I am l iv id ove r th i s pompou s ac t o f en t i t lemen t by my u sua l ly k ind and though t fu l g randch i ld . Bu t th i s i s a pa t te rn I have seen w i th lo t s o f ch i ld ren who we re neve r taugh t how to exp re s s g ra t i - tude we l l , and th i s lack o f t ra in ing i s pa s s ing to the nex t gene ra t ion . I have come up w i th a so lu t ion tha t I can l ive w i th . I am hav ing “Thank Y ou” no te s p r in ted w i th my g randch i ld ren ’ s name s , add ing Fo reve r s tamp s and hand ing them ou t a t Ch r i s tma s . — R .J . Dear R .J . : W e hope th i s wo rk s fo r you , bu t we a ren ’ t op t im i s t ic . None the le s s , you r g randdaugh - te r i sn ’ t en t i re ly w rong . B i r thday g i f t s tha t a re opened in f ron t o f the g ive r s w i th app rop r ia te ve rba l thank s o f fe red a t the t ime do no t requ i re a w r i t ten thank -you no te a f te rwa rd , a l though tha t i s a lway s a n ice touch and make s a good imp re s s ion . Wha t we f ind tacky i s the lav i sh b i r thday pa r ty fo r a yea r -o ld baby tha t inc lude s 100 gue s t s . AR IES (M a r ch 2 1 -Ap r i l 1 9 ). Y o u ’ v e g o t t e n g o o d a t r e l a t i n g t o p e o p l e w h o a r e v e r y d i f f e r - e n t f r om y o u . Y o u r s t y l e w o r k s i n m u l t i p l e c i r - c um s t a n c e s . Y o u r s o f t w o r d s s p o k e n w i t h f i rm c o n f i d e n c e w i l l p r o d u c e im p r e s s i v e r e s u l t s . TAURUS (Ap r i l 20 -Ma y 20 ). W ha t y ou don ’ t unde r s tand f a r e x ceed s wha t y ou do unde r s tand . R e cogn i z ing a l l y ou don ’ t know i s a ma r k o f h igh in t e l l igen ce . A s f o r wha t y ou do know , y ou ’ l l be a s k ed t o t ea ch some o f tha t t oda y . GEM IN I (Ma y 21 -June 21 ). Y ou ma y f ee l tha t y ou r e f f o r t s a r e ne i the r f o cu sed no r pe r s i s t en t enough t o ma k e a d i f f e r en ce . Bu t i t ’ s the f a c t tha t y ou ’ r e ma k ing an e f f o r t a t a l l tha t ma k e s the b igge s t d i f f e r en ce . CANCER (June 22 -Ju ly 22 ). W hen i t come s t o be ing y ou , y ou ’ r e the ma s t e r . O th - e r s w i l l ma k e sugge s t ion s tha t y ou ’ r e no t t oo k een on f o l low ing . Y ou ’ r e no t beho lden t o an y one and on l y ha v e t o p lea se y ou r se l f . LEO (Ju ly 23 -Aug . 22 ). A r r og an ce i s the dadd y o f a l l s in s . Be l i t t l ing o the r s i s a s ign o f f ee l ing l i t t le in s ide . W hen dea l ing w i th v i c - t im s o f a supe r io r i t y comp le x , ju s t r emem - be r tha t p r ide i s o f t en the ha l lma r k o f tho se w i th the lea s t t o be p r oud o f . V IRGO (Aug . 23 -Sep t . 22 ). I f y ou can ’ t change y ou r m ind , y ou can ’ t change an y - th ing . Tha t ’ s wh y an y e f f o r t y ou ma k e t o e xpand y ou r r ea lm o f in f luen ce shou ld be con s ide r ed impo r tan t , e v en i f i t seem s mo r e l i k e p la y than wo r k . L IBRA (Sep t . 23 -Oc t . 23 ). Y ou r though t s o f a ce r t a in pe r son ma k e y ou f o r ge t t o do the o r d ina r y th ing s y ou w ou ld u sua l l y do . Tha t ’ s how y ou can t e l l y ou ’ r e sm i t t en . And when y ou ’ r e sm i t t en w i th the same pe r son f o r a v e r y long t ime , i t ’ s e v en mo r e w ond r ou s . FRANK AND ERNEST BLOND IE THATABABY SALLY FORTH STONE SOUP B .C . LOLA D ILBERT S IX CH IX B IZARRO MUTTS NON SEQU ITUR BABY BLUES W IZARD OF ID Z ITS ROSE IS ROSE SCORP IO (Oc t . 24 -No v . 21 ). Y ou ha v e the b r igh t idea s t oda y . Bu t y ou a l so ha v e a d i f f i cu l t g r oup o f s t r ong -w i l led peop le t o con - t end w i th . W hen y ou ma k e i t seem l i k e the i r idea , the y l i k e i t mo r e . SAG ITTAR IUS (No v . 22 -Dec . 21 ). Y ou w ou ldn ’ t be t r y ing i f y ou d idn ’ t ca r e . Tha t ’ s wha t the y sen se f r om y ou now . So don ’ t w o r - r y t oo m u ch abou t whe the r y ou ’ r e sa y ing o r do ing i t r igh t . I t ’ s a beau t i fu l da y when y ou r good in t en t ion s e f f o r t le s s l y sh ine th r ough . CAPR ICORN (Dec . 22 -J an . 1 9 ). Y ou ’ r e no t d r eam ing i t . The r e r ea l l y i s a la c k o f o r - g an i zed c r ea t i v i t y ou t the r e . Y ou ’ r e ju s t the one t o cap tu r e and app l y the s t e l la r idea s be f o r e the y d r i f t o f f in t o the e the r . AQUAR IUS (J an . 20 -F eb . 1 8 ). R e con s id - e r y ou r con ta c t s . I t ’ s no t who y ou know ; i t ’ s who y ou can in f luen ce . Know ing someone doe sn ’ t coun t f o r mu ch i f tha t pe r son i sn ’ t w i l l ing t o suppo r t , he lp and gene ra l l y a c t l i k e a f r iend . P ISCES (F eb . 1 9 -Ma r ch 20 ). The th ing abou t a ch ie v ing e x cep t iona l a c comp l i sh - men t s i s tha t a f t e r a b r ie f momen t o f g lo r y y ou beg in t o wo r r y abou t wha t the y ’ l l e xpe c t f r om y ou ne x t . K eep do ing the wo r k tha t ma k e s y ou happ y . TUESDAY ’S B IRTHDAY (Ju ly 28 ). Y ou r lo v ed one s w i l l con s ide r y ou t o be among the b r igh t e s t and s t r onge s t the y know , and y ou ’ l l spend mu ch o f the y ea r l i v ing up t o the r epu ta t ion . Tha t ’ s wh y i t ’ s so impo r tan t t o ta k e t ime f o r y ou r se l f o v e r the ne x t s i x wee k s . R e s t and r e v e l in fun . Sep t embe r b r ing s a ca r ee r boo s t . O c t obe r in t r odu ce s y ou t o new f r iend s . A r ie s and Sag i t ta r iu s peop le ado r e y ou . Y ou r lu c k y numbe r s a r e : 1 2 , 1 , 44 , 1 7 and 38 .