THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, APRIL 27, 2015
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She feels like a houseguest
Tomorrow’s horoscope
Dear Annie: Two years ago,
I made a big mistake. I married a
widower and agreed to move into
his house in a large city that is a
30-minute drive from the small
town I love living in.
I now realize that I absolutely
hate living in the city and, more
importantly, living in the home
that he and his late wife picked out
and decorated together. Initially, he
said I could make changes to the
house, but the only changes he is
willing to make involve replacing
worn-out things with newer ver-
sions of the exact same style and
color. I thought I could redecorate
using some of his things and some
of mine to make a home of our
own. Instead, I feel like a perma-
nent houseguest.
I love my husband, and our re-
lationship is wonderful except for
this issue. Here’s the real prob-
lem: I recently learned that I have
metastatic breast cancer. I cannot
bear the thought of living what’s
left of my life in his house and in
this city.
Three years ago, he said he’d
move into a condo in five years.
Last month, he said the same thing.
I know he’s not ready. But he is 81,
and I am 70, and it’s time to down-
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Full-grown
people need full-grown love. You won’t dig-
nify childish antics with attention unless the
perpetrator is actually a child. Adults acting
childishly will stop when they see that their
behavior doesn’t sway you in the least.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). It may seem
that you have to do everything on your own,
but you don’t. If you’re not accepting help,
you’re working too hard. You don’t even have
to ask for help. All you have to do is less, and
others will fill in the gaps.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). People usu-
ally live to the limits of their thinking. Ex-
posures to new influences will help break
through those limits. One of the most enjoy-
able ways to change your life is to fantasize
your way into a different one.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Hollow and
false encouragement will be experienced
as such. One person can only encourage
another insofar as they actually believe the
aim can be accomplished. What do you be-
lieve is possible?
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). When your peo-
ple count their blessings, they count you as
one of them. Maybe it’s the way you see the
potential in them and envision a better future
for them than the one they see.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). It’s difficult
not to project your patterns and desires
onto those who are so much like you, but
because you believe in the sacredness of
each human being, you resist.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You’re not sure
how to deal kindly with a certain difficult indi-
vidual. Start by dealing kindly with someone
dear to you. “To love deeply in one direction
makes us more loving in all others.” — Ma-
Annie’s
Mailbox
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
Kathy Mitchell
and
Marcy Sugar
size. He knows how I feel, because
we’ve had quite a few discussions
about it. But because he’s most
likely going to outlive me, I don’t
feel it’s fair to ask him to move
to another place when he doesn’t
want to.
He owns a condo in my home-
town that he rents out. I own a
house that is rented out, although
mine still has a small mortgage on
it. I’m thinking of asking him not
to renew the rental on his condo so
we can stay there some of the time
and in his home the rest of the time.
I am so torn inside. What do you
think? — T.
Dear T.: We think you have
suggested an excellent compro-
mise — live in the condo part of
the time, and in his house for the
rest. You also could stop renting
your house and live there part of
the time. Should your husband
outlive you, he can move wher-
ever he chooses. Right now, you
should not be stressed about your
living situation, and we hope your
husband cares enough to make
you as comfortable as possible.
We think he will want to do what-
ever he can.
Dear Annie: You printed a let-
ter from “M.W.,” who doesn’t like
to travel because she suffers from
motion sickness.
When I lost the sight in one eye,
my ophthalmologist said I’d no lon-
ger get airsick or carsick. He said
a NASA astronaut discovered that
by closing one eye, the dizziness
from the effects of being weight-
less went away. He was right. I can
now fly and look out the plane win-
dow or read while riding in a car
and suffer no ill effects.
I have told several people who
suffer from carsickness to close
one eye or wear an eye patch, and
they have reported back that it
worked for them. Maybe this will
help others. — One Advantage
Dear Advantage: Thanks for
the interesting suggestion. We
hadn’t heard of this before, and
we hope our readers who have this
problem will try your solution.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
STONE SOUP
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
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ROSE IS ROSE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
dame Swetchine
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Worry is like
the late afternoon sun: It gives a long shad-
ow small things. One of your more practical
friends (perhaps a Virgo or Capricorn) will
help you keep things in perspective.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Bal-
ancing solitude and sociability is tricky for
you now because people keep asking you
to do things with them, and you keep saying
yes. That’s why you have to schedule soli-
tude on the books as you would any other
date.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). It may
feel like the train is moving, you’re already
on board and there’s no getting off. But that’s
not the way it really is. This is your life, time
and schedule. If it oppresses you, change it.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You have
reached a level of true friendship with some
that allows you to stand comfortably togeth-
er in silence. That doesn’t mean you should
let this happen too often, though. Conversa-
tional effort will be rewarded.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Niceties
are the very least of what you expect from
a good relationship. You want poetry. These
high hopes and optimistic wishes will keep
you from landing in a rut.
TUESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (April 28). You
have many advantages, and you play them
this year. In May, you’ll make money as a
result of reestablishing contact with enthu-
siastic people. Your timing is impeccable in
June, especially when it comes to love. You’ll
show up right when you are needed and will
be appreciated and adored for it. Scorpio
and Capricorn people adore you. Your lucky
numbers are: 1, 14, 3, 33 and 17.