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FEATURES 6A THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, MARCH 18, 2015 She’s looking for greener pastures Tomorrow’s horoscope By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. Dear Annie: I married “Oliver” 20 year ago, and we moved to a small Mid- western city where Oliver was offered a well-paying job. I’m impressed with my husband’s “staying power” and am proud that he’s been able to keep this job through thick and thin. However, his pay leveled out a few years ago, and he hasn’t had an appreciable raise in many years. Our cost of living, however, has increased. This is not an area where I can easily ¿QGDMRELQP\FKRVHQFDUHHU,¶YHEHHQ fortunate to be able to work from home while raising our children, but the oldest will be out of high school in June. I’ve been unhappy here the entire time we’ve lived in this town. It’s a declining area, there is no job growth, and travel can be impossible in the winter because of the snow and ice. I’ve tried to “grow where I’m plant- ed,” getting involved in the community and the school, but I’m dying on the vine. I’ve had enough. I want to move to a more vibrant area, a better climate, and a place where I have more employment options. Oliver, however, has no interest in relocating. ,ZDQWWREHRXWRIKHUHZLWKLQ¿YH \HDUVZKHQRXU\RXQJHVWFKLOG¿QLVKHV high school. But Oliver is a homebody and doesn’t like change. We can’t afford a second home or an annual winter vaca- tion. If Oliver won’t go, I’m considering leaving on my own. I’ve put in my time, children and grandchildren. I am presently doing all I can to pro- tect the great-grandchildren. My ex-hus- band is planning a trip to see the family, Creators and I have warned all the parents not to Syndicate Inc. leave their children alone with him and explained why. He may be 80, but he Kathy Mitchell is still capable of offending. As loving and grandparents, we must do all we can to Marcy Sugar protect the children. The healing is long- term. — BC Canada and he’s had his career. When is it my Dear Canada: Your family seems to turn? — Stuck in the Midwest have had some major issues with abuse Dear Stuck:<RXKDYH¿YH\HDUVWR that have persisted through the gener- get Oliver ready for a change of scenery. ations. We are glad all of you have had Start to research areas that appeal to you counseling. You also are wise to pro- and that also offer job opportunities for tect the great-grandchildren from your Oliver. Look into housing prices, cost of ex-husband, even though such infor- living and community organizations. Try PDWLRQLVRIWHQGLI¿FXOWWRFRQYH\DQG to take at least one vacation in the area to believe. see whether it meets your expectations. Dear Annie: Your answer to “Bro- Then inform Oliver that this is where you kenhearted in Florida” was much too would like to move and when. Bring it nice. I don’t know what her circumstanc- up every few months, showing him your es were when she gave up her son, but to “new neighborhood” and the things you give up a child at age 4 is pretty harsh. will do there. Make it familiar to him, and Telling him he should have contacted he will be more amenable to going there. her sooner is just an excuse to avoid con- Dear Annie: I am a great-grand- tact and is so cruel that I can’t wrap my mother who left an abusive husband in head around it. the 1960s. My children were sexual- It can take years to track down birth ly abused by him. We have all been in parents. “Brokenhearted” sounds like a counseling. I have uncovered intergener- cold woman without empathy. Maybe ational abuse in both my family and my she deserves to feel a small bit of what ex-husband’s family. Domestic abuse her son has been feeling all these years. has also been found in the homes of my — Stunned in Pittsburgh Annie’s Mailbox FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH STONE SOUP B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE ARIES (March 21-April 19). You don’t want them to feel overly persuaded by you, because you know they’ll push back. That’s why you might act like you don’t want the choice you advocate or that it hurts you per- sonally to want it. Tricky, but effective. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Your influ- ence is strong in part because people trust you to do what’s good for the majority in- stead of only what’s good for you. Luckily, today your interests align perfectly with the better half of the group. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You have the situational awareness of Jason Bourne now and can apply it to solve the mystery of what’s really going on in your environment, as well as the deeper question of “Who am I?” CANCER (June 22-July 22). Every per- son has a set of behaviors that he or she would normally enact in a given situation. When someone departs from this baseline of activity, it’s a clue for you and a signal to figure out what’s really going on. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Like the sea- soned performers know, the best show in the world can go unappreciated by the wrong audience. Market what you do so you can find your right audience. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Most people around you are just like you: trying to get along. That’s why the person exhibiting dom- inant behaviors feels threatening. It’s worth paying attention to, because if you can put this person at ease, it will be good for all. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). It’s obvious (and repellent) to you when another person is trying too hard. That’s why whenever you feel like you’re edging toward this state, you take a few steps back, regain your compo- sure and reframe the situation. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You’re so bright and imaginative that you need inter- esting challenges to keep your mind busy. You’ll struggle when the environment is dull. The best thing to do is plan your escape. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). It’s good to know your weaknesses, but don’t change a thing until you’ve first considered the advantage that lies within each weak- ness and how you counter it with a strength. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). As you take in the view, you can’t help but wonder whether you’re looking for and paying at- tention to the right things. Stay relaxed and alert. Don’t doubt for a minute that some- thing inside you knows the right answer. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). There will be those around you who talk a good game, but you have a special talent for spot- ting posers, frauds and wannabes. You may heroically intervene for someone who isn’t as savvy as you. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). When it’s their job, their desire or their duty to take care of you, let them. If it’s their obligation, however, pass on the care. It’s likely to be tainted and costly. THURSDAY’S BIRTHDAY (March 19). Your intellectual interests are pathways to many forms of riches. April will demand practical action and follow-through. You’ll reach an important milestone by May. Complicated relationships will smooth out in June. Brilliant joint ventures will mix love and business. July brings an important step forward in love. Libra and Leo people adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 40, 11, 37, 14 and 17.