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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, JUNE 25, 2015 FEATURES Where is the guy I dated? Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for nine years. When we were dating, we had the best conversations. He would remember events that happened in my life and would follow up with questions later. He talked about things going on in his life and would include me in the conversation, asking my opinion. After we married, he has ei- ther stopped listening to what I say or doesn’t really care any- more. He constantly asks me the same questions over and over, and can’t seem to remember the answers I give him. Yet he can quote you chapter and verse about any celebrity — where they went to school, who they married, who their children are — as though they are his best friends. I’ve asked him how he can remember all of that trivia, but can’t remember things I tell him that touch our lives. He said that he found celebrities interesting. I guess that means our lives are not important enough to matter. I don’t know what to make of this and sometimes feel as though I’ve been duped. Where is the guy I dated? How do I not take this personally? — What Happened? Annie’s Mailbox Creators Syndicate Inc. Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar Dear What: You are not alone. This type of spouse-deafness hap- pens in many marriages. While you were dating, your husband paid more attention to your con- versation partly because he was still trying to woo you, and part- ly because your life was separate from his. You were his “celebri- ty.” Now the conversations like- ly revolve around more mundane matters. Please don’t take this too per- sonally. It’s irritating, but com- mon, and isn’t worth getting upset over. Discuss unimportant things with your family or girl- friends. Wait until your husband expresses an interest before offer- ing information. You cannot force him to be more attentive, but do ask him to set aside 15 minutes a day for the two of you to look into each other’s eyes and listen to whatever the other person says. (And if you have any celebrity news, add it to your report on the car repairs.) Dear Annie: I read the letter from “Sickened and Frustrated” whose family member and her spouse constantly blow their nos- es and clear their throats at family gatherings in restaurants. I would like to know why the majority of well-mannered peo- ple are not entitled to tell the nauseatingly stubborn and selfish couple to please stay home? Why are people so afraid of offending the offenders who couldn’t care less? They need to learn they are not compatible with dining out. Your suggestion to remake the social occasion without food sounds like political correctness. — Not So Accommodating Dear Not So: It has nothing to do with “political correctness.” Most people include family mem- bers at family gatherings, so if dining out with them is the prob- lem, it is simple enough to rem- edy. But if no one will tell them that their behavior needs refine- ment, or if they refuse to stop nauseating everyone else, your suggestion to not invite them is one possible solution. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH STONE SOUP B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE 5A Tomorrow’s horoscope By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). The person who’s supposed to be making your life eas- ier may not seem like much help at first be- cause he or she needs to be taught what to do. With minimal instruction, things will soon fall into a productive groove. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You don’t see the point in following the same recipe over and over. You know what you’re going to get. You prefer the adventurous life that comes from daring to experiment. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). It’s an excel- lent day for those working for tips or com- mission. What can you do to enjoy your commute more? The improved mood will put you in super-productivity mode when you arrive at work. CANCER (June 22-July 22). What’s happening around the globe matters to you even if you don’t seem to be directly affected. Eventually, we are all affected by each other, no matter where we live. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). A money leak will turn into a gusher if you don’t take mea- sures now to stop it. Bad financial habits die hard, but 21 times (in a row) doing the new improved action will cement it into your brain. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). The differ- ence between a pro and an expert is that the pro has to make a mutually agreeable product or the money won’t be exchanged. Are you ready for that added demand? LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). No matter how well you know your task, you can’t practice the unpredictable. When strange twists happen, you’ll twist along with them. With your skills and flexibility, you’ll pull this one off. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). It’s easier to like people and be nice to them when you believe they are not infringing in any way on what is yours or potentially yours. It requires an abundance mentality. Is there really enough to go around? That’s the question. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Evalu- ate your progress over the past four weeks. This review is crucial to figuring out what you should do next. There will be weekend distractions a-plenty, so it’s important to get focused now. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). The ex- change of money represents so much more than dollars and cents. It’s a trade of energy. If you’re lifted by the deal (even if you’re not financially richer), it’s a good deal. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). There’s comfort in routine, while being in a rut isn’t comfortable at all. To keep your routine from becoming a restriction, be creative, plan surprises and leave room for chang- ing your mind. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). If the myri- ad choices available to you get overwhelm- ing, remember that all you ever really have to make is one decision. Decide who you are, and the rest falls into place naturally. FRIDAY’S BIRTHDAY (June 26). This year it’s safer to make bold decisions, as long as you make many of them. One is bound to hit. July focuses on friendship. Au- gust brings a mutually beneficial business relationship. At the end of 2015, you’ll be strongly influenced by family and the idea of your legacy. Business travels happen in February. Scorpio and Taurus people adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 6, 45, 43, 11 and 16.
