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The thing is that we are not exactly kid-friendly gays, and I am not sure I am (or want to be) a good role model to anyone, really. I sup pose we could muster a movie or musical or something at least once or twice, but we might hate it. I know for a fact that we are not Debra’s only gay friends. I don’t get very many days off and I don’t even know this kid, so I am wondering if I really have to do it. I care about Debra and I don’t want to hurt her feelings. But would it be rude to say no to m s . b e h a v io r “ Debra wants my husband and me to spend time with him, as role models. The thing is that we are not exactly kid-friendly gays, and I am not sure I am (or want to be) a good role model to anyone, really. I suppose we could muster a movie or musical or something at least once or twice, but we might hate it. ” spending time with her kid? W hat would we say? The whole thing feels awkward! 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GREELEY AVE. www.justout.com JUST OUT RESERVES THE RIGHT TO REJECT OR EDIT ANY ADVERTISEMENT THAT MAY BE DEMEANING OR OFFENSIVE TO OUR READERS asked to babysit for an infant, and also that you do have the option to say no. But before you make a firm decision and nix the idea of even an occasional outing, why don’t you at least meet the kid? Take him to brunch so he can learn what gays do on the weekends (but don’t serve him a mimosa). One little meeting doesn’t mean you’ll need to have a meaningful relation ship with him. But you might actually enjoy yourself or learn something or feel good about making a new friend. O f course there’s always the possibility that you’ll have a dreadful time, but what’s really the worst that could happen? If you absolutely refuse to even give it a chance, just tell Debra that you’re an old curmudgeon. She’ll probably know what you mean. Meryl Cohn is the author o f Do W hat I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette. 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