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SEPTEMBER 7, 2007 Foreign Film Group meets every second and fourth Sunday to screen foreign films at vanous venues, fol lowed by a group discussion (pdxgayfilm@yahoo com. I (503-226-2588 Portland Lesbian Choir, led by talented artistic director Ray Elliot, strives for musical excellence and making fun- ing men to stroll in vanous neighborhoods around Portland for fun, fnendship and exercise (10 am Saturday Tom 503-984 4549) Gay Women * Golf Group welcomes all levels of play ers. (www turfgirli com.) portlandlesbianchoir@hotmail com wwwplchoirorg.) Rose City Gay Freedom Band is a performance group for queers and supportive friends of varying musical skill levels with annual fall and spring concerts. Subgroups include the Rose City Swing band and a marching band with flag corps. Come join us! (503 790-2170 mfo@rcgfb.org wwwrcgfb.org.) Breast-feeding mother irks friend dykedadmUcomcast net www luluspervyplayhouse org.) Net Rippers is a gay men's indoor soccer team that's just starting up in Portland. (bendoverbeckham@ D ear M s . B ehavior : Men Over 40 is a small, socially supportive group that gmail.com. www myspace.com/netnppers I meets second and fourth Thursdays. (503-777-1376.) Night in Black Leather and The Leather Duck Club are the first and third Friday of each month at Gail's Dirty Out Dancing teaches dancing for same-sex couples at Ankeny Street Studio. Classes for different dance styles start the first Friday of each month: country, Duck Tavern. 19 pm-midmght 439 NW Third Ave 503-224-8446 orleatherfrat@yahoo com) swing, tango, cha-cha, etc Call for schedule (503-236-5129 out dancmg@yahoo com home aft Oregon Men Enjoying Naturism is a social organization for gay male natunsts/nudists Social gathering second Saturday of every month (omenpdx@omenpdx.org net/-outdancing) Our friends Beth and Beth just had a hahy. They are insistent that the new hahy not change their lives and so have continued with an active social life, which is great. (As you must know, a lot of lesbian moms disappear altogether when they hatch a baby.) The problem is that Beth breast-feeds in public without any care about who is around or where we are. We think it’s inappropriate and want to tell her that we are fine with her breast-feeding at our home or in discreet settings but not in the mall, in a restaurant or at my father’s 70th birthday party, for instance. I’m not rhe only one in our group of friends who BY MERYL COHN thinks so, hut I'm being pressured into being rhe one to ask Beth to keep the boobs in the bra. Are we being narrow-minded? —Breast Patrol OutKayaking, Portland's gay and lesbian sea kayak group, explores the lakes, rivers and bays of north west Oregon and southwest Washington, (www out www omenpdx org.) Satori Men’s Chorus welcomes new members of all kayaking org.) PDX FTM is a social group for female-to-male trans men and their significant others, friends, families and allies (groups yahoo com/group/PDX FTM.) ages and races, regardless of sexual onentation or musi cal background, to join Wednesday rehearsals. No audi tion necessary. (503-299-4454. www satorichorus org i PDX Pride Bowling League is recruiting for fun games Fnday nights September through April (mfo@pdxpride bowl com.) The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at Hobo's. Come play cards and meet the gang. New players General always welcome. (6 pm 503-641-7224.) Asian fr Pacific Islander Lesbians and Gays is a non profit community voice for gay, lesbian and bi Asian and Portland Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community voice group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people that reaches al outings and cultural events. Fnendly environment to out to Latinos and Latinas by organizing events and retreats and advocating HIV prevention. Meets every other Monday at Outside In. (6:30 pm 1030 SW 13th Ave Hugo 503-997-8615 orAudencio 503-261-5463) Bad Giris is a social and educational leather and b Gay Lesbian Community Bowling Association is in its 28th season! Meets Sundays at Hollywood Bowl Drop-ins welcome anytime (3 30 pm 4030 NE Halsey St. Mailing address PO Box 42034, Portland, OP 97242 503-722 0438 pdxbowl@com 120 NW Third Ave Mike Pacific Islanders. Activities include potlucks, recreation meet and connect with other API. (PO Box 12661, Portland. OP 97232 aplg jtdx@yahoo.com.) cast net www pdxbowl.com.) Portland Gay Basketball Association practices at Tubman Middle School. All skill levels welcome! (7:30-9:30 pm Monday 2231 N Flint Ave pdxgay Portland Leather Alliance is one of the largest pan sexual, nonprofit B/D/S/M, leather and fetish lifestyle events and parties. Women of all orientations can organizations in the Northwest. Regular social and marathoner, Portland Frontrunners welcomes gay, connect and ask questions dunng the Kinky Women's Welcoming Munch at 7 pm every second Tuesday educational opportunities, including KinkFest, Leather Ball and Fall Vendors Fair, (wwwpdxleatheralhance.org ) lesbian, bi and trans people of all abilities and interests. (Gary mfo@portlandfrontrunners.org. www Portland (503-972-2233 wwwpdxbadgirls net.) Portland Leather Men meet every second Saturday for Border Riders Motorcycle Club provides social oppor tumties for gay men interested in recreational motorcy potluck and socializing. Meet men into a leather lifestyle and keep abreast of leather happenings. No dues, no formal organization, no officers or board, just leather socialization for the past 21 years. (360-896-6665 machinery. (503-281-4488 brmcprei@yahoo.com ) Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators, both area. (503-701-7922. Whether you're a running novice or a seasoned frontrunners org) Join the Rose City Softball Association, Oregon's largest gay sports organization, for open and women's divisions of slow-pitch softball Regular season games are played throughout the summer at Gordon Faber Recreational Complex in Hillsboro All levels of expert pirn @direcway. com.) ence are welcome. (4450 www rosecitysoftbalf org.) Portland Lesbian Book Club gathers monthly to chat pnvate and professional, in Washington, Oregon and southern Bntish Columbia. Dinner meetings in Portland about a chosen book or to attend selected events (6:30 pm third Tuesday, groups yahoo com/group/port casflyers@yahoo.com. www. geocities, com/casflyers. ) landlesbianbookclub.) A Common Bond is a social support network for former Portland Lesbian Network organizes brewpub visits, golf events, hiking, kayaking, cycling, Scrabble games or questioning Jehovah's Witnesses who are queer. (acbportland@webtv net) Coqsure is a social group for people who were assigned a female sex at birth but identify otherwise (female-to 229th Ave Rosetown Ramblers. Portland's gay and lesbian square townramblers.com.) and movie nights and keeps you aware of what's going on in the area. (PDXLesbianNetwork-subscribe@ Ruby Red Flippers, a group of gay and lesbian scuba divers in the Portland area, teaches new recruits and yahoogroups com.) takes dives in Tacoma, Hood Canal and other Pacific Northwest waters (rubyredfhppers@yahoo.com www rubyredflippers. org.) mature gay men and those who appreciate them, coming together for social, educational and cultural purposes. (PO Box 5884, Portland, OP 97228 503-286-4613 or tion. (503-471-1515. groups.yahoo.com/group/coqsure.) NW dance club, dances at mainstream and plus levels (PO Box 5352. Portland. OP 97228-5352 www rose Portland Metro Prime Timers is a social group for male, genderqueer, drag king, etc ). First Sunday meet ings are open to partners and families of any configura She Rocks, a supportive rock climbing group for lesbians 18 and older, organizes year-round climbing and Dungeon Men PDX hosts a men's S/M party every other month in a Portland dungeon. Masters and novices always 360-693-5506. pdxpnmetimers@yahoo.com. www geo welcome. (503-281 2076 bighnboy@aracnet.com.) cities com/pdxprimetimers) training events chosen according to skid level. Monthly meetings are held at Bagdad Pub. (6:30-7:30 pm second Thursday. 3702 SE Hawthorne Blvd www sherocks F.A.G. PDX (Femme Affinity Group Portland), a radical Rainriders Motorcycle Club meets weekly at the Roxy Ride your bike or just come meet the group. Everyone wetpaint.com.) activist and social group open to self-identified femmes of all genders, seeks to create solidarity among femmes, promote femme visibility and combat femmephobia in welcome. (10 am Sunday 1121 SW Stark St Rose City Discussion Club the largest open pansexuaV 50+ lesbian social group for women meets on the third Saturday of the month. (4-7 pm. 503-642-3360 or alternative sexuality club in the Northwest, is open to all orientations, fetishes and lifestyles that are safe, sane 503-288-1870 sutaytig@aol.com.) and consensual. Monthly meetings, workshops and newsletter. (503-972-1869 rcdc@teleport.com. Sappho Social Club is a group of women 40 years and older building community through social and cultural activities. (thesapphosocialclub @yahoo. com.) Jefferson St 503-701-9376.) i porting young people with sexual minority parents (colage@lmfamily org www colage org) Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of every meeting people and doing activities other than bar school community is valued and respected, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression. (12700 SW North Dakota St.. Suite 180 4129, Tigard, OP 97223. 503-525-1177. glsen@glsenoregon org Soyboys Vegetarian Men * Group is a fun, social gathering for gay and bi men who are interested in and socializing. The death need not have occurred recently. (7:30 pm second Wednesday 1201 SW Happy Our* Productions is a grassroots group dedicat YOUTH \ Social OUTings is a social group for all interested in hopping. (kyleinportland@yahoo.com.) Gay Men Who Have Lost Their Partners meets at the West Cafe to provide an opportunity for conversation a healthy vegetarian or vegan lifestyle A variety of activities and monthly potlucks on the last Saturday (veggieguys@aol.com) ,__ wwwglsenoregon org.) Women of the Rivers, the Portiand/Vancouver chapter of between 16 and 25 who want to engage in activities, socials and community events among their peers. (Kourtm 503-417-7991 wwwbrotobropdx org.) the Women on Wheels Motorcycle Club, meets monthly at Elmer's, sponsors riding clinics and takes day tops. (7:15 pm second Thursday 9848 N Whitaker Road, www.womenoftherivers org) House of MOCHA (Men of Color Healthy b Aware) is a group of gay/bi/same-gender-loving men of color raising and action-onented activities, events and projects (www.happyoursproductions com.) Physical Recreation Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the oldest younger and for those HIV-positive and younger than 23. Need volunteers of all ages. (10 am-6 pm Monday- Adventure Group organizes a vanety of activities year gay, lesbian, bi and trans social/fund raising organization in the state of Oregon. Meetings are the first two round, including hiking walking, cross-country and down hill skiing, rafting and mountain biking. (P0 Box 2201, Portland, OP 97208-2201. www.adventuregroup org.) Friday 1132 SW 13th Ave. 503-535-3800 www out sidein.org.) • Jewish Gay Men * Group- please call for meeting Pride Project brings together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events. Also information, referral and advocacy servic time and place. (503-246-5939 efraimlevi@aolcom.) Amazon Dragons Paddling Club invites women 16 and older to join Portland's only out lesbian dragon boat es in Washington County. (Austin 503-260-5792 Keshet is a social connection group for queer Jews and team. Be part of the fun and fitness with this dynamic austin@pndepro/ect org. I their spouses, partners, significant others and good friends, whether Jewish or not. It meets monthly for potluck dinners and special events. (David 503-226-7079, ext 14. or Mike 503-331-1111) Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who love gardens and gardening. They exchange plants, seeds, advice and encouragement while having a good time. group, (wwwamatondragons org.) The Forest Group outings are cooperative adventures for women. Participants are responsible for providing their own equipment and choosing outings appropriate for their skill and fitness level. All skill levels welcome. (503-772-1860 imnoregon@comcast net www geo cities, com/ncc 1127/forestpdx) Just Out is published on the first and third Friday of every month. The deadline for submissions is 14 days prior to publication OutReach listings of up to 50 words are provided free of charge to organizations and groups specifically serving the sexual minorities community All listings are subject to editing, and inclusion is subject to space limitations, relevance and receipt by deadline Listings expire once a year (in July), and submissions run from the date received until the next scheduled expiration date Listings are automatically deleted upon 1 set up our terminally single friend Jill on a date with my partner Andrea’s office manager, Stephanie. Jill came hack from the dinner saying there was “chemistry” and “hope for a long-term relationship." However, Stephanie came back singing a different tune about <xld behavior, inappropriate innuendo and general creepiness. Stephanie said she’d never go out with Jill again. Luckily, Stephanie has a good sense of humor and the bad date didn’t sour her toward Andrea at work. We do know that Jill sometimes overstates her opinions and has inappro priate boundaries and a nerdy sense of humor, especially when drinking. Should we tell her about Stephanie’s assessment of the evening? We think it might bring her back into the realm of reality. We also think it could help her act a little more normally on future dates. What do you think? —Matchmakers Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't qual ify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle exchange services that include those who inject hor mones Provide transitional housing for youth 20 and a wide vanety of social, networking, consciousness Mondays of each month, (www.rosecourt org.) Breast-feeding is how all mammalian mothers sustain their babies; it’s not a dirty, shameful act that nursing mothers should hide at home or in a dark stairwell. If all women felt free to whip out their h<x>ters at Starbucks and the bank, you would cease to feel fear and discomfort at the sight of a mother feeding her young. Perhaps you are unconsciously aroused by breast-feeding. Don’t be ashamed; you were raised in a society that has eroticized breasts to the point where they seem separate from their nonsexual function. Maybe your own mother pulled her nipple away from your hungry mouth too SLXin. But please don’t take it out on Beth and Beth’s baby. Instead of trying to embarrass Beth out of feeding her child, work on becoming more comfortable so that you can tolerate it. Desensitization might he the best way: Start by Googling “breast-feeding photos.” In the beginning, you might only endure 30 seconds of kx>king at photographs of infants sucking on engorged breasts. You’ll soon work your way up to longer viewings until you ultimately are no longer disturbed by the pictures. By then you’ll be ready to tolerate live feedings: Ask one Beth to hold you while the other one clamps the baby to her lxx)b. Once you’re healed of your problem, Ms. Behavior hopes you will scxjthe others who are similarly frightened and train them to embrace a woman’s right to feed her baby any where and everywhere. D ear M s . B ehavior : is the only international organization specifically sup older as well as their friends and loved ones, holds potlucks on the second Saturday of each month. (flataps@yahoo.com.) ed to building the visibility, community participation and collective leadership of lesbian women of color through teamportlandtennis @yahoo. com.) Children of Lesbian* and Gays Everywhere (COLAGE) www.rcdc.org) Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35 and wall" female ancestors. (famhistnw@aolcom.) Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of Portland D ear B reast P atrol : All levels of play welcome. First time is free, subsequent times are $7. Please join us! (8 am noon 503-788-8192. the community at large, (wwwnotsorryorg/fagpdx.) Genealogy group forming Gather with other lesbian researchers to trace your family tree and tackle "brick- i wwwpdx-rrmc.com.) FTM Pacific NW OR b WA is a social and discussion group for female-to-male trans men. (groups yahoo.com/ group/FTM PacificNW.) Ms. Behavior hoops@yahoocom.) B/D/S/M club for self-identified women with an empha sis on safety and education. Workshops, discussions, cle touring and promotes education on safe and legal Don't Cry Over Spilled Milk Lesbian Equestrian Group gets together for equestrian activities in the Pacific Northwest (Denise 503654-3865 Lynn 503 7772339 kelrav@rdrop com ) Luki s Pervy Playhouse is a social group for self identifying women who are into S/M. Play parties are held on the second Saturday of the month. (503-231-3992 filled harmonies and is open and welcoming to all women Nonaudition rehearsals for the 2007 2008 sea son begin Sept. 19 at Ainsworth United Church of Chnst. Solo and small-group opportunities abound (6:30 8:30 pm Wednesday 2941 NE Ainsworth St 503-727-3306 Gay Men s Walking Group invites gay, bi and question Lesbians with Degree* is a social group that was start ed lor degreed women, but no degree is necessary Just come and join the fun! Pool parties, Scrabble and more. (Lam 503-233-3557 Jom listserv at LesbianswOegrees subscribe@yahoogroups com.) Portland Gay Men s Chorus is open to singers, support members and volunteers www pdxgmc org) Call for a copy of the newsletter and mformabon about upcoming events (Linda 503-909-2002.) JUStOUt33 Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC) offers support, recreation, counseling and referral to gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Drop-in com puter access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out. Weekly trans, leadership and art support group meetings. (4-9 pm Wednesday, 4-11 pm Friday. 2100 SE Belmont St. 503-872-9664 www.smyrc.org.) expiration To ensure uninterrupted listing, please submit updated information at least a month prior to the expiration date Complete listings are available online at www.justout.com Send listings to: Just Out lattn Calendar), PO Box 14400, Portland, OR 97293 0400, Fax submissions to 503 236 1257 or e-mail |ustout < justout com Submissions cannot be accepted over the phone Please type your announcements and include full contact information D ear M atchmakers : The real question is, why would you have expected normal behavior from someone who has “a nerdy sense of humor and inappropriate boundaries”? If Jill knew how to behave “normally,” she probably would have done so. Unless you’re in the mixxl to humiliate her, there’s no point in mentioning the failed fix-up. Telling her how dates perceive her will only make her feel self-conscious. It never helps to say, “You’re a freak,” because the freak, by definition, can’t see herself clearly. (If she could, she wouldn’t be so freakish.) It might be useful, however, to specify very concretely which of her behaviors were off- putting—e.g., “Jill, normal physical boundaries with a new acquaintance allow for at least two feet in every direction, so please keep your hands in your pxKket and your tongue irt your mouth unless you’re invited closer.” Keep in mind that you might completely avoid the problem of feeling responsible for Jill if you refrain from being her matchmaker, mommy and coach. © M f .RYL C ohn is the author of I\> What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette. Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to msbchavior@aol.com.
