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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, APRIL 9, 2015 FEATURES 5A She doesn’t like being phased out Tomorrow’s horoscope By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. Dear Annie: Eight months ago, I met the love of my life online. Ev- erything started off great. “Jay” and I chatted every day. However, at one point, a past lov- er of his intervened and warned me about some of his “issues.” I became a little bit paranoid and asked Jay to explain his side of things. He didn’t ZDQWWRDW¿UVWEXWKH¿QDOO\UHOHQW- ed, and we continued on. I told him I loved him. Three months ago, Jay decided there was no way we could be any- thing more than friends. I struggled with just being friends, but eventu- ally, I accepted it. Now, Jay seems to be making more and more friends and is phasing me out. One of my dearest friends died last week, and Jay hasn’t bothered to provide any comfort. I would cease all commu- QLFDWLRQ EXW LW ZRXOG EH GLI¿FXOW because the Internet community we belong to includes many mutual friends and chat forums. Should I remain so-called friends or just let him go? — Con- fused Web Reader Dear Confused: Please let him go. Jay is not the love of your life. You have confused the excitement of your initial contact with love, but now you have seen Jay’s true character. He isn’t interested in OK to say, in mock horror, “Heav- ens! Please don’t discuss that in front RI DOO RI XV$ EDE\ LV D ZRQGHUIXO gift, and we all want ‘Suzie’ to look Creators forward to the experience. I know Syndicate Inc. you don’t mean to be so negative about it.” Kathy Mitchell They may insist they are only and being informative, but new mothers Marcy Sugar are nervous enough without adding to their worries by relaying stories having a romantic relationship with about what could possibly go wrong. you. If you think you can remain Of course, some stories are funny or part of the same Internet communi- uplifting, and those should be en- ty and not pine over him, fine. Try couraged. to ignore him as best you can. Oth- Dear Annie: Thanks for printing erwise, please expand your online the letter from Magi Linscott, en- presence so you aren’t as depen- couraging kids not to smoke. I quit dent on this particular community smoking more than eight years ago, of people. and I am so glad. I now know what Dear Annie: I dread going to my my late father used to experience QLHFH¶V¿UVWEDE\VKRZHU$WWKHODVW after he quit and then smelled ciga- one I went to that included our fam- rette smoke: He got sick. I do, too. I ily, there were older mothers who cannot believe this is what I used to proceeded to tell horror stories about smell like. labor and delivery. No one needs to My wife told me I stopped hear the in-depth details of their birth wheezing in my sleep within two SURFHVV DQG HVSHFLDOO\ QRW D ¿UVW ZHHNVRITXLWWLQJ$QGP\9$KHDOWK time mother. care providers are very happy with Some people speak before they me. If you’re still smoking, STOP! think. How can I politely get them to Don’t say it’s impossible. I smoked shut up? — Dreading Showers two packs a day for 40 years. Dear Showers: If someone Thanks for letting me vent, should start replaying the details of $QQLH ² Grateful Ex-Smoker in their birth experience, it’s perfectly Campbellsville, Ky. Annie’s Mailbox FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH STONE SOUP B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE ARIES (March 21-April 19). There’s a difference between making a good im- pression and coming across the way you intend to. The opinion of an impartial and honest observer will help you communi- cate what you want to say. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). A friend may observe that you’ve changed. Well, of course you have! Hundreds and thou- sands of times. You love to experiment, grow and improve. It’s who you are. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Don’t as- sume that what you know is common knowledge. You have something to teach the people around you, especially if those people happen to be your children. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You can’t be free if you believe that someone has control over you. And even if you secretly feel this is the case, never let the other person know. Take back your power. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Your memory will go in its own direction, and the oth- ers may dispute the story. This is what makes for an interesting dialogue. Any- way, their memories are equally suspect. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). If you’re having trouble concentrating, it’s not your fault. Your creative mind needs more stimulation than yesterday’s envi- ronment could provide. Forcing yourself to stay on task is silly when the task is beneath you. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Most peo- ple would rather prove to the world the correctness of their thinking than change their mind. Luckily, you’re not “most peo- ple.” There are real benefits to being mentally flexible and open-minded now. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You know what matters to you, and you want to concentrate your efforts there. Years of doing what it takes to fulfill your com- mitments has taught you to make fewer commitments. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You are a riddle wrapped in an enigma today, and a certain someone will be fascinated by you. Build the mystery, and you’ll reap a benefit next week. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). A project is getting to be far more costly than you anticipated. Budgeting your time and energy will be even more im- portant than accounting for your dollars. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). There’s a saying that “depression lies,” but de- pression is not the only state that fills the mind with fibs. Elation can lie, too. The worst lies of all are perpetrated by the state of infatuation. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You have the advantage. Once you recog- nize what it is, it’s important to play it ju- diciously. Oscar Wilde said, “One should always play fairly when one has the win- ning cards.” FRIDAY’S BIRTHDAY (April 10). Many short journeys throughout the year will keep you excited, motivated and in love. You’ll have the chance to be creative in many ways: professional, financial and familial. June and July bring the best business opportunities. Invest in formal training in September, and you’ll devel- op skills to improve daily life. Taurus and Aquarius people adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 8, 40, 27, 15 and 11.