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EXUBERANT AND CURIOUS
I am interested in girl on girl
action, or joining a couple. I
have never done anything like
this before, but I can not get it
off of my mind. ur2crazy, 41,
#106714
I’m 5’4” bob-cut brunette with a
penchant for adventure and a
great smile. I am in a committed
non-monogamous partnership,
but hoping to branch out and
meet other poly-friendly folks.
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gewilnian,
24,
#104721
BIGBOOBS, SEXY, FUN
WET AND WILD
Looking for discreet playmates, I
am willing to try new things.
Love big black dick, but play with
women, and other men as well...
ceasarsgirl, 41, g ,
#106783
just moved back to engene and
don’t know where to start. look-
ing for a girl to hang out with
and more. i’m 29, with long
blonde hair. kissfan, 31, g ,
#104676
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#106721
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Seeking fun and new adventures.
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I Have soft yet strong hands Let
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#106439
GENTLE BEAUTIFUL KITTEN
I’m 22, new to exploring sexually,
open to the experience. Would
love a beautiful young woman or
hot young couple. Just looking
to have gentle yet dominant fun.
Clean please. Kkitten117, 22,
#104692
SEX POSITIVE NYMPHO
SEXY LADIES!
In a long term relationship....I
love to meet girls to explore the
more womanly sensual part of
me...he loves to watch, maybe
join in Lets see where things
lead.. daisychain, 28, g ,
#106765
Impeccable hygiene is a must.
Intelligence preferred. Be sexu-
ally open, honest, and mature.
Into transvestites, groups, would
love to try a gang bang, into new
experiences. Sex positive, no
shame. I_want_it_all, 31,
#105142
I just wanna fuck I’m twenty and
ready for anything sendme. A
message and lets meet up.
g ,
danieljoe,
20,
#106801
SEX STARVED
in a relationship just lookig 4
some 1 to play with.
caboose214,
28,
☎,
#106798
KINKY DUCK LOOKING...
I have always been the dominant
one in relationships, but would
like to explore my submissive
side. Iím willing to try anything
once, but I do have limits.
Kinky_Duck, 39, g ,
#106794
LUNCH DATE
PBJ with milk, you provide the
breast milk. I”ll lick jelly off your
fleshy hole and lick peanut but-
ter out of your sandwich crack.
afternoondelight,
65,
#106793
INSATIABLE, CURIOUS,
INVENTIVE
Life is not a solo act! I want do
things 2you, with you, 4you.
Bwilling, wanting, needing Bpart
of fun, not just receive. Every
person participant, nomatter-
role they’re playing. So. mrin-
sideman, 55, #106772
Savage Love
WORDS OF PURE WISDOM by Dan Savage
I’m a 21-year-old woman from Canada who sleeps with other women. Two questions for you:
1. My LGBT friends and I disagree about what we girls who sleep with girls exclusively
should call ourselves. Everyone else prefers “lesbian” and bitches at me for hating that word.
Can’t I call myself gay?
2. I am a really kinky person: I’ve been very sexually active and into BDSM since I was 16. I
have a large toy collection and many of the toys are dildos and anal plugs. I like anal a lot, but
the thought of vaginal just doesn’t interest me, so I’ve never gone there. I’ve read about how
breaking the hymen can hurt and — despite the fact that I enjoy being fl ogged and scratched
— that scares me a little. Should I get over it and go to town or stick with everything else that
works for me?
Good Gay Girl
1. You can call yourself whatever you like, GGG, and your friends can call themselves what-
ever they like. They’re entitled to their opinions, however, along with their preferred labels.
Friends should be able to discuss their differing opinions and preferences without bitching
and/or being so thin-skinned that a calm discussion about a sensitive subject is mistaken for
bitching.
2. “Tearing the hymen doesn’t always hurt and rarely hurts with any severity,” says Debby
Herbenick, sex researcher, vulva puppeteer, and coauthor (with Vanessa Schick) of Read My
Lips: A Complete Guide to the Vagina and Vulva. “Going slow with a smallish, well-lubricated
dildo is a good place to start, or two or three well-lubricated fi ngers. Doing this while highly
aroused sets you up for a better experience.”
But before you explore vaginal penetration, GGG, Herbenick recommends a trip to your
nearest female-friendly sex-toy shop.
“If most of your toys have been used in the anus/rectum,” says Herbenick, “it would be
wise to get a new vagina toy.”
And if you’re broke?
“Then put a condom over a clean anal toy or clean a nonporous (glass, medical-grade
silicone) anal toy before using it in the sensitive vagina,” says Herbenick.
While most women enjoy vaginal penetration, GGG, not all women do. (And most women
who enjoy vaginal penetration require additional, focused, and intense stimulation of the clit
in order to get off.) If you decide vaginal penetration isn’t for you, that’s also a preference to
which you’re entitled.
HANDSOME OLD SENSUALIST
looking for a nice attractive,
slender young beauty or a stable
couple to play with. Disease free.
Not a freak. Let’s just have us
some pink, naked, squishy fun! :).
pure, 49, g , #101299
I was chatting with a guy, and he mentioned that one time this girl accidentally vomited
all over him during oral sex. He confessed that this turned him on. I consider myself GGG, but
that is not something I’m game for. The thought of puking in a sexual scenario is completely
unappealing. Does my refusal to do this revoke my GGG card? Or is this so out of the norm that
I can refuse without losing my GGG card?
Pleasing Upchucking = Kinky Extremism?
Let’s revisit my original defi nition of GGG: “GGG stands for good, giving, and game, which
is what we should all strive to be for our sex partners. Think good in bed, giving equal time
and equal pleasure, and game for anything — within reason.”
Some kinksters skip past the “within reason” part of the defi nition when they’re discussing
kinks with vanilla partners. They shouldn’t. Extreme bondage or SM, shit and puke, emotionally
tricky humiliation play, demanding that your partner have sex with other people because it
turns you on (asking your partner to assume all of the physical risks that go along with that, to
say nothing of the emotional risks for a partner who isn’t interested in having sex with other
people), etc. — all of that falls under the FTF exclusion, or a “fetish too far,” which you’ll fi nd in
the fi ne print on the back of your GGG card, PUKE.
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I’m a 20-year-old female college student living with my 23-year-old boyfriend. We’ve been
dating for two years, and our sex life has always been awesome. My boyfriend has a high libido,
so high that I can’t always get him off when he wants it. He says I don’t want to have sex with
him, when we have sex probably four times a week and I’m totally happy to give him head, jerk
him off, or take off my clothes for him any other time he asks. Whenever we sit down together,
he’s immediately horny and he gets cranky when I have to say no. Is this a ridiculously high
libido? I try to be GGG, and he does the same for me, but I hate feeling guilty about not hav-
ing sex with him constantly. I’ve started just telling him to masturbate to porn, and he does it
willingly but usually whines a little fi rst about how I “never” want to have sex. Totally false! My
body just can’t take it every day. What do I do?
My Boyfriend Is Incredibly Horny
At two years, your boyfriend is getting vaginal intercourse four times a week, MBIIH, along
with handjobs, blowjobs, and you standing there naked whenever he likes? Plus a cheerful
okay to watch porn and jerk it whenever he feels the need?
You’re not trying to be GGG, MBIIH, you are GGG.
Your boyfriend doesn’t realize how good he’s got it. He isn’t lacking for sex; what he lacks
is perspective. He clearly doesn’t understand or appreciate what it’s like to be on the receiving
end of all that dick. Saying something like this might help him understand: “You know I love
you, honey, and you know I love having sex with you. But if your hole got fucked every time
we had ‘sex,’ you wouldn’t want to have ‘sex’ more than four times a week, either.” (I’m putting
“sex” in quotes here because your boyfriend defi nes sex as “vaginal intercourse.” I do not.
Oral, handjobs, and visuals-with-a-partner — all of that counts as sex.)
If that doesn’t do the trick, MBIIH, buy your boyfriend a dildo that’s roughly the same size
as his dick. Then tell him he can fuck your hole whenever he wants, for as long as he wants —
so long as he fucks his own hole fi rst, while you watch, for at least 20 minutes or so. Then he
can fuck yours.
That might help him appreciate how good he’s got it.
Never heard of you until a year ago.
I’m into “ball busting” — getting slapped or kicked in the nuts — but my wife was never will-
ing. I did something stupid and saw an escort, just to get my balls busted (no sex), and my wife
found out. She was talking about divorce when she told her best friend what was going on. Her
friend told her to read your archives fi rst.
You probably don’t hear this from conservative Christian Republicans in red states very
often, Mr. Savage, but my sense of honor requires it of me: Thank you for saving my marriage.
This “GGG” concept of yours transformed our marriage — it also led my wife to either discover
or open up about her kink — and we are happier than ever. It isn’t lost on me that I have a gay
man to thank for keeping us from becoming another sad divorce statistic.
Busted And Loving Life Supremely
You’re welcome, BALLS, and all I ask in return for saving your marriage — besides video —
is your support for the full legal recognition of mine. Deal?
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