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About Just out. (Portland, OR) 1983-2013 | View Entire Issue (Dec. 7, 2007)
___________________________________________________________ DECEMBER 7, 2007 justput'41 Creativa Connection (ftxmerty Real Connection) is a social Jewish Gay Men s Group gathering toc gay men who are artists, writers or musicians and place (503-246-5939 efraimlevi@aol com) or who pursue some creative activity. Noncommercial, noniudgmental. supporting personal creativity for novices and professionals alike Monthly potlucks on the second Fnday (7 pm Carl 503 284 2971.) please cal for meeting tune The Forest Group outings are cooperative adventures for women Participants are responsible for providing their own equipment and choosing outings appropriate for their Keshet is a social connection group for queer Jews and skill their spouses, partners, significant others and good friends, whether Jewish or not It meets monthly for potluck din Film discussion group forming tor gay, bi and trans men minonty men in current films Monthly activities include group outings to see films (filmtalk@veruon net.) fitness All level skill welcome levels com/ncc 1127/forestpdx) ners and special events (David 503-226-7079, ext 14, or Share your perspective regarding portrayals of sexual and (503-772-1860 imnoregon@comcast net www geocities Mike 503-331-1111) Gay Men's Walking Group invites gay, bi and questioning fun, friendship and exercise gardens and gardening They exchange plants, seeds, (10 am Saturday Tom 503984-4549) Foreign Film Group meets every second and fourth for a copy of the newsletter and information about Gay Women s Golf Group welcomes all levels of players Sunday to screen foreign films at various venues, followed upcoming events (Unde 503-909 2002.) (wwwturigiriz com.) Portland Gay Men's Chorus is open to singers, support members and volunteers 1503-226-2588 wwwpdx gmc.org.) Lesbians with Degrees is a social group that was started Lesbian Equestrian Group gets together for equestrian for degreed women, but no degree is necessary. Just activities m the Pacific Northwest (Denise 503-654-3865 Lynn 503 777 2339 kelrav@rdrop com) I come and join the fun! Pool parties. Scrabble and more (Lam 503-233-3557 Join listserv at LesbianswDegrees Portland Lesbian Choir, led by talented artistic director Out Dancing teaches dancing for same-sex couples at subscnbe@yahoogroupscom.) Ankeny Street Studio Classes for different dance styles start Ray Elliot, strives for musical excellence and making fun- Lulu s Pervy Playhouse is a social group for self identifying the first Friday of each month: country, swing, tango, cha- tided harmonies and is open and welcoming to ad women women who are into S/M Play parties are held on the cha, etc Cal for schedule. (503-236-5129 out dancmg@ Nonaudition rehearsals for the 2007-2008 season begin second Saturday of the month. (503-231 3992 dykedadi@ yahoo com home art net/ Sept. 19 at Ainsworth United Church of Chnst. Solo and Comcast net www luluspervyplayhouse org.) smad-group opportunities abound. 1630-830 pm Wednes day 2941 NE Ainsworth St 503-727-3306 Portland queers and supportive friends of varying musical skid lev els with annual fall and spnng concerts. Subgroups include the Rose City Swing band and a marching band with flag info@rcgfb org corps. Come join us! 1503-790-2170 wwwrcgfb.org.) Satori Men's Chorus welcomes new members of all ages outdancing) OutKayaking, Portland's gay and lesbian sea kayak group, Men Over 40 is a small, socially supportive group that explores the lakes, nvers and bays of northwest Oregon meets second and fourth Thursdays. (503-777-1376.) and southwest Washington, (wwwoutkayakmg.org.) Night in Black Leather and The Leather Duck Club are PDX Pride Bowling League is recruiting tor tun games lestManchoir@hotmail.com wwwplchoirorg.) Rose City Gay Freedom Band is a performance group for the first and third Fnday of each month at Gail's Dirty Duck Friday nights September through Apnl. (mfo@pdxpride Tavern (9 pm-mdnight 439 NW Third Ave. 503-224 8446 bowlcom) orieatherfrat@yahoo com.) PDX NetRqrpers is Portland-s queer soccer organization with Oregon Men Enjoying Naturism is a social organization competitive indoor soccer, outdoor scnmmages, practices for for gay male natunsts/nudists Social gathering second al levels and regional tournaments. (Kyle bendoverbeck Saturday of every month. hamijgmail com www myspace.com/netnppers) (omenpdx@omenpdx org. www.omenpdx.org.) Portland and races, regardless of sexual onentation or musical back Gay b Community Lesbian PDX FTM is a social group for female-to-male trans men Association is in its 28th season! Meets Sundays at sary 1503-299-4454 www.satonchorus.org .) and their significant others, friends, families and allies Hollywood Bowl. Drop-ins welcome anytime. (3:30 pm (groups yahoo com/group/PDX FTM.) 4030 NE Halsey St Mailing address: PO Box 42034, Portland, The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at Hobo s Come OR 503-722-0438 97242 pdxbowl@ Comcast net wwwpdxbowfcom.) play cards and meet the gang. New players always wel come. (6 pm 120 NW Third Ave Mike 503-641-7224.) Portland Gay Basketball Association welcomes all skill Asian b Pacific Islander Lesbians and Gays is a nonprof levels, (groups yahoo com/group/PortlandGayBasketball it community voice for gay, lesbian and bi Asian and Pacific Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community voice group Islanders. Activities include potlucks, recreational outings for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people that reaches out to and cultural events. Fnendfy environment to meet and con Latinos and Latmas by organizing events and retreats and Whether you're a running novice or a seasoned marathon nect with other API. IPO Box 12661, Portland, OR 97232 advocating HIV prevention Meets every other Monday at er, Portland Frontrunners welcomes gay, lesbian, bi and aplg jdx@yahoo.com.) Outside In (6:30 pm 1030 SW 13th Ave ■ Hugo Association.) trans people of all abilities and interests. (Gary mfo@port 503-997-8615 or Audencio 503-261-5463.) landfrontrunners.org wwwportlandfrontrunners org.) club for self-identified women with an emphasis on safety Portland Leather Alliance is one of the largest pansexu Join the Rose City Softball Association, Oregon's largest and education. Workshops, discussions, events and parties al, nonprofit B/D/S/M, leather and fetish lifestyle organiza gay sports organization, for open and women's divisions of Women of all onentations can connect and ask questions tions in the Northwest Regular social and educational slow-pitch softball. Regular season games are played dunng the Kinky Women's Welcoming Munch at 7 pm every opportunities, including KinkFest, Leather Ball and Fall throughout the summer at Gordon Faber Recreational second Tuesday 1503-972-2233 www pdxbadgirls net.) Vendors Fair, (www.pdxleatheralliance org.) Bookwomen is a lesbian discussion group that meets Portland Leather Men meet every second Saturday for monthly to share stories, favorite authors, top 10 lists and potluck and socializing. Meet men into a leather lifestyle and Rosetown Ramblers. Portland's gay and lesbian square opinions keep abreast of leather happenings No dues, no formal dance club, dances at mainstream and plus levels Bad Girls is a social and educational leather and B/D/S/M and reviews of the assigned book. 1503-684-0305 mikkata@comcast.net ) Border Riders Motorcycle Club provides social opportu Complex in Hillsboro All levels of expenence are welcome. (4450 NW 229th Ave www rosecitysoftball.org) organization, no officers or board, just leather socialization for ' the past 21 years. (360-896-6665 plm@direcway com) (PO Box 5352, Portland, OR 97228-5352 townramblers.com.) www rose nities for gay men interested in recreational motorcycle Portland Lesbian Book Club gathers monthly to chat Ruby Red Flippers, a group of gay and lesbian scuba divers touring and promotes education on safe and legal machin about a chosen book or to attend selected events in the Portland area, teaches new recruits and takes dives in (6:30 pm third Tuesday groups yahoo.com/group/port Tacoma, Hood Canal and other Pacific Northwest waters landlesbianbookclub) (rubyredflippersdvyahoo com www rubyredflippers org) ery. (503-2814488 brmcprei@yahoo com.) Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators, both pnvate and professional, in Wàshington, Oregon and southern Bntish Portland Lesbian Network organizes brewpub visits, golf She Rocks, a supportive rock climbing group for les Columbia Dinner meetings in Portland area (503-701-7922 events, hiking, kayaking, cyckng, Scrabble games and movie bians 18 and older, organizes year-round climbing and nights and keeps you aware of what's going on in the area training events chosen according to skill level Monthly (PDXLesbianNetwork-subscnbe@yahoogroups com. I meetings are held at Bagdad Pub. (6:30-7 30pm second casfiyers@yahoocom. www.geocmes.com/casDyers) A Common Bond is a social support network for former or questioning Jehovah’s Witnesses who are queer, (acbport Portland Metro Prime Timers is a social group for land@webtv.netl mature gay men and those who appreciate them, com Coqsure is a social group for people who were assigned a female sex at birth but identify otherwise (female to rnale, genderqueer, drag king, etc ). First Sunday meetings are open to partners and families of any configuration. (503-471-1515 groups yahoo com/group/coqsure.) Dungeon Men PDX hosts a men s S/M party every other month in a Portland dungeon. Masters and novices always welcome (503 281-2076 bighnboy@aracnet com ) F.A.G. PDX (Femme Affinity Group Portland), a radical activist and social group open to self-identified femmes of all genders, seeks to create solidanty among femmes, pro mote femme visibility and combat femmephobia in the community at large Iwww.notsorryorg/fagpdx.) 50+ lesbian social group for women meets on the third Saturday of the month (4-7 pm 503-642-3360 or 971-216-1173 sutaytig@aol.com.) FTM Pacific NW OR b WA is a social and discussion group for female-to male trans men. (groups yahoo com/ group/FTM Pacific NW ) Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35 and older as well as their friends and loved ones, holds potlucks on the second Saturday of each month (flataps(ii)yahoo com ) Gay Men Who Have Lost Their Partners meets at the West Cafe to provide an opportunity for conversation and socializing. The death need not have occurred recently (7:30 pm second Wednesday 1201 SW Jefferson St 503-701-9376.1 Genealogy group forming. Gather with other lesbian ing together for social, educational and cultural purpos levels of play welcome. First time is free, subsequent times 360-693 5506 pdxpnmetimers@yahoo.com wwwgeo are $7 Please join us! (8 am-noon 503-788-8192 team cities, com/pdxpnmetimers) portlandtenms@yahoo com.) Ramriders Motorcycle Club meets weekly at the Roxy Ride Rose City Discussion Club, the largest open pansexual/ alternative sexuality club in the Northwest, is open to all onentations, fetishes and lifestyles that are safe, sane and consensual. Monthly meetings, workshops and newslet ter (503-972-1869 rcdc@teleportcom wwwrcdc.org.) Sappho Social Club is a group of women 40 years and older building community through social and cultural activ ities. (thesapphosocialclub@yahoocom.) Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere (COLAGE) is the only international organization specifically supporting young people minority sexual with parents (colage@lmfamily org wwwcolage org ) Lesbian Gay, and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of every school community is valued and respected, regardless of sexual or orientation gender identity/expression. (12700 SW North Dakota St., Suite 180 *129, Tigard. Social OUTings is a social group for all interested in meet OR 97223 mg people and doing activities other than bar hopping. www. glsenoregon org) (kyiemportland@yahoo. com.) 503-525-1177. glsen@glsenoregon org House of MOCHA (Men of Color Healthy b Aware) is Soyboys Vegetarian Men's Group is a fun, social gather a group of gay/bi/same gender-loving men of color mg for gay and bi men who are interested in a healthy veg between 16 and 25 who want to engage in activities, etanan or vegan lifestyle. A vanety of activities and month socials and community events among their peers (Kourtm ly potlucks on the last Saturday (veggieguys@aol com) 503-417-7991 wwwbrotobropdxorg) Women of the Rivers, the Portland/Vancouver chapter of Pride Project brings together Washington County queer the Women on Wheels Motorcycle Chib, meets month and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social ly at Elmer's, sponsors riding clinics and takes day trips events Also information, referral and advocacy services (7:15 pm second Thursday 9848 N Whitaker Road www womenofthertvers org.) in Washington County (Austin 503 260-5792 austin @prideproject. org.) Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC) offers researchers to trace your family tree and tackle "bnckwair Adventure Group organizes a vanety of activities year collective leadership of lesbian women of color through YOUTH your bike or just come meet the group Everyone welcome female ancestors, (famhistnw@aol.com.) Happy Ours Productions is a grassroots group dedicated Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of Portland All es. (PO Box 5884, Portland. OR 97228 503-286 4613 or Physical Recreation to building the visibility, community participation and Thursday 3702 SE Hawthorne Blvd wwwsherocks.wet paint.com.) (10 am Sunday 1121 SWStark St. www.pdx-nmc.com.) support, recreation, counseling and referral to gay, lesbian, round, including hiking, walking, cross-country and down hill skiing, rafting and mountain biking. (PO Box 2201, Portland, OR 97208-2201 www adventuregroup org) bi and trans kids 23 and younger Drop-in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out Weekly trans, leadership and art support group meetings (4-9 pm Wednesday, 411 pm Friday 2100 SE Belmont St. 503-872-9664 wwwsmyrc org.) a wide variety of social, networking, consciousness- Amazon Dragons Paddling Club invites women 16 and raising and action-onented activities, events and projects. older to join Portland's only out lesbian dragon boat team (www. happyoursproductions com ) Be part of the fun and fitness with this dynamic group Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the oldest (wwwamatondragons org.) gay, lesbian, bi and trans social/fund-raismg organization Fits Bowling invites you to come join this fun, friendly, Queerzone identifies and meets the needs of queer homeless youth by providing advocacy, safety, support, resources, referral and a safe place for them to socialize and get the help they need (6-8 pm Monday, New Avenues for Youth, 812 SW 10th Ave. 6-8 pm Tuesday, in the state of Oregon. Meetings are the first two Mondays alternative league at AMF Pro 300 Lanes (7 pm Fnday Outside In, 1132 SW 13th Ave 4-11 pm Saturday, Sexual of each month, (wwwrosecourt.org.) 3031SE Powell Blvd 503-234-0237.) Minority Youth Resource Center, 2100 SE Belmont St.) Just Out is published on the fi rst ard th.rd Friday of (’verv month The deadline for submissions is 14 days As a true Southern girl, proper etiquette is always on my mind. 1 have been dating a won derful woman for the past two months, and we have progressed to the point in our relationship that discussions of the mutual joys of a strap-on have been addressed. I purchased a lovely leather harness and dil do at the end of my previous relationship, hop ing to liven things up. 1 have always been one to toss the toys with the girl, so the previous girl and the dildo are gone, but tn this case can 1 keep the barely broken-in, beautiful leather har ness? Please? Ms. Behavior BY MERYL COHN —Harmlessly Harnessed in G'town D ear H armlessly H arnessed in G’ town : Does your new girlfriend object to the old harness? If so, you might have to comply with her wishes and ditch the vestiges of your last relationship for the sake of a clear and holy sexual union. But if you can’t afford to replace the lovely item, you might argue that you each have the same bxxly and mouth and fingers that you had in prior relationships and have each managed to purify these with soap and toothpaste. Or, here’s another idea: When Jewish people who keep kosher make a mistake by mixing their meat utensils with their dairy utensils, they remedy the problem through a procedure called hagalah, which means purging. This is a complicated practice, requiring immersion of the compromised objects in a Kosher Mikveh (a holy pœl of water) especially made for utensils or in a natural ocean, lake or river. Once you pull the utensil out of the water, Voilà! It’s kosher. Perhaps the same principles could be applied to your harness, even if you’re not Jewish. (Of course, water isn’t good for leather, so perhaps you could put the harness in a waterproof bag before dunking it.) D ear M s . B ehavior : I’m a woman, and my boyfriend and 1 are both bi and progressive. We*are mostly monogamous, except that we realize two things: I don’t have a dick and he doesn’t have a pussy, so it’s OK for us to have sex with others of the same gender as long as we let the other know. Anyway, this chick on Craigslist responded to my ad for friends with benefits. We seemed to have a lot in common, and we were attracted to each other. She had nev er been with a woman and was curious. After chatting for an hour, she said she had to go. An hour later she sent me a message saying, “1 want you so bad, but I think you might be too young for me.” I’m 18, and she is only two years older than me. I thought that was weird. The next day we’re talking again and she’s homy and wants me to talk dirty. I did, and she really, really liked it. Then she mentions me being too young for her again. Then she says she wants to meet me. We go through the steps of arranging a time and a place, just to chat and make sure we weren’t pervy men. Then, she suddenly does a 180 and says I’m not experienced enough for her. What is that supposed to mean? She’s the one who had never been with a woman before, and yet I’m not experienced enough for her? Then she tells me to send her a message when 1 turn 21 and blocks me. My question is, what the hell was all that about? I even asked one of my lesbian friends, and she said it didn’t make any sense to her, either. Could you possibly trans late that into normal human communication? Was 1 being forward, or is she just crazy? —Thinking I Should Just Be Straight D ear T hinking I S hould J ust B e S traight You can’t really expect online conversation to be “normal human communica tion.” Your negative experience wasn’t specific to lesbian behavior, it was specific to the limitations of e-mail. The only thing that seems “crazy” is the expectation that you can know someone based on what they say to you online. There are many possible explanations for what happened. Your “chick” could have been, as you pointed out, a man. “She” could have been enticing you with promises of meeting in a nearby public place, while “she” was in fact jerking off in a dingy basement on another continent. She might have been 70, not 20. Perhaps she’s an inmate who’s allowed to use the computer for 60-minute increments. Maybe she’s a Martian. You can’t know someone you’ve met online—no matter how heartfelt their e-mails seem—until you meet face to face and witness their actual behavior, not just their emoticons. © expiation date listings are automatical:i'v deleted upon e.c ratiior To ensure uninterrupted hstirg please prior to publication submd updated information at least a m Oliti’ poor tn the expirrit on date Complete listings are available OutReach stings ' up to 50 words are provided Inet of charge to organizations and groups specd'cai'v ornine at , serving the sexual minorities ciimmunity Al! listings ane sub,ect to editing and ■•»ckiscn s sub ectto soace D ear M s . B ehavior : Bowling ground, to join Wednesday rehearsals No audition neces General Is it proper to use a harness from a prior relationship? men to stroll in vanous neighborhoods around Portland for Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who love advice and encouragement while having a good time. Call by a group discussion. (pdxgayfilm@yahoo com .) Leather Etiquette ustoirt con Se"d st ms to Just Out latto Calendar’1 P0 Box 14400 Pont ard OR 97293 0400 Fa., submissions to hmtfa’ucns ’t!pvd’’Cv r c ’tcf pt by d-adime 593 236 1257 cr e •’’.»i (.stout lisîihqs è>p'îe once a year 'T Jury! and Submission s run from the date 'ece ven u"fr re ■? >t scheduled Pease type your ,inr sur Cv-me-ts jrd nr .une *i.|i contact >nfom: i.stout 'O’ Sl.t’" ss.imSCM f,ot be accepted ove' the pnore MERYL C ohn is the author of Do What 1 Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette. Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to msbehavior@aol.com. _
