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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, MARCH 24, 2015
Cross-dresser asks for advice Tomorrow’s horoscope
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
Dear Annie: I’m a 24-year-
old male who has been
cross-dressing since the age of
8. It started with collecting my
own bras and panties, and now
I have an entire wardrobe of
Because I currently live on
my own, I change out of my
male clothes into my female
ones as soon as I come home
from work. I’ve also had very
serious thoughts and dreams
about being a woman.
This is confusing to me, and
I want to know whether there
is someone I can talk to about
these feelings. I’m way too
scared to come out to family
or friends because of what they
would think. — Lost in Ottawa
Dear Ottawa: Cross-dressing
is not as uncommon as you might
think, and there are many rea-
sons. Some people cross-dress
to disguise themselves, be more
comfortable, act a part or be-
cause it is attractive to a partner
(e.g., women who wear a man’s
dress shirt to bed). That type of
cross-dressing is fairly common
and socially acceptable.
For others, there is a sexu-
al component or a release of
tension, along with a compulsion
to wear clothing of the opposite
gender. This type of cross-dress-
ing can be more difficult for fam-
ily members or partners to accept.
You can find support and infor-
mation through The Society for
the Second Self (tri-ess.org) and
the International Foundation for
Gender Education (ifge.org).
Dear Annie: I read the letter
from “At a Loss for Words,” the
daughter who is constantly hurt by
her mother’s lack of involvement
with her children.
She could work on changing
her own behavior toward the sit-
uation. She has taught her moth-
er how to treat her by always
being loving and kind in spite
of Mom’s narcissistic attitude.
Perhaps she should take a dif-
ferent approach and just invite
Mom to her children’s events
with only brief notice and no
expectation that Mom will show
up. The more distance she puts
between herself and her mother
the more Mom will want to be
involved, because she will won-
der why things changed.
Also, perhaps she could put
a positive spin on things by rel-
ishing the fact that her mother
is not a busybody who is overly
involved in her life. (This hap-
pens much more often than the
reverse.) I bet as Mom ages, she
will try harder and harder to get
involved with her grandchil-
dren’s lives, but by that time,
it will be too late. Sadly, it will
take time for Mom to figure that
out. When the board meetings
and the fancy car appointments
are over, Mom will be a bitter
old woman. — Better Approach
Dear Better: You could be
right. Sometimes withhold-
ing one’s attentions makes you
more desirable, although it
would take a major behavioral
adjustment for the daughter to
behave in an indifferent and un-
caring way. But Mom may never
quite care enough about missing
out on one set of grandchildren.
She has another set whom she
favors, which is also part of the
FRANK AND ERNEST
WIZARD OF ID
ROSE IS ROSE
ARIES (March 21-April 19). People who
talk long enough will eventually strike upon
the information that is really useful to others,
but will they still be listening? It’s better to say a
little with judicious timing than it is to say a lot.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You don’t
know what people are going to want to talk
about, so there’s really no way to prepare for
any given conversation. The best you can
do is follow your interests and learn all you
can about them so you’ll have that to offer.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Eternity may
stretch out behind you and before you, but
where you’re standing now is also part of it.
Use this slice of eternity. Make it interesting.
It’s yours for the shaping.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). You like the
thrill of the chase, but right now you’re so
busy that catching, maintaining and find-
ing a place for what you’ve caught may be
more trouble than it’s worth. If you decide to
play the game, it will be catch and release.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You’ll enjoy the
tangible rewards of your work and appreci-
ate even more the intangible boost of con-
fidence and vitality you receive just from
being around certain people you’ve met
through your job.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). At heart,
you’re a minimalist who really cares about
the environment. There’s nothing that you
really need now, so if you’re going to steal,
you’ll steal time. And if you’re going to cre-
ate, you’ll create memories.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Some claim
“high-maintenance” like it’s a compliment,
but needing a lot of attention and care from
others to operate well in the world isn’t your
style. You’d rather make yourself easy to be
with, and that will work in your favor.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Welcome
the unexpected. Your feet are quick, your
tongue is sharp, and when you get sur-
prised, your recovery and response time
will be impressive to all the right people.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You
are under the magnetic spell of a fantasy.
You can mentally try on the idea without
making another move. Explore the story
in daydreams and hypothetical analysis.
There’s a reason it may not fit in real life.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Maybe
you don’t exactly long to see your name in
lights on a marquis, but there’s a version of
this publicity and acclaim that would thrill
you — a symbol of accomplishment with
your name all over it. Focus there.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Reading
can only take you so far. Instruction is use-
less unless it’s applied. You’re ready to roll
up your sleeves and dirty your hands with
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’re the
one who has lived inside your body your
whole life, but people around you may still
think they know what’s best for you. Trust
your own intuition over the so-called ex-
perts. Every body is different.
WEDNESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (March
25). In the next four weeks, you’ll connect
passionately with one of the great loves
of your life (which may be an activity and
not a person). Your talent will be spotlight-
ed. Financial success will hinge on a good
business plan. Resist the temptation to live
vicariously in August — follow your desire.
Capricorn and Leo people adore you. Your
lucky numbers are: 15, 42, 9, 38 and 19.