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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, JUNE 19, 2015
Controlling friend picks movies Tomorrow’s horoscope
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
Dear Annie: For the past 20
years, a good female friend of
mine and I have gotten together
every few weeks for walks, lunch
and movies.
The problem is, whenever
we go to the movies, she always
picks. I’m a pretty easygoing
person and will see whatever she
wants because even if the movie
doesn’t sound great, I’m willing to
give it a try. But whenever I say I
would really love to see such-and-
such a movie, she will never go.
She gives excuses, like reading a
review she didn’t like. In all the
years we’ve seen films together,
she has never once agreed to see
one of my choices.
Don’t all relationships require
compromise? I feel like I do all the
giving and she does all the taking.
When I brought it up to her, she re-
plied, “Well, everyone doesn’t like
every movie.”
I know this problem isn’t earth-
shattering, but it is affecting me
enough to question whether she is
truly a friend. When she does this
type of thing, it seems as though
she has to control everything we
do, which is not my idea of friend-
ship. Any suggestions? — Had
Enough of This
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only with movies? If so, she may
simply not be adventurous enough
to see anything she isn’t certain
she will like, or she may be un-
comfortable with certain types
of films, such as horror movies
or documentaries and too embar-
rassed to say so. But if she tries
to dominate every decision (type
of restaurant, where you go walk-
ing, etc.), then yes, she is the con-
trolling type.
You say she is a good friend. We
assume she is pleasant company
and there are other things you like
about her. You have multiple ways
of dealing with this: Put up with
her choices and see the films that
interest you with other like-mind-
ed people; take movies off the list
of activities to do together; tell her
the next movie is your pick or you
aren’t interested; or talk to her,
letting her know her intransigence
on the issue is building resentment
and damaging the friendship.
Dear Annie: Thank you for
standing firm on your advice to
“Blainville, Quebec,” who thought
it was OK for a wedding guest to
ask to bring her boyfriend.
I host many events and am
amazed by how many people do
not understand that an invitation
addressed solely to one person
does not automatically include
a plus one. It’s not only the bud-
get. It’s the seating arrangements,
keeping to the guest limits, accom-
modations and meals. “Just one
more” makes a huge difference,
especially when several people
want to add someone.
I have had people ask to bring
their neighbor “who wants to see
your lovely home,” parents who
ask to bring three extra children to
a child’s birthday party at the cir-
cus, and of course, the people who
don’t RSVP and just show up.
It is wrong to put a bride on the
spot by making her feel obligated
to incur an additional expense or
explain to her new in-laws why
she is changing the guest limit.
It is never permissible to forego
good manners and ask for whatev-
er a person wants. — Massachu-
setts
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
STONE SOUP
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
ARIES (March 21-April 19). “Could you
bend the rules, just this once?” This is what
you’ll hear, and you should be warned:
Anyone who asks you to bend won’t ask
you just this once. Consider strongly the
policies that have made your life go well
so far.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You add a
dollop of humor and a spoonful of charm
to your interactions. No one with an op-
posing view has a chance to take offense.
Your lucky attitude is the real reason you’re
winning.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Asking too
many questions or making too many com-
ments creates problems where there were
none. Keep it brief. Say only what you need
to say to solve the issue at hand.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Praise will
take you by surprise. It’s perfectly natural
to be moved by this. You’ve long deserved
the attention, but still, it might feel embar-
rassing to you.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). These days you
are doing more than your fair share of the
domestic work. If you keep doing it, it will
keep being left for you to do. So don’t rush
to clean up. Let the others have a chance
to pitch in.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Hold your
attitude accountable. Is it warranted? Does
it reflect the truth of the situation you’re in?
While you’re at it, this is a good time to take
your beliefs and thoughts to task, as well.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). There are
many things that will contribute to your
mood, most of which you can’t control.
That’s why it’s so important to take charge
wherever you can.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). There are
many healthy and beneficial aspects to so-
ciety, but don’t let yourself slip into group-
think. Your unique point of view will be valu-
able to others.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Let
your loved ones give to you. You won’t be
putting them out. Being on the receiving
end for once will strengthen your relation-
ship and keep your loved ones from taking
you for granted.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). The
natural nemesis of fire is said to be water,
but fires are put out by earth, too. And the
fire wouldn’t be able to catch on without air.
You respect the powers of others. Strength
and awareness are related.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Home in
on the finer things in life. Please and de-
light your senses. It’s actually a lot of work
to figure out exactly what brings you the
greatest pleasure.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). As much
as you love your nearest and dearest, they
can also be unreasonable, self-centered
and annoying. You’ll regret it if you let this
bother you. Your graceful tolerance will go
down in history.
SATURDAY’S BIRTHDAY (June 20).
This year will be a financial high. You’re get-
ting better and faster at doing what needs
to be done to make a profit. Next month
brings three new friends, each offering you
a unique point of view. August is romantic.
Domestic improvements will be worth the
cost in October. Your family will bond and
grow together in November. Aries and Vir-
go people adore you. Your lucky numbers
are: 41, 23, 3, 28 and 15.