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I LOVE BOOBS!
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#103934
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Savage Love
WORDS OF PURE WISDOM by Dan Savage
My partner and I have a dilemma.
We’re a straight couple. Our lives and fi nances are intertwined, and we are already es-
sentially living as a married couple. Now we want to hold a ceremony with family and friends
to make public the commitment we’ve already made privately. That said, we are in favor of
marriage equality and are considering joining the marriage boycott (www.unmarried.org) until
DOMA is repealed and every state allows gay marriage.
Our friends and family say we should get married and fi ght for equality “from the other
side of the fence.” On the other hand, a number of the people in attendance at our wedding
would not have access to the rights we’d be signing up for, and that feels unfair to us.
We’d like to know what you think. Is boycotting legal marriage a worthwhile statement for
straight couples to make? Or do you think we should put gay-rights groups on our registry and
fi ght for marriage equality as a married couple?
Hoping To Render Change
Funny you should ask, HTRC, as last weekend the boyfriend-in-America/husband-in-Can-
ada and I attended the wedding of some dear straight friends. We weren’t the only same-sex
couple at the wedding; there were “a number of people in attendance [without] access to the
rights” our straight friends were signing up for.
All us homos at the wedding were delighted to be there and deliriously happy for our
friends, and not one of us would’ve asked them to wait to marry until gay marriage is legal in
all 50 states — something that isn’t going to happen until 2024 at the earliest, according to
number-crunchin’ superstar political blogger Nate Silver (tinyurl.com/cn58xy). That’s when
Silver predicts that the fi nal holdout — Mississippi — will fi nally legalize same-sex marriage.
Here’s what I think you should do, HTRC: Get married, make a donation to the fi ght for
marriage equality and encourage your guests to do the same. And, hey, are you guys getting
married in the next four weeks? Because there’s a ballot measure in Maine that would strip
same-sex couples in that state of their newly won right to wed. Help protect marriage equality
in Maine by making a donation — right now — at www.protectmaineequality.org. And religious
bigots in Washington State, where I live, are attempting to repeal a domestic-partnership law
at the ballot box. Protect the rights of same-sex couples in Washington by making a donation
— right now — at www.approvereferendum71.org.
And in addition to throwing some money around, HTRC, I think you should consider lifting
one of the readings from my friends’ ceremony.
“Marriage is a vital social institution,” the reading began. “The exclusive commitment of
two individuals to each other nurtures love and mutual support. Civil marriage is at once a
deeply personal commitment to another human being and a highly public celebration of the
ideals of mutuality, companionship, intimacy, fi delity, and family. Because it fulfi lls yearnings
for security, safe haven, and connection that express our common humanity, civil marriage is
an esteemed institution and the decision whether and whom to marry is among life’s momen-
tous acts of self-defi nition.”
So touching, so true and so universal — who could argue with those sentiments? Everyone
at the wedding was nodding. And the reading continued …
“It is undoubtedly for these concrete reasons, as well as for its intimately personal signifi -
cance, that civil marriage has long been termed a ‘civil right.’ Without the right to choose to
marry, one is excluded from the full range of human experience.”
After the reading — which was done by a gay friend of the couple — the offi ciant identifi ed
the source: It was from the 2003 Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court decision that legal-
ized same-sex marriage in that state. It was a lovely gesture: The gay couples at the wedding
were touched, and the hetero couples were reminded of the injustice that gay couples face. It
would be wonderful if this passage from the Massachusetts court’s ruling on marriage equality
caught on as a wedding reading, HTRC. The gay people in the pews will be touched, and with
any luck, any straight guests who oppose marriage equality will take a moment to reconsider
their positions. At the very least, they’ll know where the bride and groom stand.
I’m a high-school student, gay, but whenever someone asks me, I lie and say I’m not. I feel
like I’m ashamed of who I am and that I’m dishonoring every openly gay person. But I don’t
know what else to do. Most of the other students at my school use the words “gay” and “fag-
got” in a derogatory way. I’ve only been in high school for four weeks, and I’m not sure how
they would react. What should I do? Should I come out?
Gay Boy Seeking Serious Help
“I’m a big fan of telling people what to do (just ask my poor boyfriend), but coming out is a
deeply personal decision, one you’re going to have to negotiate yourself,” says Benoit Denizet-
Lewis, who wrote a cover story for the New York Times Magazine about gay kids coming out in
middle school.
“With that said, here’s what you should do. First, the fact that you’re worrying about ‘dis-
honoring every gay person’ speaks volumes about your character and tells me that you have
a heart and a conscience, both of which will serve you well in your life as an openly gay man.
Second, consider coming out fi rst to an adult you trust (a school counselor, your gay uncle).
Third, try to come out to one friend, preferably one who loves the show Glee. Having a peer
ally is critical to your mental health. Finally, when you do come out to your parents, just be
sure you’re not in a moving vehicle.”
Denizet-Lewis’s fi rst book, America Anonymous, is out now, and it’s pretty genius. But for
the record: I do not love the show Glee.
Greetings from Portland, Oregon. Our fair city is totally overfl owing with cute, young,
scruffy boys. Which is awesome, of course, for gay guys like me. The only problem is, it seems
like a disproportionate number of these boys are, well, boys without dicks — trans guys. Seems
like every dance party, every art-fag event, is packed with non-bio boys. But where are all the
trans girls? None of my lesbo friends talk about all the new trans girls running around town.
I know that this could strictly be region-specifi c, but it seems to be a bigger issue. Why
is it that the butch girls all seem to become dudes, yet so few of the femme boys identify as
women?
GGG In PDX
I’m just theorizing here: There seem to be fewer MTFs out there than FTMs, and the MTFs
who are out there mostly seem to have been straight-identifi ed before their transitions (they
were with women), unlike most FTMs, who seem, for the most part, to have been lesbian-
identifi ed before their transitions. So MTFs weren’t integrated into the queer community prior
to their transitions the same way FTMs were before theirs.
Confused? Me too.
So MTFs are less likely to frequent places — bars, clubs, art-fag events — where you, a gay
guy, might encounter them.
As for why there are so many trans guys in Portland, GGGIPDX, trans guys clump up for
the same reasons other sexual minorities do. It’s not just about safety in numbers — although
it’s partly that — but also about the romantic odds. The more trans guys in one place, the more
trans guys there are to date; and the more trans guys in one place, the likelier non-trans guys
and girls are to meet, get to know and perhaps consider dating trans guys.
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