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Newspaper Page TextPAGE A6, KEIZERTIMES, SEPTEMBER 27, 2019 LGBTQ: Unconditional support is essential S (Continued from Page A1) DRIVE A LITTLE – SAVE A BUNCH! 3893 COMMERCIAL ST SE • SALEM MORE INFO AT NORTHERNLIGHTSTHEATREPUB.COM OPEN CAPTION SHOWING Aladdin (PG) Wednesday, Sept 25 SAT, OCT 5 Toy Story 4 (PG) 11:00 AM TICKETS ARE JUST $4 SPECIAL SHOWING FOR KIDS AND ADULTS WITH AUTISM OR OTHER SENSORY SENSITIVITIES. 6 PM, TICKETS ARE $4/EACH. Special showing with captioning shown on screen with the movie. LIVE STAND UP COMEDY Lights, Comedy, Laughs! Saturday, October 12 CHARLIE WIENER & MONICA NEVI will perform at 7pm and 9pm. Admission is only $10. Ages 21 & over only. Reserved seating for this show. Purchase tickets at box offi ce or at our website. Today in History 140,000 Polish troops are taken prisoner by the German invaders as Warsaw surrenders to the superior mechanized forces of Hitler’s army. The Poles fought bravely, but were able to hold on for only 26 days. On the heels of its victory, the Germans began a systematic program of terror, murder, and cruelty, executing members of Poland’s middle and upper classes: Doctors, teachers, priests, landowners, and businessmen were rounded up and killed. The Roman Catholic Church, too, was targeted. In one west Poland church diocese alone, 214 priests were shot. And hundreds of thousands more Poles were driven from their homes and relocated east, as Germans settled in the vacated areas. — September 27, 1939 Food 4 Thought “The right to do something does not mean that doing it is right. ” — William Saﬁ re, presidential speechwriter and columnist, died Sept. 27, 2009 The Weeks Ahead Through Saturday, October 12 Willamette University Theatre presents Men on Boats by Jaclyn Backhaus. For more details visit willamette.edu/ arts/theatre. Saturday, September 27 – Monday, September 30 Oregon Symphony, led by conductor Carlos Kalmar, presents Brahms’ Symphony No. 2, with pianist Garrick Ohlsson. The evening also includes Mozart’s Piano Concerto No. 25. Visit www.orsymphonysalem.org to purchase tickets and for more details. Tuesday, October 1 Free admission all day at Hallie Ford Museum of Art, 700 State Street. Hours are 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. The Pollinator Conservation Short Course from 9 a.m.-5 p.m. at Minto Island Growers, 3394 Brown Island Road S., Salem, OR 97302, is a full day workshop that focuses on protecting and enhancing population of pollinators, especially bees, in agricultural landscapes. Space is limited. The cost is $25 and registration fee of $2.47. Register at tinyurl.com/y62dk8pr. Thursday, October 3 – Tuesday, October 29 Keizer Art Association‚Äôs October show is Colors of Autumn. An artists‚Äô reception will be held at the Enid Joy Mount Gallery 2-4 p.m. on Saturday, Oct. 5. Gallery hours are 1-4 p.m. Tuesday to Friday and 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. on Saturday. keizerarts.com. Friday, October 4 The Nightmare Factory opens at 7 p.m. Open Friday and Saturday through November 4. Tickets are $20 each. nightmarefactorysalem.com. Saturday, October 5 McNary High School’s class of 1979 will hold their 40-year reunion at the Keizer Civic Center. For more information, go to mcnary79.net or email the reunion committee at mcnaryclassof79@gmail.com. Sunday, October 6 “Finding the Psalms in Our Hymns” a hymn festival led by Dr. Carl P. Daw, a professor of theology at Boston University. There will be a choir and brass ensemble conducted by Paul Klemme. 4-5 p.m. at St. Paul’s Episcopal Church, 1444 Liberty Street SE, Salem. Wednesday, October 9 Elsinore Theatre’s Wednesday Film Series presents Alfred Hitchcock’s Rope, 2 p.m. and 7 p.m. Admission is $6 or $40 for 8 admissions. Friday, October 11 – Sunday, November 3 Enlightened Theatrics presents The Rocky Horror Picture Show. Visit the box ofﬁ ce or EnlightenedTheatrics.org for tickets and more information. Friday – Sunday, October 11 – 13 and Friday – Sunday, October 18 – 20 Sorry, Wrong Number / The Hitchhiker, two one- act plays by Lucille Fletcher. Staged reading at Keizer Homegrown Theatre at the Keizer Cultural Center, 980 Chemawa Rd. N.E. Tickets are $10; free admission for Oregon Trail card holders. Performances at 7 p.m. Fridays and Saturdays; 2 p.m. on Sundays.Visit Facebook.com/ keizerhomegrowntheatre for more information. Saturday, October 12 The Historic Elsinore Theatre presents Aureum by Halcyon Shows, an aerial and acrobatic adventure tale, 7:30 p.m. Tickets range rom $35 to $55. elsinoretheatre. com. Thursday, October 17 McNary Hall of Fame Banquet will be held from 5:30 - 8:30 p.m. at Quality Suites, 5188 Wittenberg Lane, Keizer. Ticket pricing are $60 for individuals, $100 for couples, $350 for a reserved table of seven and event sponsorship is $1,000. Contact gragg_scott@salkeiz.k12.or.us or visit http://cm.keizerchamber.com/events/details/mcnary- hall-of-fame-banquet-26716 for more details. Friday, October 18 – Saturday, November 9 Pentacle theatre presents Mothers and Sons. Visit pentacletheatre.org for more information about the play. Wednesday, October 23 Community dinner at St. Edward Catholic Church, 5 p.m. Free to the public. Add your event by e-mailing reporter@keizertimes.com past year working to bring the Family Acceptance Project to Oregon. The Family Accep- tance project is an initiative to educate parents and those who work with kids on the impact of rejecting the identity of their kids when they come out as queer. The project, created by San Francisco State University, is informed by a study conducted by the university. The study ex- amines the differences in how parents think about and treat their LGBTQ+ kids and how their kids feel about that treat- ment. “It has identifi ed a whole se- ries of behaviors that LGBTQ youth experience as rejecting, that families may actually think protect their children,” said An- nette Marcus, the state suicide prevention liaison for the alli- ance. The Family Acceptance Project study elaborated upon how that dissonance occurs be- tween intention and outcome. “Many parents believe that the best way to help their gay or transgender children thrive as adults is to help them try to fi t in with their heterosexual peers. This may mean trying to change their child’s sexual orientation or gender identity,” the SFSU study authors wrote. “It also often means prevent- ing them from learning about homosexuality or from fi nding gay or transgender resources to help them develop a positive sense of the future as a gay or transgender adult.” According to the study, physically abusive behaviors are just as detrimental to a young person’s wellbeing as emotional rejections, like preventing them from learning about queer identities or discouraging kids from making queer friends. “Parents think they are help- ing their children survive in a world they feel will never ac- cept them by trying to prevent them from learning about or from being gay. But adolescents feel as if their parents don’t love them, are ashamed of them or even hate them,” the SFSU study found. Marcus said in her experi- ence at the crossroads of sui- cide prevention and LGBTQ+ youth, most families don’t real- ly understand the impact their outlook toward their child’s identity can have on them, even if it doesn’t result in physical abuse or abandonment of the child. “Obviously there’s fami- lies out there that have pushed their kids out into the street and done really awful things,” she said. “But mostly families want what’s best for their kids, and don’t understand that they are potentially seriously harm- ing their children” when they make remarks that are dispar- aging toward their LGBTQ+ kid’s identity. “When you reject your LGBTQ youth, you are literal- ly putting your child at risk for suicide,” Marcus said. These rejections of identity go far beyond a child’s percep- tion of their sexuality or gender identity, the study found. “Young people feel that by rejecting their gay or transgen- der identity – a very core part of who they are as a person – their parents are rejecting all of who they are. Instead, these very different ideas about how best to help their gay children lead to family confl ict and in- crease the adolescent’s distress and loss of hope,” the SFSU study found. Rejection of LGBTQ+ kids, the study found, has a lasting impact on the child’s ability to live a healthy and productive life. Among other fi ndings, the report correlated rejection of an LGBTQ+ child’s identity with increased risk of suicide attempts and depression. Youth who are “highly rejected” by their families, the report found, were “more than eight times as likely to have attempted sui- cide” and “nearly six times as likely to report high levels of depression.” Acceptance of an LGBTQ+ youth’s identity can’t start once the child comes out as gay or transgender, either. Parents need to be aware that their child can be impacted by the stray homophobic or transpho- bic comment at any age. “I think parents need to re- member, even when they have a 5-year-old, you don’t know which if one of your children might be gay,” Marcus said. “So the way you’re talking about gays, lesbians, the LGBTQ community - your child could be hearing [those comments] as being about them even when you don’t realize that.” What’s also notable about the study, Marcus added, is that parents don’t have to be LGBTQ+ advocates to de- crease their gay or transgender child’s risk of mental health concerns. “Even small amounts of be- ing more accepting have prov- en to have long term benefi cial outcomes,” she said. Family support is crucial for LGBTQ+ young people, who are also twice as likely as their straight and cisgender peers to be bullied at school or threat- ened with a weapon. The sur- vey also found that LGBTQ+ young people were also “three times as likely to have stayed home from school because they were afraid for their safety at school.” That makes safe spaces im- portant for young people – both in their own home, but also in places that are specifi - cally geared toward those who identify as they do. These spac- es are often not readily available – for example, Salem-Keizer Public Schools only has two active Gay-Straight Alliance clubs. That means parents should take an active role in accepting their children and surrounding them with other supportive people as well. Surviving a Mental Health Crisis As more young people struggle with mental health, it becomes even more crucial for bystanders to understand how to support them. Listen non-judgmentally Acknowledge that what the person is feeling is real, and be empathetic and accepting Ask about even though you suicidal thoughts may not agree. If you think there is a chance to intervene, ask the person directly if they are thinking of killing themselves. If they say “no,” ask again. Someone might be able to shrug off the ﬁ rst inquiry, it’s harder the Ask about plans second time. If they say, “yes,” ask if they have decided how, when and if they’ve gotten the things they need to pull it off. The more answers they have, the closer they are to an attempt. Do not leave them alone if you believe self-harm or harm Encourage professional, to others is imminent. self-help Call 9-1-1 if it’s too Help them explore activities big to handle. that might bolster their mental health, from therapy to hotlines to regular exercise. The most important protective factor for a youth against a mental health crisis is feeling close to at least one adult. The number for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is Investigate mental 1-800-273-8255. health ﬁ rst aid Mental Health First Aid is a free, eight-hour crash course in what to do when someone you know, love, or barely know, is experiencing a mental health crisis. A full list of upcoming free classes in the area can be found at www.mentalhealthﬁ rstaid.org. “For LGBTQ youth to have a network of people who are unequivocally supportive, and had some shared life experi- ence, is just an incredibly im- portant kind of foundation for them for the rest of life,” Mar- cus said. “Your children want to be celebrated for who they are and it’s important for par- ents to listen to their children about what their needs are and who they need to have as com- munity.” When LGBTQ+ young people don’t have that founda- tion, it impacts their ability to see themselves succeeding later in life. Due to lasting stigma and ostracization, LGBTQ+ youth can “feel like they don’t have a future, they don’t have hope or their family doesn’t want them, and so having spaces that em- phasize their value is really cru- cial,” Marcus said. And while Marcus’s work in suicide prevention can be de- pressing, she said, there’s also an upside: seeing people make it out of the dark places and into a better state of mind. But that doesn’t come without support. “What we need to be point- ing out to young people is their resilience and helping them to see ways to get through the hard time,” Marcus said. “All of us are going to experience hard times, but you can get through them.” The Family Acceptance Project has created informa- tional materials for parents of LGBTQ+ youth. Those mate- rials can be accessed at family- project.sfsu.edu/ For parents, friends, and al- lies of LGBTQ+ youth inter- ested in advocacy and support, PFLAG meetings are held the second Monday and fourth Saturday of every month. For more information on the orga- nization and its meeting times, visit PFLAG Salem’s Facebook page. Next week: Learn about mental health resources available to strug- gling young people and how adults can use their stories of survival to help today’s teens. hometown news U.S. Air Force Airman An- gel L. Hudson graduated from basic military training at Joint Base San Antonio-Lackland, San Antonio, Texas. The airman completed an intensive, eight-week, multi- discipline program. Airmen who complete basic training also earn four credits toward an associate in applied science degree through the Community Col- lege of the Air Force. Hudson is the daughter of Stacey and Nicole Hudson of Keizer. She is a 2019 graduate of McNary High School. maze looking back in the KT 3893 COMMERCIAL ST SE THIS WEEK’S MOVIE TIMES 47 Meters Uncaged (PG-13) Fri 6:40, 8:30, Sat 5:00, 8:55, Sun 6:50 Dora and The Lost City of Gold (PG) Fri 3:50, Sat 11:45, 4:20, 12:25, 2:25 Toy Story 4 (G) Fri 2:00, 4:10, Sat 12:00, 2:00, 4:00, Sun 12:00, 1:55, 3:50 Spiderman Extended Far From Home (PG-13) Fri 4:05, 6:15, 8:45, Sat 1:45, 6:00, 8:30, Sun 5:50, 8:20 The Kitchen (R) Sat 6:50, Sun 8:35 Angry Brids Movie 2 (PG) Fri 2:55, Sun 3:05 Yesterday (PG-13) Fri 8:15, Sun 12:50 Aladdin (PG) Fri 1:45, 5:50, Sat 12:30, 6:25, Sun 4:25, 7:25 Rocketman (R) Fri 1:30, Sat 8:50 Men in Black: Intn’l (PG-13) Sun 5:10 FOR ALL SHOWTIMES GO TO NORTHERNLIGHTSTHEATREPUB.COM 5 YEARS AGO Slick licks at McNary High School Dakota Bradley gets up-close- and-personal with the crowd at a High School Nation concert hosted by McNary High School. 10 YEARS AGO Health on wheels A handful of city employees are participating in the Bike Commute Challenge this September. Maze by Jonathan Graf of Keizer sudoku 15 YEARS AGO Developers ready to break ground for Keizer Station The fi rst shovels of dirt will be turned next week to signal the offi cial start of construction of the Keizer Station Project. 20 YEARS AGO District seeks extra cash for costly Keizer schools School district offi cials are recommending that the two new schools go up in Southeast Keizer as originally planned – despite sharply higher costs. Enter digits from 1-9 into the blank spaces. Every row must contain one of each digit. So must every column, as must every 3x3 square.