LEGAL NOTICES
IN THE CIRCUIT COURT OF THE
STATE OF OREGON FOR LANE
COUNTY Juvenile Department. In the
Matter of APOLLO ALEXANDER GILLILAND,
A Child. Case No. 24JU04509 PUBLISHED
SUMMONS TO: Macy Chantel Orth IN THE
NAME OF THE STATE OF OREGON: A peti-
tion has been filed asking the court to
terminate your parental rights to the
above-named child under ORS 419B.500,
419B.502, 419B.504, 419B.506 and/or
419B.508 for the purpose of placing the
child for adoption. YOU ARE REQUIRED TO
PERSONALLY APPEAR before the Lane
County Circuit Court, 2727 Martin Luther
King Jr., Blvd., Eugene, Oregon 97401, on
May 1, 2025 at 10:00 A.M. for a hearing on
the allegations of the petition and to per-
sonally appear at any subsequent
court-ordered hearing. YOU MUST
APPEAR PERSONALLY in the courtroom on
the date and at the time listed above. AN
ATTORNEY MAY NOT ATTEND THE
HEARING IN YOUR PLACE. THEREFORE,
YOU MUST APPEAR EVEN IF YOUR
ATTORNEY ALSO APPEARS. This sum-
mons is published pursuant to the order of
the circuit court judge of the above-enti-
tled court, dated February 6, 2025. The
order directs that this summons be pub-
lished once each week for three consecu-
tive weeks, making three publications in
all, in a published newspaper of general
circulation in Lane County. Date of first
publication: April 10, 2025 Date of last
publication: April 24, 2025 NOTICE READ
THESE PAPERS CAREFULLY If you do not
appear personally before the court as
directed above, then you must appear May
15, 2025, at 10:00 a.m. at the same
address listed above. If you fail to appear
for both dates or do not appear at any
subsequent court-ordered hearing, the
court may proceed in your absence and,
without further notice, TERMINATE YOUR
PARENTAL RIGHTS to the above-named
child either on the dates specified in THIS
SUMMONS OR ON A FUTURE DATE and
may make such orders and take such
action as authorized by law. To request
appointment of an attorney to represent
you at state expense, you must ask the
judge at the May 1, 2025, at 10:00 a.m.,
hearing listed in this summons. RIGHTS
AND OBLIGATIONS (1) YOU HAVE A RIGHT
TO BE REPRESENTED BY AN ATTORNEY IN
THIS MATTER. If you are currently repre-
sented by an attorney, CONTACT YOUR
ATTORNEY
IMMEDIATELY
UPON
RECEIVING THIS NOTICE. Your previous
attorney may not be representing you in
this matter. IF YOU WISH TO HIRE AN
ATTORNEY, please retain one as soon as
possible to represent you in this proceed-
ing. If you need help finding an attorney,
you may call the Oregon State Bar's
Lawyer Referral Service at (503) 684-
3763 or toll free in Oregon at (800) 452-
7636. IF YOU CANNOT AFFORD TO HIRE
AN ATTORNEY and you meet the state's
financial guidelines, you are entitled to
have an attorney appointed for you at
state
expense.
TO
REQUEST
APPOINTMENT OF AN ATTORNEY TO
REPRESENT YOU AT STATE EXPENSE, YOU
MUST IMMEDIATELY CONTACT the Lane
County Circuit Court at 2727 Martin
Luther King Jr., Blvd., Eugene, Oregon
97401, Phone: 541-682-4020 between the
hours of 8:00 a.m. and 5:00 p.m. for fur-
ther information. IF YOU ARE
REPRESENTED BY AN ATTORNEY, IT IS
YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO MAINTAIN
CONTACT WITH YOUR ATTORNEY AND TO
KEEP YOUR ATTORNEY ADVISED OF YOUR
WHEREABOUTS. (2) If you contest the
petition, the court will schedule a hearing
on the allegations of the petition and order
you to appear personally and may sched-
ule other hearings related to the petition
and order you to appear personally. IF YOU
ARE ORDERED TO APPEAR, YOU MUST
APPEAR PERSONALLY IN THE
COURTROOM, UNLESS THE COURT HAS
GRANTED YOU AN EXCEPTION IN
ADVANCE under ORS 419B.918 to appear
by other means including, but not limited
to, telephonic or other electronic means.
An attorney may not attend the hearing(s)
in your place. PETITIONER'S ATTORNEY
Alex Pierce Assistant Attorney General
Department of Justice, 975 Oak Street,
Suite 200 Eugene, OR 97401. 541-686-
7973 ISSUED this 3rd day of March, 2025.
Issued by: Alex Pierce, OSB# 175653
Assistant Attorney General
IN THE CIRCUIT COURT OF THE
STATE OF OREGON FOR LANE
COUNTY Juvenile Department. In the
Matter of LUCIAN VINCENT ASHE, A Child.
Case No. 24JU05833 PUBLISHED
SUMMONS TO: Gavin Noah Ashe Without
Fixed Residence. IN THE NAME OF THE
STATE OF OREGON: A petition has been
filed asking the court to terminate your
parental rights to the above-named child
under ORS 419B.500, 419B.502, 419B.504,
419B.506 and/or 419B.508 for the pur-
pose of placing the child for adoption. YOU
support.eugeneweekly.com
ARE REQUIRED TO PERSONALLY APPEAR
before the Lane County Circuit Court,
2727 Martin Luther King Jr Blvd., Eugene,
OR 97401, on April 3, 2025 at 10:00 A.M.
for a hearing on the allegations of the
petition and to personally appear at any
subsequent court-ordered hearing. YOU
MUST APPEAR PERSONALLY in the court-
room on the date and at the time listed
above. AN ATTORNEY MAY NOT ATTEND
THE HEARING IN YOUR PLACE.
THEREFORE, YOU MUST APPEAR EVEN IF
YOUR ATTORNEY ALSO APPEARS. This
summons is published pursuant to the
order of the circuit court judge of the
above-entitled court, dated February 9,
2025. The order directs that this sum-
mons be published once each week for
three consecutive weeks, making three
publications in all, in a published newspa-
per of general circulation in Lane County.
Date of first publication: February 27,
2025 Date of last publication: March 13,
2025. NOTICE READ THESE PAPERS
CAREFULLY If you do not appear personal-
ly before the court as directed above, then
you must appear on April 17, 2025, at
10:00 A.M., at the same address listed
above. IF YOU DO NOT APPEAR
PERSONALLY BEFORE THE COURT OR DO
NOT APPEAR AT ANY SUBSEQUENT
COURT-ORDERED HEARING, the court may
proceed in your absence without further
notice and TERMINATE YOUR PARENTAL
RIGHTS to the above-named child either
on the date specified in this summons or
on a future date and may make such
orders and take such action as authorized
by law. RIGHTS AND OBLIGATIONS (1) YOU
HAVE A RIGHT TO BE REPRESENTED BY
AN ATTORNEY IN THIS MATTER. If you are
currently represented by an attorney,
CONTACT YOUR ATTORNEY IMMEDIATELY
UPON RECEIVING THIS NOTICE. Your pre-
vious attorney may not be representing
you in this matter. IF YOU WISH TO HIRE
AN ATTORNEY, please retain one as soon
as possible to represent you in this pro-
ceeding. If you need help finding an attor-
ney, you may call the Oregon State Bar's
Lawyer Referral Service at (503) 684-
3763 or toll free in Oregon at (800) 452-
7636. IF YOU CANNOT AFFORD TO HIRE
AN ATTORNEY and you meet the state's
financial guidelines, you are entitled to
have an attorney appointed for you at
state
expense.
TO
REQUEST
APPOINTMENT OF AN ATTORNEY TO
REPRESENT YOU AT STATE EXPENSE, YOU
MUST IMMEDIATELY CONTACT the Lane
County Circuit Court at 2727 Martin
Luther King Jr Blvd., Eugene, OR 97401,
and (541) 682-4020 between the hours of
8:00 a.m. and 5:00 p.m. for further infor-
mation. IF YOU ARE REPRESENTED BY AN
ATTORNEY, IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY
TO MAINTAIN CONTACT WITH YOUR
ATTORNEY AND TO KEEP YOUR
ATTORNEY ADVISED OF YOUR
WHEREABOUTS. (2) If you contest the
petition, the court will schedule a hearing
on the allegations of the petition and order
you to appear personally and may sched-
ule other hearings related to the petition
and order you to appear personally. IF YOU
ARE ORDERED TO APPEAR, YOU MUST
APPEAR PERSONALLY IN THE
COURTROOM, UNLESS THE COURT HAS
GRANTED YOU AN EXCEPTION IN
ADVANCE under ORS 419B.918 to appear
by other means including, but not limited
to, telephonic or other electronic means.
An attorney may not attend the hearing(s)
in your place. PETITIONER'S ATTORNEY
Rebecca Z. May Senior Assistant Attorney
General Department of Justice 975 Oak
Street, Ste. 200 Eugene, OR 97401 (541)
686-7973 ISSUED this 19th day of
February, 2025. Issued by: Rebecca Z.
May, OSB #074571 Senior Assistant
Attorney General
IN THE CIRCUIT COURT OF THE
STATE OF OREGON FOR LANE
COUNTY Juvenile Department. In the
Matter of LUCIAN VINCENT ASHE, A Child.
Case No. 24JU05834 PUBLISHED
SUMMONS TO: Esther Virginia Reyes
Without Fixed Residence. IN THE NAME OF
THE STATE OF OREGON: A petition has
been filed asking the court to terminate
your parental rights to the above-named
child under ORS 419B.500, 419B.502,
419B.504, 419B.506 and/or 419B.508 for
the purpose of placing the child for adop-
tion. YOU ARE REQUIRED TO PERSONALLY
APPEAR before the Lane County Circuit
Court, 2727 Martin Luther King Jr Blvd.,
Eugene, OR 97401, on April 4, 2025, at
10:00 A.M. for a hearing on the allegations
of the petition and to personally appear at
any subsequent court-ordered hearing.
YOU MUST APPEAR PERSONALLY in the
courtroom on the date and at the time
listed above. AN ATTORNEY MAY NOT
ATTEND THE HEARING IN YOUR PLACE.
THEREFORE, YOU MUST APPEAR EVEN IF
YOUR ATTORNEY ALSO APPEARS. This
summons is published pursuant to the
order of the circuit court judge of the
above-entitled court, dated February 9,
2025. The order directs that this sum-
mons be published once each week for
three consecutive weeks, making three
publications in all, in a published newspa-
per of general circulation in Lane County.
Date of first publication: February 27,
2025 Date of last publication: March 13,
2025. NOTICE READ THESE PAPERS
CAREFULLY If you do not appear personal-
ly before the court as directed above, then
you must appear on April 17, 2025, at
10:00 A.M., at the same address listed
above. IF YOU DO NOT APPEAR
PERSONALLY BEFORE THE COURT OR DO
NOT APPEAR AT ANY SUBSEQUENT
COURT-ORDERED HEARING, the court may
proceed in your absence without further
notice and TERMINATE YOUR PARENTAL
RIGHTS to the above-named child either
on the date specified in this summons or
on a future date and may make such
orders and take such action as authorized
by law. RIGHTS AND OBLIGATIONS (1) YOU
HAVE A RIGHT TO BE REPRESENTED BY
AN ATTORNEY IN THIS MATTER. If you are
currently represented by an attorney,
CONTACT YOUR ATTORNEY IMMEDIATELY
UPON RECEIVING THIS NOTICE. Your pre-
vious attorney may not be representing
you in this matter. IF YOU WISH TO HIRE
AN ATTORNEY, please retain one as soon
as possible to represent you in this pro-
ceeding. If you need help finding an attor-
ney, you may call the Oregon State Bar's
Lawyer Referral Service at (503) 684-
3763 or toll free in Oregon at (800) 452-
7636. IF YOU CANNOT AFFORD TO HIRE
AN ATTORNEY and you meet the state's
financial guidelines, you are entitled to
have an attorney appointed for you at
state
expense.
TO
REQUEST
APPOINTMENT OF AN ATTORNEY TO
REPRESENT YOU AT STATE EXPENSE, YOU
MUST IMMEDIATELY CONTACT the Lane
County Circuit Court at 2727 Martin
Luther King Jr Blvd., Eugene, OR 97401,
and (541) 682-4020 between the hours of
8:00 a.m. and 5:00 p.m. for further infor-
mation. IF YOU ARE REPRESENTED BY AN
ATTORNEY, IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY
TO MAINTAIN CONTACT WITH YOUR
ATTORNEY AND TO KEEP YOUR
ATTORNEY ADVISED OF YOUR
WHEREABOUTS. (2) If you contest the
petition, the court will schedule a hearing
on the allegations of the petition and order
you to appear personally and may sched-
ule other hearings related to the petition
and order you to appear personally. IF YOU
ARE ORDERED TO APPEAR, YOU MUST
APPEAR PERSONALLY IN THE
COURTROOM, UNLESS THE COURT HAS
GRANTED YOU AN EXCEPTION IN
ADVANCE under ORS 419B.918 to appear
by other means including, but not limited
to, telephonic or other electronic means.
An attorney may not attend the hearing(s)
in your place. PETITIONER'S ATTORNEY
Rebecca Z. May Senior Assistant Attorney
General Department of Justice 975 Oak
Street, Ste. 200 Eugene, OR 97401 (541)
686-7973 ISSUED this 19 th day of
February, 2025. Issued by: Rebecca Z.
May, OSB #074571 Senior Assistant
Attorney General
IN THE CIRCUIT COURT OF THE
STATE OF OREGON FOR LANE
COUNTY Juvenile Department. In the
Matter of NORAH LUCILLE ASHE, A Child.
Case No. 24JU05841 PUBLISHED
SUMMONS TO: Gavin Noah Ashe Without
Fixed Residence IN THE NAME OF THE
STATE OF OREGON: A petition has been
filed asking the court to terminate your
parental rights to the above-named child
under ORS 419B.500, 419B.502, 419B.504,
419B.506 and/or 419B.508 for the pur-
pose of placing the child for adoption. YOU
ARE REQUIRED TO PERSONALLY APPEAR
before the Lane County Circuit Court,
2727 Martin Luther King Jr Blvd., Eugene,
OR 97401, on April 3, 2025, at 10:00 A.M.
for a hearing on the allegations of the
petition and to personally appear at any
subsequent court-ordered hearing. YOU
MUST APPEAR PERSONALLY in the court-
room on the date and at the time listed
above. AN ATTORNEY MAY NOT ATTEND
THE HEARING IN YOUR PLACE.
THEREFORE, YOU MUST APPEAR EVEN IF
YOUR ATTORNEY ALSO APPEARS. This
summons is published pursuant to the
order of the circuit court judge of the
above-entitled court, dated February 9,
2025. The order directs that this sum-
mons be published once each week for
three consecutive weeks, making three
publications in all, in a published newspa-
per of general circulation in Lane County.
Date of first publication: February 27,
2025 Date of last publication: March 13,
2025. NOTICE READ THESE PAPERS
CAREFULLY If you do not appear personal-
ly before the court as directed above, then
you must appear on April 17, 2025, at
10:00 A.M., at the same address listed
above. IF YOU DO NOT APPEAR
PERSONALLY BEFORE THE COURT OR DO
NOT APPEAR AT ANY SUBSEQUENT
COURT-ORDERED HEARING, the court may
SAVAGE
to fuck you now aft er that silly and trivial thing
is out in the open that you wind up having PIV
sex for the fi rst time in the parking garage of
your therapist’s offi ce building.
BY DAN SAVAGE
Worst-case scenario: Your husband agrees to
therapy, MINO, but years go by before your
husband fi nally levels with you about that thing
you had a right to know before you married
him and it’s not something silly or trivial and
saying it out loud doesn’t make it go away and
you have to live with the realization that you
didn’t just waste years of your life on a man
who couldn’t love you the way you deserved to
be loved, but you wasted them on a man who
could see that sexual rejection was breaking
you and he didn’t love you enough to let you
go.
Love
I’m a 28-year-old woman married to my
husband, a 29-year-old man, for almost two
years, and we still haven't had sex. We met
through mutual friends, dated for less than
a year, and we knew pretty quickly that we
wanted to get married. Things between us
felt right. We genuinely liked each other,
and everything felt pretty great. On our
wedding night, we decided to leave the
hotel early to spend time with family since
many had traveled far for the wedding.
After the wedding, life got hectic. Before we
realized it, months had passed. I initiated
intimacy a few times, but we never followed
through. I've brought it up multiple times,
and he always says he feels self-conscious
about his body but promises to try harder.
We even scheduled times for intimacy, but
when the time came, he was either too busy
or he would ask if we could try tomorrow
instead. I’ve given him oral sex and a hand-
job but other than that nothing. Yes, we
were both virgins on our wedding night, and
I guess we still are.
Every time we have a heart-to-heart, he
promises to do better but nothing changes.
I've stopped bringing it up because I feel
like I'm nagging, but it's breaking me inside.
We've talked about wanting children and
when we should start trying, but it feels so
painful to have those conversations when
we haven't even had sex yet. I feel heart-
broken watching our friends start families
while we're stuck in this place. I don't know
if therapy would help, or if I should involve
his parents, or if I need to worry about
something/someone else or if I should ac-
cept that this might never change. I feel lost.
Has anyone else been through something
like this? What would you do?
— Married In Name Only
P.S. Don’t involve his parents.
My husband and I have been together for a
long time and we are still massively in love
with each other! A few years ago, we dipped
our toes into “The Lifestyle.” It was a great
experience! We felt like teenagers again,
inside and outside of the bedroom. The
experience brought us closer, our communi-
cation became stronger, and the experience
encouraged a deeper, more honest form
of conversation. Then COVID happened,
and we closed things back up. Recently,
we’ve begun discussing signing up on a few
swinging apps and getting back into this.
But I hesitate due to the political climate. I
cannot fathom giving a piece of myself to
a Trump supporter. It literally gives me an
all-body ick to think about it. My husband
feels the same way. Even though we still
feel somewhat new to the lifestyle, we
understand the diff erence between a sexy
conversation and a non-sexy conversation,
and we don’t think politics makes for a sexy
conversation. Is it appropriate to share on
our profi les that we are not interested in
meeting anyone who is any way MAGA? We
don’t feel a “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy is a
strong enough stance to take, what with ev-
erything being taken from so many during
this reign of terror.
I would leave.
Zooming out for a second: Anyone out there
who wants to be sexually active in the context
of a sexually exclusive relationship needs
to establish sexual compatibility before the
wedding. If a good sex life isn’t important to
you — if you don’t just wanna be married for
the companionship and/or the tax break —
don’t wait until aft er the wedding to see if the
sex works. Fuck fi rst — before you get married,
before you get engaged, before you go steady.
Alright, MINO, there’s clearly something your
husband isn’t telling you — something you had
a right to know before you married him — but
you need to ask yourself how much more time
you’re willing to waste before you fi nd out what
that thing is.
Best-case scenario: Your husband agrees to
therapy, MINO, and you somehow manage to
fi nd the perfect therapist right away, i.e. the
kind of therapist with the power to heal their
clients in one or two visits. And then at your
second appointment with this miracle-working
therapist, MINO, your husband tells you that
thing you had a right to know before you mar-
ried him and it turns out to be something silly
and trivial and your husband is in such a hurry
— Must Avoid Grinding Against Trump
Supporters
Even if you put , “NO TRUMP VOTERS,
NO MAGA IDIOTS,” in all caps on your ads,
MAGATS, you’re still gonna have to do your
screw diligence before meeting up with other
couples. Research into online dating/hookups
has shown that many people don’t read the text
of a personal ad — people send messages to
people whose photos they like — which means
we can’t assume the person we’re talking to
is aware of our interests, limits, boundaries,
etc., just because we listed them in the text of
our personal ad. Additionally, there’s nothing
MAGA motherfuckers enjoy more than infl ict-
ing themselves on people who want nothing to
do with them — bone the libs to own the libs
— which means you’ll have to ask one or two
pointed/trick questions at some point between
exchanging messages and swapping partners
even if it seems like they read your ad.
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