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Be wary of online dating
Dear Annie: My friend,
“Josie,” recently joined a pop-
ular online dating site after her
husband decided he’d rather be
single. Josie met several inter-
esting men on the site, and after
chatting with them for a week or
two, every single one of them
asked her for money. She re-
Finally, one asked her to cash
a check for him. He spent about
a month setting her up to be
comfortable doing this favor and
she fell for it. He and the bank
took her money. The man said he
would straighten it all out, but of
course, he has failed to show up.
I want your help exposing this
supposedly reputable online dat-
ing site. It’s a very bad place for
single women to find true love. It
is really a site for unscrupulous
male thieves to prey on vulner-
able women. Something needs
to be done to put a stop to this
abuse and hold these larcenous
Lotharios accountable for their
misdeeds. What can we do? —
Dear Angry: The problem
with online dating sites, even
reputable ones, is that they can-
not guarantee the honesty of all
users. Josie should send all of
the personal information she has
on these men to the managers of
the website and register a com-
plaint, letting them know that the
reputation of their site is at risk
and that they need to do a better
job of vetting their clientele and
keeping these scam artists out.
Women need to report these men
or the managers won’t know,
and some women are too embar-
rassed to complain.
Of course, the bottom line is
that people, male or female, must
protect themselves by refusing
to do any “favors” that involve
Dear Annie: My 85-year-old
mother seems to be a loving,
generous person. But I know her
to be extremely self-centered.
For example, I don’t dare men-
tion that I might be sick or have
a problem, because she will re-
ply with a long list of her own
complaints. Everything she says,
every story she tells, is turned
around to make her look wonder-
ful and important.
We recently had a family
gathering, and I made a toast to
my sisters-in-law and our chil-
dren because they all had made
important advancements in their
careers and education. Before
the toast was over, my mom
piped up and said, “What about
me?” and proceeded to ramble
on about herself.
I am writing not to get advice,
but rather to give it. I don’t care
how old you are; don’t hog the
spotlight. Listen to your children
and grandchildren and be inter-
ested in their lives. Because of
my mother’s narcissism, I have
learned to be humble. Because
of my mother’s self-centered at-
titude, I have learned to be sen-
sitive to others. Because of my
mother’s constant complaining, I
have learned not to talk about my
own aches and pains. I am sure
that when she is gone, I will miss
her. But the best thing she ever
did for me was to teach me to be
a better mother and grandmother
by setting such a bad example.
— The Good Daughter
FRANK AND ERNEST
WIZARD OF ID
ROSE IS ROSE
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, JUNE 16, 2015
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). The chal-
lenge of the day is to find a soft place in
your heart for someone who is wired differ-
ently (oh, so differently) from the way you
are. With compassion, you’ll find a way to
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). It may
seem too overwhelming to come up with a
long-term goal now, let alone visualize it to
the detailed degree required for manifesta-
tion. Visualize the next move and then the
move after that. It will be enough.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Some peo-
ple think about every choice, and others
bowl through life, seeing what kind of
points they can score by aiming forward
and letting go. You fall into the second cat-
egory today, and it will suit you quite well.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Everyone
fails at some point. When it happens to
you, just be sure to fail forward. It requires
that you commit and lean into the endeav-
or with all you have.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Some days
you feel completely blended into the other
seven billion-plus humans on the planet.
That’s why when a certain someone tells
you you’re really special, it fills something
in your heart.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). What’s right
won’t be easy, and what’s easy won’t be
right. No matter. When your mind starts to
complain, worry and waver, your guts will
carry you through.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). The smallest,
most common daily acts are opportunities
to apply your whole heart, mind, intellect
and soul. When you give over your full at-
tention to any act, you know success.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Abstract
goals lead to abstract results. That’s still
beautiful — though, like abstract art, there
will be many people who won’t understand
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). If it
weren’t for adventurers like you, man never
would have set sail across oceans, taken
to the sky or dared beyond the Earth’s at-
mosphere. Today’s leap will be a bold one.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). It takes
a mature person to understand the differ-
ence between need and want and behave
accordingly. You’ll display such maturity to-
day and be rewarded for it later.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). If you
don’t like what you’re doing, it’s hard to be
passionate about it, though not impossible.
You have to find the aspects you do like.
Give it a shot, and you’ll be extremely pro-
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You don’t
have to see a person on stage or in action
to know whether or not that person has
skills. It’s a sense you get. You sense and
gravitate toward greatness. It’s one of your
WEDNESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (June 17).
There’s wonderful kismet for this year’s re-
lationships! That said, nothing good comes
of two people acting on impulse. Someone
(you) will have to be the voice of reason.
Is it possible to have a disciplined heart?
Try and you’ll be richly rewarded. It goes
like this: money in July, adventure in Au-
gust, personal success (after hard work)
in November. Love signs are Taurus and
Cancer. Your lucky numbers are: 28, 5, 1,
19 and 32.