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FEATURES 6A THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, FEBRUARY 2, 2015 Sister’s kids keeping her awake Tomorrow’s horoscope By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. Dear Annie: I am close to my parents, and my husband and I love to visit them when we’re in town. We always stay in their home, not only because it is conve- nient for us, but because I know my moth- er would be upset if we didn’t. The problem is my sister and her chil- dren. While we are at my parents’ house, she drops the kids off each morning, and they stay until nearly midnight (even on school nights). My sister does not work outside the home. She simply wants the time for herself. One of the children plays a video game, loudly, all hours of the day. He screams obscenities at the TV and will not respond to our kind insistence that he turn down the volume. I have tried gently broaching this topic with my mother, to no avail. We have trouble falling asleep at night, as we have to listen to the sound RIJXQ¿UHDQGREVFHQLWLHVIURPWKHJXHVW room. Is there a kind way to tell my mother that we would like to have child-free time without the grandchildren present? Is this overstepping our role as houseguests? — Just Want Peace and Quiet Dear Peace and Quiet: You are not overstepping to want a good night’s sleep, but you have no say over Mom’s rules, such as they are. We are sure Mom loves having you, but she is not likely to make waves with your sister, who lives closer and with whom she needs to have a good child to get the same amount from our es- tate. I disagree. I want the amount to be divided in half, and each half then divided between the children on each side. Creators We have not been arguing about this. Syndicate Inc. We just haven’t taken care of the arrange- ments. I will agree to whatever you say. Kathy Mitchell — Taking Care of Business and Dear Business: Generally, we believe Marcy Sugar all children should be treated equally when dividing an estate, because other- relationship. You will lose that battle. wise, there is rancor between the children. Tell your mother you understand why However, if you brought vastly unequal she indulges the grandchildren, but from assets into the marriage and the children now on, you will spend at least one or two were not raised together, the situation is nights at a hotel in order to rest and will different. Please discuss these issues with visit her during the day. Please be nice an estate attorney, who will help you sort about it. Mom has enough aggravation. through the possibilities and reach a deci- We feel sorry for her and especially for VLRQWKDWVDWLV¿HVERWKRI\RX those kids, who are growing up with so Dear Annie: “Tired and Disgusted little parental guidance. Your sister could Other Half” wrote that her husband is dis- EHQH¿WIURPVRPHSDUHQWLQJFODVVHVEXW respectful and puts her down in front of it is unlikely that she will take advice from their children and friends. She said she’s you. been married too long to leave. Your re- Dear Annie: My husband and I have sponse was good, but I was married to been married for 19 years. We have no such a man. He refused to understand children together, but we each have chil- what the problem was and would not dren from previous marriages. go for counseling, because I was the one From Day One of our marriage, he with the problem. made it clear he did not want to pay for 7KHUH DUH PHQ ZKR ZLOO QRW EHQH¿W Christmas, birthdays, weddings, etc., on from counseling, nor will their wives or P\VLGHZKLFKZDV¿QH,¶YHWDNHQFDUH their relationships. I suspect it’s a high of my side, and he’s done his. percentage of older men. I was married We are now at an age where we need for 32 years, and I stayed too long. — to put our affairs in order. He wants each California Annie’s Mailbox FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH STONE SOUP B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE ARIES (March 21-April 19). Your good fortune can be traced back to your attitude, lifestyle and frame of mind. The bottom line is that you’ll do what inter- ests you and make yourself very happy in the process. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Some- times the best form of action is inaction. That will be the case this afternoon. When in doubt, throw up your hands, walk away and become the world’s greatest observer. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Life is like an auction. Whoever wants something enough to put forth the effort it takes to get it will win the auction. For best re- sults, team up with a Capricorn. CANCER (June 22-July 22). The people who help you are also helping themselves in some way. Knowing what they get out of the exchange will be use- ful. You’re extremely intuitive, especially in the evening. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The facts point to a somber truth, and you’ll be emotionally moved by data. The ques- tion is: What are you going to do about it? You’ll come up with solutions tonight. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You see how useless it is to complain. Instead of wasting your time talking about the way things (SET ITAL) should (END ITAL) be, you attempt to understand and ac- cept how things really are. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). No matter where you are in life, it’s better to accept it the way it is than to resist, complain or cry about it. Your winning attitude will help you see how to turn things to your advantage. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). What’s appropriate also happens to be deadly boring. Color outside the lines of your life today, and while you’re at it, use the zany shades. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). People find you difficult to approach to- day because your confidence is intim- idating to those who have less. If you want to make new friends, you’ll have to make the first move. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You’re working too hard at something that is not worth your time. How can you achieve the maximum result with the least effort? It starts with asking that question. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). There are many reasons to get physically and emotionally stronger. Stronger people get what they want more often! Today will bring an exercise to help you gain emotional muscle tone. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). There are people in your life who are naturally competitive and will try to compete with you in more or less every situation. Just expect it and don’t give them any extra reasons to feel insecure. TUESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Feb. 3). When your loved ones are happy, so are you. Even though your happiness is not entirely in your control, you will very successfully put smiles on their faces throughout the year. Your artistic and/ or musical abilities will be highlighted in April. Capricorn and Taurus people adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 5, 26, 11, 2 and 16.
