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A l * iO N « 1 f i # « i i r i k < Licensed in Oregon & Washington everything you need to know about gay pdx at blogout.justout.com falkd@hasson.com pdxrealty.com 503.314.8307 D e a r M s . B e h a v io r : Tom has been my best friend forever. H e’s everything you could want in a friend: fun, fashionable and loyal. H e’s helped me move in with countless girlfriends, and always has a room for me when I move back out. Here’s the problem. Every few weeks, he stands me up. We’ll have plans to go to the movies or to dinner, and when I stop by to get him, he hems and haws about some adorable boy who’s on his way over to give him dick. I’m glad when Tom gets some. I’m just not thrilled about the repeat timing of the dick du jour arriving two minutes before we’re supposed to go out. Usually Tom is sheepish enough to turn red, shuffle his Ni ke s and apologize like mad. He sends me off to the restaurant alone, promising to show up before dessert. Usually he does. I forgive him because he apologizes so profusely. But then I feel upset later, and unsure of what it means. Am I really that disposable? Is there some hidden, underlying reason in Tom’s psyche about disappointing me? Instant Access fo Portland and the Nation's Top Gay & Lesbian Realtors. Tom, Dick and Wary: My BFF Ditches Me For ms. behavior T o m has been m y best friend forever. ... [But] every fe w w ee k s, he s tan d s m e up. W e ’ll have plans to go to th e m ovies or to dinner, and w hen I sto p by to get him, he hem s and haw s ab o u t so m e a d o ra b le boy w h o ’s on his w ay over to give him dick. I am getting sick of it! I’m going to stop making plans with him if he doesn’t grow up. (Did I mention he’s 45— too old for this behavior, right?) — Sloppy Seconds [TR EE AND YARD C A R E l l <? PRUNING • PRESERVATION • REMOVALS STUMP GRINDING • HEDGE & SHRUB CARE 12 Years Experience • FREE Estimate (503) 309-TREE ( 8733 ) CCB# 174892 • Licensed • Bonded • Insured Tom’s preemptive apology is a strategy designed to keep you from expressing your anger. It’s the same reason your dog crawls to greet you at the door after he’s dragged . orange peels and coffee grinds (and tampons, if you’re extra lucky) from your garbage can for the 700th time. You may not recognize the choreographic similarity, but Tom, like your doggy, hopes his dance of submission will soften your wrath. Your inability to confront Tom prob ably makes it easier for him to cancel plans with you. Going back to the dog analogy, some trainers recommend lightly tapping a garbage-eating pup on the snout with a newspaper. Since Tom’s snout is not, in his case, the errant organ, perhaps you’ll think of a suitable (of course, metaphori cal) alternative. who are, shall we say, phallically motivated, have no “hidden, underlying” reasons for the timing of their interludes. Tom has no reason to purposely disappoint you. H e’s just a dickhound. Still, his behavior is juvenile and rude. If you Meryl Cohn is the author of Do W hat I Say: D ear S lo ppy S eco n d s : too had a dick to withhold, your annoyance at Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Tom’s wiener addiction is not about you his antics would have more sway. But do you at Etiquette. Send questions or correspondence to and whether or not you’re lovable. Men least tell him that it hurts your feelings? msbehavior<(Paol. com.
