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I already have a relationship. I’m
just looking for a lover. orgas-
maddict, 37, #104949
LUCKYONE
Almost sexless relationship for 7
years. Me: attractive, healthy,
sensual, funloving, open-minded
and discreet. You: attractive,
smart, warm, clean, enjoys kiss-
ing, HWP, STD-free. NSA, just
friends. Meet for coffee first.
LuckyOne,
49,
☎,
#104610
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HANDLE ME?
CURIOUS
Looking
for
a
beautiful,young,sensual,long
hair Girly Girl! Come explore wit
me while my boyfreind watches
or plays wit my permission! Must
be well groomed!I am just look-
ing
for
a
playmate!
Sweetdreamz, 30, g ,
#104403
i am a biker looking guy stocky
with a gotee.....very polite and
respectful....looking for a a young
ladie that wants to fulfil a fantisy
and be my slave . xwild69x,
40, #105046
Bi-curious male, clean, fit, seeks
beautiful boy for first time
encounter. I want to adore your
smooth, lean body. A lot to ask
for? Of course. maxd, 39, g ,
#103934
PLAYFUL LOVELUSH
SEXKITTEN
Looking for a beautiful, creative,
edgey, inspiring woman that will
dance with me till dawn! One
that will Play, paint, sing, drink
and be a giddy lil lovecat with
me! MacabreMuze, 25, g ,
#104296
WANNA HAVE FUN
shy person that wants to experi-
ment. never been with a girl but
would like to be either in charge
or have someone show me the
ropes. shypurple, 20, ☎,
#103175
YOU GOOD ENOUGH?
nothing serious, just something
to get me hot. tattoos a plus. i
like being fun and playful in the
bedroom but i need a man to
throw me around sometimes;).
pleasurekitty1985, 25,
g , #102707
EXUBERANT AND CURIOUS
I’m 5’4” pixie-cut brunette with a
penchant for adventure and a
great smile. I am in a committed
non-monogamous partnership,
but hoping to branch out and
meet other poly-friendly folks.
g ,
gewilnian,
22,
#104721
nothing serious please. just_d,
34, g , #104846
BIGBOOBS, SEXY, FUN
just moved back to engene and
don’t know where to start. look-
ing for a girl to hang out with
and more. i’m 29, with long
blonde hair. kissfan, 29,
#104676
SENSUAL BI-MALE
Attractive Bi male HWP, DD free,
Looking for couples with bimale
and select singles (M or F) for
discreet erotic fun. nustuff47,
47, #105018
QUIET
Looking for some fun when the
woman is gone i love bbws.
Bigugh, 27, #104992
IT TAKES THREE
attractive hwp, orally bi-male
seeks same in stable,ltr couple.
Not into one night stand.Prefer
you to be new to this as well.Be
honest, real. Will do details later.
threefun, 40, #104989
WANNA PARTY
I am looking for a kinky women
to hook up with and party. I am
open to lot’s of things so mes-
sage me and let’s chat. eri-
cisme, 43, #104907
EASY GOING ADVENTUROUS
I am completely new at this but I
am excited at the possibilities! I
am a college student who is
looking for some good times!
FlyDreams27,
27,
#104891
LUST& INTENSE AFFECTION
I’m an amateur at this.young and
willing to try new things and
have fun.open to the ideas of
groups, couples, gangbangs.it all
turns me on.check out my pro&
write me. miss_submiss, 19,
#104370
I’m bored & tired of this vanilla
world. I like 2 get what I want &
please others. Live life to the full
extent of what you imagine &
what you want. DESIRE, 26,
g , #101108
OLDER CUROUS MAN
I am 59 years old. Never sucked
cock , but really want to. Will do
just about anything for chance.
Magic_Greg, 59, #105053
SPANKING BUDDIES WANTED
ADRINALIN NUDIST MX
Rivers Hiking Swimming, Nudist
looking for CPLs. Naked BBQs.
Fun in the sun! My Wife & I are
looking fo cpls. Or girls for Me to
enjoy, Sun hurts Her. SunStar,
49, g , #105056
TRY BI GUY
Well-adjusted 52 y/o top looking
to meet guys and couples in
Eugene for NSA fun. First timers
welcome, couples encouraged. I
love clean sex. Lets see what
comes up! rustedduck, 53, ☎,
g , #103971
COUPLE 4 GIRL
In a relationship lookin for
another female. Both drink an
smoke. Both have piercings and
tattoos. Metal music lovers an
like to fuck shit up. Both crazy so
be prepared. kellyys1401, 18,
#105044
POLY COURIOUS
Male, streight very hungry
Female, Bi for casual encounters.
Squishytush77,
33,
#105009
COUPLE4HOTWOMAN
Fun couple looking for a sexy
woman (nsa) to have good time.
Want boyfriend to watch me and
a woman have some hot dirty
fun. Afterword have him join us.
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24,
#104816
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I’m a mostly gay male with a boyfriend who is also mostly gay. We are into BDSM — we
are both tops and sometimes play with other sub men. I say we are “mostly” gay because we
do like to fuck/top submissive women once in a while. We haven’t done this a lot, and never
together because we don’t have the same taste in women — until recently. One of our new
neighbors, a straight female, is very shy, but she’s opened up to us about her interest in BDSM.
We took her to a play party, and she was okay watching others play, but any time anyone
expressed an interest in her, she clammed up and withdrew. She stayed at our side the entire
time.
We are interested in propositioning her. Our dilemma is in how to approach someone so
gun-shy. We want to seduce her into the experience and not make her uncomfortable, but we
can’t agree as to how to go about it. Another issue is that we think the reason she has been so
open with us is because she assumes we are both 100 percent gay.
Two Guys And A Girl Toy
She meets two guys who live together, have presumably noisy BDSM sex with each other
and other men and identify themselves as gay. I’m sure you can appreciate why, under the
circumstances, your neighbor might assume you two were gay, right? And that assumption
convinced her it was safe to open up to you guys about her sexual interests — interests that
are clearly scaring the shit out of her for the moment — because she further assumed, entirely
reasonably, that you guys didn’t wanna stick your dicks in her.
The sooner you come clean, the likelier you are to get into her pants, mouth, ass, twat, etc.
Do not attempt to be seductive. Putting the moves on her now could transform a minor and
perhaps unwitting violation of her trust into a relationship-ending violation. Instead, just be,
um, straight with her: “We should’ve said something sooner, [her name here], but we’re both
actually bi, and we thought you should know that. And we also wanted you to know that we’re
both attracted to you and, hey, if you want to explore any of this stuff that you’re curious
about with us, we’d be up for that. If not, we’re happy to keep being your kinky, gay-identifi ed,
completely platonic buddies.”
I read with interest the letter from the guy who hacked his ex-girlfriend’s email and discov-
ered that she had been cheating on him. I am in a similar situation, if a little more messed-up.
I am a single, thirtysomething female who has been having a long-term affair with a married
man. We have one rule: We tell one another if and when we fool around with other people.
About a year ago, I discovered another affair he was involved in while he was out of the coun-
try, which he failed to disclose to me. I discovered it because he left his email unattended. He
was not apologetic, and I ended up being the one who begged for forgiveness for invading his
privacy. He did, however, promise to end his relationship with the woman overseas. I recently
discovered that he has struck up a fresh correspondence with this same woman. I gained this
knowledge by invading his privacy again — this time by outright hacking his email — but he also
betrayed me, and he needs to be held accountable.
You are probably wondering why I am not just cutting this guy out of my life. We have
amazing sex and enjoy the same kinks. It is diffi cult to fi nd someone trustworthy to engage in
these activities with. But how can I trust anything he says anymore? I really want to call him on
this. He broke our rules. Do you think I am out of line in confronting him?
Mistress Is Pissed
ENJOY MOST ANYTHING
Closet Bi-bottom-male 54 6’ 220+
lbs looking for all types of
encounters twosomes thresomes
etc.. if open female possible LTR
been awhile look forward to
male encounter. midwayman,
54, #104809
Wanted 18-45 hwp to go otk and/
or trade.
Erotic or rough if
you’re a bad boy who needs dis-
cipline.
Limits respected.
Discretion a must. I’ll travel if
you host. Oral? Squirt, 40,
#104068
MEOW...
JUST FUN
Adventuresome single guy look-
ing for attractive, intelligent
woman. Would like to meet
someone compatible to share
indoor/outdoor adventures with.
Let’s talk first, then think about
getting together. Respect/discre-
tion important. William, 55,
#104996
i am a bi woman looking for a
couplw with a bi female . i am
open to almost anything. i love
to bring your wildest fantasys to
life. hot4u2, 47, #104662
19 yr old. CherryPoppin, 19,
#104899
Looking for a little love cat who
wants to be licked all over, be my
muse, recipient of tenderness,
for sweet nasty fun down in the
realm
of
beauty.
DownInTheRealm
g ,
OfBeauty,
26,
#104883
BRAINGASM DUDE
Lets start with fantasy and men-
tal intimacy, a connection based
less on reality than desire, and
exploring areas we might not in
real life. let’s see where it goes.
Okay?
mildcore,
52,
#105022
FUNNY NASTY BIWOMAN
I WANT PLEASURE
WANNA RUCK?
SALBAJE
hi , never been in this page , just
want to meet new mamasitas to
#@*^%&**& you know what i
mean with that , i m a nice per-
son. salbaje, 27, g ,
#105043
WILLIAM 2 HOT
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for a GENEROUS gentleman to
please in every way. Let me be
your naughty secret...discreet,
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ous gentleman-could it be you??
aquabluegirl,
47,
#103756
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According to the “Mistress, whining about being cheated on” listing in the Association of
American Advice Columnists’ Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Staggeringly Self-Serving
Bullshit, I’m supposed to slap the shit out of you, MIP. The DSM instructs me to respond to
letters like yours with something like this: “Your lover is cheating on his wife with you, you
dumb piece of shit, and you’re shocked to learn that he’s cheating on you, too?” That strikes
me as a little harsh. So I’ll go with this instead: You can’t expect a guy to take your rules more
seriously than he takes his vows.
As for confronting him: The last time you confronted him about another other-woman,
MIP, you wound up begging for his forgiveness. So let’s skip the confrontation and accept
reality: Unless you’re willing to walk away from the amazing sex, unless you’re willing to dump
the motherfucker, he’s going to go on cheating on you and lying to you about it, rules or no
rules. He won’t disclose when he’s messing around with other other-women, MIP, because it’s
not just the sex that turns him on. Sneaking around, getting away with it, deceiving you and
his wife and his other other-women — all of that gives him a feeling of power and control, and
those feelings are as, or more, important to him than the orgasms. Accept it or get out.
I have a question and don’t know who else to ask: I need support under my scrotum in or-
der to ejaculate. I am 52 years old, and this condition has gotten worse as I have gotten older.
When I am having intercourse, I need a position that supports or raises my scrotum, and when
I masturbate, I need to put something under it. Is this okay? Is there a solution to make coming
during intercourse easier?
This Old Scrote
Before I touch on your sack, TOS, I’d like to briefl y — very briefl y — touch on George Rek-
ers’s.
Rekers is a towering fi gure in the religious right. He’s the cofounder of the Family Research
Council; a member of the National Association for Research & Therapy of Homosexuality, a
group that claims it can cure homosexuality; and the go-to guy for “expert” testimony about
how gay people threaten and endanger children. And last week, Rekers got busted coming
back from a 10-day European vacation with a 20-year-old male escort he found on Rentboy.
com. Rekers told two reporters from the Miami New Times that he “can’t lift luggage,” so what
other choice did he have but to hire a 20-year-old with an eight-inch cock?
To mark the downfall of yet another crazy and hypocritical closet case, I propose that
“whatever fl oats your boat” be immediately permanently retired in favor of “whatever lifts
your luggage.” This will be George “Rentboy” Rekers’s legacy, his lexi-colonic gift to the Eng-
lish language. Help spread the meme.
Back to you, TOS: First, talk about this with a doc — get your sack examined and your
prostate checked. If there’s nothing medically wrong, rest assured there’s nothing wrong.
Some guys have large, loose sacks and sensitive balls, and the slap, slap, slap of intercourse
or masturbation can be uncomfortable, and lifting your luggage spares you the slap, slap,
slap. Alternately, TOS, let’s not forget that your dick, balls, sack and taint compose one big
erogenous zone. Lifting your luggage may provide you with a little bit of extra ball/sack/taint
stimulation, added stimulation that helps put you over the top, and naturally you rely on that
zap more at 52 than you did at 32. So instead of viewing your need for a ball lift as a problem
that needs solving, why not view ball support as the solution to a problem. Or to put it another
way …
Whatever lifts your luggage, TOS, whatever lifts your luggage.
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