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FEATURES 6A THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, JANUARY 30, 2015 Strange bedfellows raise question Tomorrow’s horoscope By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. Dear Annie: Over the holidays, I stayed at my cousin’s home. My cousin has two children, a daughter and a son. The son is 14 years old. I noticed that the boy’s grandmother slept with him in the same bed. I think she has a weird obsession with the boy. She is constantly touching him and rub- bing his back. She always has to sit next to him. She pays very little attention to the younger granddaughter. Worse, the granddaughter told me that her mother also sometimes sleeps with her brother (instead of her dad). I think it is extremely odd for these women to be sleeping with this young man, who also still sleeps with his baby blanket. Isn’t he too old for this? What is wrong with these women? Should I say something? — More Than a Little Grossed Out Dear More: Yes. We are surprised that a 14-year-old boy wouldn’t object more to the sleeping arrangements, and we suspect he will put a stop to it soon. If the mother and grandmother are doing this over the boy’s objections, howev- er, that is completely inappropriate and potentially abusive. You could ask your FRXVLQDERXWWKLVVD\LQJ\RX¿QGLWRGG and possibly damaging. You also could mention it to the father, suggesting he step up and protect his son. Dear Annie: I read the letter from “Help,” whose husband naps when he sleep is important to your health. If the problem is snoring, dry mouth, excessive urination or apnea, please see a GRFWRUWR¿QGRXWZKHWKHUWKHUHLVDQ\HI- Creators fective treatment for you. But also check Syndicate Inc. your bedroom to make sure there isn’t a lot of light or noise, or electronic gadgets Kathy Mitchell that glow or vibrate. This, too, can inter- and fere with restful, restorative sleep. Marcy Sugar Dear Annie: I am responding to “Actively Confused,” whose wife bat- gets home and then is up half the night. tled cancer and now resents his activities. She seems to think everyone can handle I am a lung cancer survivor. My wife regular nighttime hours. took care of me for the better part of 18 If I slept every night from 11 p.m. to months, showering me and feeding me 7 a.m., I would be more tired as the week through a tube. She also worked full time went on, because my body wakes me up outside the home. At the time, I didn’t multiple times at night. When I don’t set much care what she wanted to do. an alarm, I sometimes don’t wake up until As I progressed, I realized she need- 10 hours after I went to bed. If I get up ed to get out of the house and do things after eight hours, I often need a nap later for herself, even though it meant going because I did not get enough actual sleep. ZLWKRXWPH7KDWZDV¿QH$VP\PR- While I agree that seeing a doctor bility improved, I would do things with might be helpful, his wife can also sug- her even if those weren’t my favorite gest that he stay up all night one time things. We both knew that I needed to be and then try to sleep from 9 p.m. until 7 more active, or I’d just waste away on a.m. He might be able to manage that. the couch. It takes a long time to get your — John stamina back, and I still haven’t after Dear John: Why are you getting four years. up so much at night? To use the bath- Together, my wife and I are getting room? Because something (snoring, through this, and we both realize that apnea, dryness, light, noise) is waking neither one of us is what we used to be. you up? While we understand that not With her, our children and good doctors, everyone has a “normal” nighttime nurses, therapists and prayers, I am still VOHHS F\FOH D VXI¿FLHQW DPRXQW RI here to try. — Less Active, Not Confused Annie’s Mailbox FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH STONE SOUP B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE ARIES (March 21-April 19). You come to the mysterious door and turn the key in the lock, and to your utter delight, you see... Your answer to the question points to the direction of your happiness. How can you get there faster? TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Your early memories of faith or religion will have a bearing on your thought process today. Recognize that you are still being influ- enced by someone else’s moral code even though you don’t completely share it. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Because of the way our minds work, whatever the endeavor, the first time is usually the most memorable one. It’s time for another first in your life. Make it happen. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You desire to grow your brain, yet there is a point at which reading too many unfamiliar con- cepts, words and styles makes you numb, immune to learning or sleepy. Take it in small bites. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). There’s a sub- ject that keeps revisiting your mind sever- al times a day, and this is likely to continue until it’s resolved. As much as you dislike confrontation, this is probably not going to happen without one. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Sitting qui- etly and waiting for inspiration won’t work. The muses are likelier to visit you while you’re walking, cooking, showering or driving. One good idea could change your life. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You’ll prac- tice the kind of skill that is pretty easy to pick up initially but takes years to perfect. Keep at it. The mastery of common things can be uncommon indeed. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). It’s not about what actually happened; it’s about the context, mood and feeling — the in- calculable data — that have to line up with the actual events for the situation to work. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Do you have the manpower, tools and re- sources necessary to complete a job? It doesn’t matter. You’ll cross the finish line because of your sheer determination. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Maybe you’re not exactly in a state of harmony today, but you will be in the near future. Trust that, and build your resources for the later date when you’ll need them. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Some social scientists have concluded that brainstorming in groups actually impedes innovation. Whether or not that’s true, the groupthink will annoy you now, and you’ll be brilliant on your own. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). There’s poetry in simplicity, though — with the ex- ception of nursery rhymes, haiku and lim- ericks — it rarely happens in the reverse. You’ll have an audience for the beautiful simplicity you concoct today. SATURDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Jan. 31). If life is a party, you’re the “it” guest this year. February is a whirl of fun. After March’s call to clear out negativity and dysfunc- tion, you’ll work on the fundamental build- ing blocks of good living again in May. July and August are focused on a moneymak- ing venture with a stellar chance of suc- cess if you don’t give up. Leo and Aries adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 5, 22, 31, 39 and 13.